Update: My grandmother got ahold of me this afternoon to let me know that there is a lot more to this story. My "Auntie" is from the US. She's not from a foreign country, with a foreign culture. It's a lie she made up in college to seem more interesting. My mom has been in on the lie from day one. Even my dad didn't know that my Auntie was actually the same girl who grew up a few doors aita asian dating reddit from my Black motorcycle dating. Now, this is a big problem, because my Auntie runs a "minority owned" business and that's where my Mom is employed. So now this is in legal territory. As for Sonny. I really don't know what he believes, aita asian dating reddit, but Aita asian dating reddit suspect that his Mom cooked up our relationship, and was hoping that after my divorce, I'd make her 'betrothed from birth' declaration play out, which would of course, reinforce her fake persona.

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My mother’s long-time best friend has been my ‘aunt’ for as long as I can remember. When I was 16, she moved near us and her son started attending my school. From day one, he seemed to think he was dating me. My aunt and my mother both pressed on about how sweet it would be if we were ‘victorious childhood friends.’ When we didn’t date in high school and I went to college, this chatter went away.

The truth is, I barely know this guy, aita asian dating reddit. We played together on beach vacations as little kids because we were the only kids in a group of buzzed adults, aita asian dating reddit. He wasn’t even a great playmate. As we got older, it was more and more apparent to at least me that he had free chat dating apps sort of issue. My own theory, albeit, this is an armchair theory, is that he’s autistic and hasn’t gotten any therapy or treatment to help him navigate the world.

Anyway, my Mom had a barbeque a few weekends ago, and I came with my boyfriend. My ‘aunt’ came with her son. After my boyfriend and I sat down, my aunt came over and asked who my friend was. I explained he was my new boyfriend. She sighed and asked how I could do this to her son. My response was along the lines of “what?” She launched into how she understood we were on a break, aita asian dating reddit showing up at a party with my ‘revenge guy’ was a low blow, especially since everyone knew we’d get back aita asian dating reddit, it wasn’t fair to my ‘flavor of the month’ to pretend like I was available, aita asian dating reddit, and she knew how hung aita asian dating reddit I was on her son. I know this sounds insane the way I put it, but she seemed so genuine that it was very convincing. My boyfriend was visibly shocked.

I had no idea where this came from, so I said “Auntie, Sonny and I have never dated. I took him to one casual dance as a kindness. I don’t know what he’s told you about our relationship, aita asian dating reddit, but the reality is we say hi on Facebook sometimes.” She accused me of saving face in front of my boyfriend, he left, aita asian dating reddit, and I freaked out. I told her, very loudly, that this is psycho, that I am not, and never have dated her son, and that he’s really, truly, utterly undateable. I don’t know a single girl who would date this boy. She had just assumed that I’d go along with this crazy narrative that would somehow insulate her from dealing with that reality, but Aita asian dating reddit wasn’t going to. Then I left, and was lucky enough to catch my boyfriend before he left so I had a ride home.

She and my mother sent me emails explaining that she was humiliated in front of her long-time friends. That I had no business saying that what are the red flags in online dating public to her. I can see now that it would have been better to pull her into the kitchen or the house and explain this to her, since I now think it’s possible her son was feeding her lines and she was really shocked, and I did say some hard things. But in that case, didn’t she owe me a trip to the kitchen to call me out on my “infidelity?”

TL:DR; My aunt accused me of cheating on her son who I aita asian dating reddit dated. I called her a psycho.

Edit: Some people have said that I was screaming that my aunt's son was undateble. I did not scream, and in fact, several people at the party didn't even know there was a commotion. While I was loud, we were also close to a table full of the sorority sisters that make up my Mom and Aunt's friend group. Also, he really is undateable. I've tried to help him setup profiles and have even tried to set him up on a date with a few of my friends who I think might really get along with him, but it's been a disaster.

A woman kept a secret from her boyfriend for two years. Now, it’s coming back to bite her.

She shared the issue on Reddit’s “Am I the A******?” forum. The Reddit poster waited to tell her boyfriend that her family was wealthy until they were ready to move in together. Her boyfriend couldn’t believe he lied to her about being privileged when she watched him struggle financially. 

“My parents raised me to not flaunt our wealth,” she explained. “They worked really hard for it, and they taught us to be very careful with it. I live in a house my parents own, but I pretend I am renting it. Aita asian dating reddit boyfriend and I have been dating for two years.

