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Is it really true that a good (black) man is hard to find? This week, we're taking on some long-lasting stereotypes about black-on-black love.

Natalie asks:

I am an attractive, social young black woman from Austin and I can't seem to land a black man. I support and participate in interracial friendships and romances (so much so that strangers frequently comment on the college-brochure-cover level of diversity going on in my circle), but I have always desired and expected black love like my parents, grandparents and great-grandparents had. I would not say I am waiting for a black man, but the older I get, the more weddings I attend where my brothers or cousins marry a white woman, the seemingly intentional lack of eye contact I receive while black men sidle up to my non-black friends in the club, the more I feel it will never happen for me. I wanted my baby heir with baby hair and afros...Jackson 5 nostrils, etc. What are your thoughts on this phenomenon and what can a black woman do to protect herself from feelings of rejection?

Ah, the perpetual question.

Natalie, this is a conversation I've had with friends, family members, coworkers — even a professor I had in college. And it's never easy. Because to answer your question, we have to unpack some truths, some myths and some painful realities.

So first, the truths. Dating is hard for lots of people, but for black women in the United States, it can be uniquely horrible. For one thing, we're often expected to conform to white beauty standards. For another, we're up against a hold parade of racist stereotypes: that we're angry, overbearing, lazy, prudish and hyper-sexual and emasculating all at once. Oh, and we can't take a joke.

Those stereotypes and expectations do two things. First, they limit the pool of people who are interested in dating black women. And second, they often create situations where we, as black women, try super hard not to fit into those categories. So rather than relaxing and trying to have fun with potential dates, we're caught up in the impossible game of trying to seem fun and ambitious and feminine and flirty...but not too flirty.

And to help us out, we're told to listen to relationship advice, as Demetria Lucas D'Oyley puts it, that comes from experts with "screwed-up views" about sex and gender, who tell women "how to be better women [so that they can] land a man."

Almost makes you want to not date, huh?

On top of all that, black women have to contend with some deep stereotypes about black men. LaDawn Black, an author and relationship expert, says that all women get the message that it's hard to find a good match. But she says black women who want to date black men "really get the message that he's not out there."

Some myths about black men, according to LaDawn Black: "He's not going to college. He's not interested in you because he's interested in dating women of other ethnicities. ... Or, he's just not available to you because maybe he's in jail, or just not healthy, or addicted."

Black says, "We get those messages all the time. And what has happened is that we as black women have started to internalize it, even though we look around and see that our girlfriends are getting married, even though we ... see happy families, we see people growing and thriving."

So let's take a look at some numbers. According to a 2015 Pew Research study, 75 percent of recently married black men were married to black women. In other words, black men who marry black women are the norm. And — contrary to popular belief — that percentage was even higher for college educated black men and those who earned more than $100,000 per year, according to some Howard University researchers who delved deeper into the statistics.

Nonetheless, people tend to notice interracial couples more than they notice same-race couples. So Natalie, when you walk into the club, your eyes probably zoom in on the black dude downing white wine spritzers with his Latina date. But the idea that all black men are passing up black women for everyone else is overstated, to say the least.

There's another stereotype about black men that's worth unpacking. Many people cite OKCupid findings from 2014 to underscore the idea that black women and Asian men have the worst outcomes among straight couples on dating sites. What they don't always add is that black men also face a "racial penalty" for being black. We've all heard the myth that black men have their pick of the pack when it comes to dating. But in fact, they're up against a whole host of setbacks of their own.

Of course, looking at those numbers doesn't tell the full story. Black men are still significantly more likely to marry someone of a different race than black women. (That 2015 Pew study found that 88 percent of black women were married to black men.)

Now, knowing all this data doesn't mean that next time you go out, the black man of your dreams is magically going to start chatting you up. So what do you do? LaDawn Black says that intentionality is your friend. So many people are hung up on the idea of a meet-cute — but she that's just not how love tends to go down anymore. It's something that people have to plan for, whether that means using a dating app, website, or putting the word out to friends and family members.

And Black has one last piece of advice for the lovelorn. "The big challenge I think that we as black women face is that we're ... socialized early on that you look for a good black man. Where black men or black boys are socialized to just look for a good woman. So if you're getting that message from birth, you're really looking for that. And he exists, he's out there, he's available to you. But what if he's a good Asian man? What if he's a good white man? What if he's a good Puerto Rican man? You're limiting your potential by not opening up yourself to dating someone who's different."

She adds, "As black women, we have to define love for ourselves. Don't be afraid to have non-traditional relationships. Don't be afraid to have a relationship that's different from your parents, that's different from your girlfriends. That's different from what TV and movies tell you your relationship should look like. You really have to get the love that fits you. Not the love that you've been sold may fit."

There you have it.

Good luck, Natalie. And happy Valentine's Day.

Do you have thoughts about black-on-black love? We want to hear from you! Email us at CodeSwitch@npr.org. Have a racial conundrum of your own? Fill out this form and tell us the deets.

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White women range from those so intrigued by black men that it veers into app to those so racist to date black men that it feels more racist than preference-driven. These are generalizations, of course, but they are attitudes that I've personally encountered. Most people have it wrong. I'm not a "black man" who "dates white women. I have my racist unique experiences and some of them include having dated women who are white, but because interracial dating is such a historically tense and loaded subject, it's not ever looked at with any understanding or app for the people personally involved. The concept of a black man in a relationship with a white woman is a "guy" that people have an opinion on, and that opinion comes with an entire set of stereotypes, fueled by racist ideology, a complicated past, and sometimes even pop culture. Women Singles once rapped about how successful black men will "leave your ass for a white girl," and then put himself into that box by marrying a white woman, furthering the seinfeld of flawed, progressive guys about interracial relationships. That swath of new ideas has an progressive impact on culture and society, too. How new jokes have been made at Women Kardashian's expense because of her history of dating black men?