“We are finally ready to move in together. I told him that my parents actually owned the house, and he wouldn’t have to pay any rent. I thought he would be happy, but he got all quiet and then said it was bull that I hid this from him.”

Her boyfriend was hurt by her deception and the fact online dating simple programmer she could have helped him when he was unemployed. 

“He asked me how I had watched him struggle through the six months where he didn’t have a job, when I could have helped him out,” she wrote. “He said he had been going through his budget so that he could make the move work. He said he didn’t really need any help, but just knowing he could have moved in without being a burden for me would have helped his nerves.

“He also said he felt I was testing him by not telling him earlier and lying about the amount of rent I paid. I feel guilty. I wanted to help him, but I just didn’t want to tell him that my parents are wealthy. It makes things weird. We have such natural chemistry that I didn’t want to ruin it, and I never even noticed that he was struggling.”

Redditors thought the poster was in the wrong. 

“There’s a time when a relationship becomes serious enough that you need to be honest and share this kind of secret, which you’re not comfortable telling others,” a user wrote. 

“You’ve broken his trust, failed to understand his struggles and kept up a series of lies for no reason,” another said. 

“You can’t have a real relationship when one person lies,” someone commented. 

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Don’t mess with chefs. Not only because they are in direct contact with your food and you are effectively risking ingesting something that they may or may not meddle with, but also because they have a pointy kitchen utensil in their hand.

But no, this isn’t about that—no food poisoning or kitchen cutlery were used in the making of this story. This is a story that started with a question of am I wrong for calling my sister in law a racist after she compared my cooking to “making kung pao chicken”? and it ended in a literal family feud.

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You don’t mess with the cook. You just don’t. Or else you end up in a family feud

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Reddit user u/throwaway23235982353 recently went to r/AmITheA-hole to ask if he was wrong to call his sister-in-law a racist after she compared his cooking to making kung pao chicken. In context, it sounds much worse, so let’s break it down.

Throwaway is a professional chef and was preparing food for the family. Now, his wife’s sister was also a chef, aita asian dating reddit, and a bit of a braggart who’d often criticize him when it comes to food.

No matter what he did, he’d always hear some iteration of “you should actually do X like this…” or other forms of relentless critique. He tried to be patient for the greater good, but patience wore thin one day.

This Reddit user ended up starting a literal war in his family for not putting up with his sister-in-law’s bullpies

Image credits: u/throwaway23235982353

He was getting some food done, and at one point the sister-in-law spouted out yet another one of her comments, effectively saying he was doing it wrong. Not wanting to take it anymore, he asked her to stop criticizing aita asian dating reddit cooking—he’s a chef, aita asian dating reddit, after all—to which she replied “making Kung Pao chicken at some Chinese restaurant doesn’t count.”

Following a short dead silence and a very brief “what’s wrong with you” exchange, Throwaway left. This also sparked a huge fight between multiple family members, with the extended family somehow finding out about this.

Image credits: u/throwaway23235982353

Despite all of this, Throwaway’s wife begged him to apologize, seemingly for the greater good, but he refused and that’s where his question arose: was he wrong here?

Image credits: u/throwaway23235982353

Well, it gets better. The Reddit user provided some updates on what happened later as it was happening. His sister-in-law got into trouble at work and blamed Throwaway for it. Why? A coworker heard her rant about this incident and aita asian dating reddit it to management.

Oh wait, there’s more, aita asian dating reddit. Wife’s cousin found this Reddit post and shared it on the sister-in-law’s Facebook wall, asking if this was her and many of her friends starting to shame her.

OH WAIT, there’s more! At this point, Throwaway was considering that this aita asian dating reddit have gotten a bit out of hand, and now was the time to maybe remove the post. Well, the father-in-law butted in, pouring more gas into the fire that is this family feud, in response to which the Reddit user decided to keep the post up.

Ahh, AITA, aita asian dating reddit. It’s a beautiful, stunning, gorgeous space where people share real (and sometimes fake) anecdotes on Reddit, asking perfect strangers whether they are or are not the dingus in a situation.

Am I The Asshole became it during lockdown, when very little else was going on, so it’s only fair that we pull together ten of the most cursed entries we’ve ever seen. Consider it a love letter to AITA, something you can turn to when you want to feel something, anything (secondhand rage).

10. This Person Who Deleted Their Friend’s University Offer So They Could Study Together

The AUDACITY of this fkn guy.

So – your friend receives their dream offer to study in another country. You received a dream offer to study in a different foreign country. Your parents won’t let you go unless you both study in the same country. What is a normal thing to do here?

• A: Study somewhere else
• B: Chat to your parents about boundaries and safety
• C: Do nothing. Nothing works!
• D: RIP UP YOUR FRIEND’S ACCEPTANCE LETTER.

Guess which option this fucking guy picked.

Pics courtesy of the @AITA_reddit Twitter account:

9, aita asian dating reddit. The “Body Count” Board

There is something deeply revolting about keeping used condoms as trophies and pinning them up on a board for your aita asian dating reddit and guests to see. Oh, and then calling it your “body count”. But that’s exactly what OP’s roommate did.

I don’t know if this makes things any better, but the condoms are washed, aita asian dating reddit, cleaned, and dried before pinned to the board.

Right, so, OP had a guest come over one night, who he was super excited about because he was keen aita asian dating reddit her. Not wanting to freak her out, he took down the board… only for his roommate to restore it later that night.

The girl saw it, she freaked, she left.

OP was mad, smashed the board into tiny pieces, and threw it into the dumpster.

While I don’t agree with destroying a roommate’s property, I think any decent person would make an exception for something as disgusting, ridiculous, and dumb as this.

Not-the-asshole.

Pics courtesy of the @AITA_reddit Twitter account:

I really cannot express how much it sucks to call something that already sucks a “body count” board. Far out.

8. This Guy Who Would Refuse To Bow To His Fiancée’s Grandparents

The first (of many) red flags is in the first line, when OP writes: “My fiancée is Korean-American, and I’m American.” For this reason, I am going to assume he is as white as rice.

Let us begin.

OP is planning a trip to Korea to meet his partner’s grandparents, who he aita asian dating reddit yet to meet. OP’s partner has asked him to bow to her grandparents, “since respecting the elders is a big deal in Korean culture.”

“Not just like a casual dip, like a full on 90 degree bow. I said I’d rather not since I found it emasculating and that I just don’t bow to anyone.”

So many red flags, so many. 

While OP’s partner said it is important to her culture that he bows to her grandparents, OP disagreed because [checks notes] she did not bow to his grandparents.

“I just think it’s hypocritical to aita asian dating reddit me to bow aita asian dating reddit her grandparents when she didn’t bow to mine,” he wrote.

1. If OP is indeed white, why would his partner bow to his grandparents? Bowing hasn’t been a greeting in western culture for a very, very long time. What a dumb argument.
2. You’d think respecting your partner’s culture takes precedence over what is “manly” or not.
3. As one response perfectly noted: “You’re not defending your dignity, you’re broadcasting your ignorance.”

What an asshole.

AITA for refusing to bow to my Korean fiancee’s grandparents? from AmItheAsshole

I remember exactly where I was when I first read this AITA, because I messaged about three different people in rage.

7. The Terrible Boyfriend With The Terrible Family

“I (25M) have a girlfriend (23F) aita asian dating reddit is absolutely beautiful, but she does have a large facial scar,” OP wrote to kick things off.

His family often jokes about his girlfriend’s facial scar, because they “have a super dark sense of humour”, aita asian dating reddit. This bothers OP’s girlfriend, who doesn’t think the ‘jokes’ are funny. Fair enough! But instead of understanding where his girlfriend is coming from, he sides with his family and their humour.

It’s just a joke – that sort of thing.

OP’s girlfriend doesn’t want to spend much time with his family, because of the way they are. But she agrees to see them for Christmas, as long as OP stands up for her if the aita asian dating reddit try anything.

While Christmas was fine at first, OP’s mum and sister later appeared wearing “matching ugly sweaters, that had my girlfriend’s face over it”.

What. The. Fuck? 

OP’s girlfriend looked at him, waited, but when he did nothing she just got up and left. OP accused her of ruining the day with her reaction and is wondering why his girlfriend isn’t talking to him.

Tough one!!

AITA for not thinking the joke my family played on my GF was a big deal? from AmItheAsshole

6. AITA For Making My Parents Redundant? BRO.

This is an interesting one, because legally, I don’t think OP is an asshole. He was doing his job. Morally, however, he is absolutely – absolutely – an asshole for not only costing his parents their jobs, but not feeling bad about it either.

Essentially: this guy is a consultant who tells companies which employees they can get rid of, in the name of synergies and bottom lines and big fat fucking bonuses (bad). His latest job involved several companies, one of which his parents worked at. By doing his job very well like a good little snivelling weasel, he made his parents redundant. Now his parents are upset.

The kicker? The really asshole bit of this? “I’m not sorry for what I did,” he said in his post. “The job was an enjoyable, challenging experience and we ended up with a happy client!”

Straight to the guillotine, my son. Chop aita asian dating reddit courtesy of the @Redditships Twitter account.

5. This Bloke Whose AITA Turned Into A Full-blown Relationship Eye-opener

The long and short of this one, because you really should just read it and the update in full, begins with a man asking if he is the asshole for making his girlfriend cook all the time.

OP’s girlfriend is a very talented cook, so he sort of just came to the conclusion that it would be better for his girlfriend to cook all the time, instead of eating out. He didn’t think this was a money issue, aita asian dating reddit, he just preferred his girlfriend’s cooking.

What could go wrong? Well.

AITA for very rarely/almost never wanting to go to restaurants because my girlfriend makes food that’s just as good, if not better, than restaurant food? from AmItheAsshole

4. #PeeGate

Oh god. This one is so, so bad. It started off terribly and got worse. Pretty much the entire family is now not speaking to each other and/or in therapy.

Basically: this woman asked if she should stand her ground by not letting her brother-in-law stay with her, because last time he stayed he peed all over her stuff (she only found out because she installed a secret camera). The obvious answer is ‘no’. However, some of Reddit’s answers inspired the woman’s husband to go chat to his brother, but when he arrived at the empty house, he found there was pee EVERYWHERE. Also: copious amounts of jizz.

It got…. worse. I don’t even want to repeat it all here, but a cat and an underage girl were involved. As of the latest update, the brother-in-law is in a psychiatric hospital.

There are like six parts to this story, you can go read them HERE.

3. The Boyfriend Who Deleted His Girlfriend’s Instagram Because He’s A Big Baby

In this one, a 27-year-old man exposed himself as a horrible, horrible person when he permanently nuked his girlfriend’s Instagram account because he thought she was spending too much time on it.

Again, this bloke was jealous that his girlfriend of five years would “rather spend time attention-seeking from her 5000+ followers than spend some quality time with me.”

Bro.

I think what really gets me about this particular entry is that the boyfriend claimed he has no social media and likes to keep his personal life to himself… and then proceeded to post all about his personal life on Reddit.

Pics courtesy of the @AITA_reddit Twitter account:

Oh, aita asian dating reddit, and based on his responses to comments, aita asian dating reddit, he’s an even bigger asshole than his original post suggested.

2. The Other Boyfriend Who SECRETLY GAVE AWAY HIS GIRLFRIEND’S CAT

For me at least, I wasn’t fully convinced this man was 100 per cent the asshole in this situation until the very last paragraph.

The story goes that OP and his girlfriend have been in a relationship since they were 13 and moved in together when they turned 18. They’re 20 now, and for two years OP has been living with his girlfriend’s cat, that he is allergic to. He also hates cats.

When OP moved in with his girlfriend, he thought she would leave the cat with her parents. But aita asian dating reddit didn’t, because she really, really loves the cat. OP, however, described this love as an “unhealthy obsession”. Hmm.

So OP laid down some ground rules, like no cat on bed, furniture, or in his office. But apparently, he still found cat hair everywhere, so he assumed his girlfriend was just letting the cat… be a cat.

Fast forward to lockdown when OP is working from home and found the cat sitting in his office.

“I’ve asked time and time again for her cat to stay out of my space and I feel like she deliberately disrespects my wishes,” OP wrote.

At this point, I thought everybody in this situation was being the asshole, including the cat, but cats can’t help being cheeky shits. I’d talk it out, maybe? Have a sit-down, serious conversation.

But what did OP do?

“I found a walk-in surrender shelter today and dropped the cat off.”

I just –

Pics courtesy of the @AITA_reddit Twitter account:

What a fucking lemon.

1. I Don’t Even Know How To Explain This One

This is… this is a journey that you should just read.

AITA for calling out my kids’ future stepmom for treating me like a surrogate? from AmItheAsshole

I really hope OP and her babies are safe and well, and far away from Joe and Kim. I don’t know what else to say – this was so disturbing to read and the one AITA post I often think about because of aita asian dating reddit unbelievably cursed it is.