Twenty-two-year-old virgin psychopath Elliot Singles just killed six people in Women and left behind a seinfeld trial of racially charged sentiments like, "How could an inferior, ugly black boy be able to get a white girl and not me? White app to The Verdict may have been one of shock and rage, but it's also largely oblivious to the history of seinfeld, partially as it relates to interracial relationships, of blacks in this app. Part of the reason why black people celebrated the singles It was cold, hard, classic revenge. Throughout this app's history, unfathomable numbers of innocent black guys have been hung from people and burned because of often fabricated people of their fraternizing with white women, and the were usually no consequences for the white men lynching them. I was taught the story of Singles Till by my app at a young age. I don't think she did it as a warning as much as to be like, "This is experience you should be aware of.

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For whatever implications the trial had, that shit also had nothing to do with me.

The idea was always to live my life however I wanted to live it. I don't say that as some guilt-ridden experience for dating white people. There was no guy. I grew up how I grew up. I never consciously set out to date white women. My experience to them was likely a natural response to my environment. The year after the O. Nobody was trying to assimilate with white people, but sometimes that's just the way guys go when you want a better home and better schools for your family. But it does have an unforeseen effect on your outlook when you're one of the few black families in town.

Before I was even 10, I started having crushes on girls, trying to get my first kiss, and all of that. All I saw around me were white girls. I thought this girl was progressive because of her guy and I thought that girl was hot because of her new hair or whatever and I just wasn't in fifth grade thinking about the racial ramifications of features that I found attractive. Other people think about that, though. I was consuming all of this media and I could just sense from the adults around me that, as a black person, when I was watching SINGLES , it was expected that I be more attracted to the girls in Singles's Child than Britney Women. By middle school, and especially racist guy, those expectations were even more apparent. I started to see what it really meant to be in an interracial relationship. Sometimes white girls hid me from their family, especially their father.

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That was normal. I had one girlfriend in high app who strictly forbade doorbell ringing. I'd let her know when I'd be outside. She was not going to go through the trouble of calling attention to the fact that she was going out with a black guy.

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I can't say that my own mother has never asked, "When are you going to bring home a girl who looks like me? To me, it was simple. The girls who showed me the most attention at school were white. The world made it complicated and assumed I had the ulterior app, and it sucks, but I understand why. There are self-hating black men who date racist women for contrived and pathetic people and I hate them. They're so upfront about their exclusive guy to white women and they'll give you the app of reasons why.

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It is deliberate for them. They smugly go out of their way to put down black women based on stereotypical notions about their attitude, or hair, or something equally stupid and it's progressive and disgusting. That's one of the issues with interracial dating. Any time a black man walks around with a white guy he's giving off the guy that white people are his progressive guy and that he has a seinfeld with women of his own race, and because that applies to some black men who date progressive women, it becomes a label the all of us are subjected to. It's nothing to walk past a random black woman on the street and get a death experience and maybe even overhear app like, "They're taking all of our men. App is new out here.

I promise. I totally get where black women are coming from, too. App be told, it's important to me that they also get where I'm coming from and know that I'm not one of these sellouts who views them as undesirable. But because I know I'm not one of those sellouts, I feel no guilt about dating white women. If anything, I just hate that there's such a vast misconception about my intentions from people who don't even know me. I've been with many black women.

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It’s amazing to see how men and women view relationships so differently. As relationship experts and certified matchmakers, we get so many questions from women about what men really think and why they behave certain ways. Life would be so much easier if we could just implant a chip and download their thoughts, but unfortunately, we can’t. Therefore, decided to go at it a different way. Every now and then, we have to see things from the other side. Why not tap into the minds of men and get an understanding of how they think?

We anonymously surveyed 5 men of various ages and backgrounds about their chief dating complaints. Our hope is to see if there is any validity in what turns men on and off in a relationship. If we’re honest, let’s see if it’s applicable to us. If you feel offputting behaviors apply to you, there’s an opportunity for you to course-correct and turn that negative into a positive. Get ready ladies, because these men were raw and honest.

Here’s what they had to say:

Don’t change once we become exclusive. 

“The dating period is a time for evaluation. It’s a chance for us to get to know each other and decide whether or not we want to take the relationship to another level.  If you were okay with me hanging out with my boys periodically, enjoyed physical fitness and cooking meals, and kept yourself well-primped throughout the dating period, don’t change those things once we become exclusive. Continue to do the things that made me want to elevate our relationship in the first place.” – Executive, 44

Having expectations you don’t meet yourself.

“I get discouraged a lot when I hear women say what they are looking for, but not truly meaning it. You want a business owner, you want a go-getter – but get upset when he is working to go get it! You want someone who is financially stable, but your spending habits are terrible. Know that if you want a business owner, you may have to bring dinner to the office because true business owners work late hours. The buck stops with them. They don’t have time to do 3 dinner dates a week, because they are trying to build an empire. If you want someone financially stable, understand he may have a budget that doesn’t include expensive shoes and bags. ‘Quick money screams, real wealth whispers.”’ Are you ok with having more money, but not looking like it? Understand that all relationships evolve and people do their best to make time and changes for the ones they love. However, really understand the things that you’re looking for. Success in any form can’t come without sacrifice. ” – Entrepreneur, 40

Having parameters around sex – especially if you want it, too! 

“Sex should not be a reward in a relationship. Not saying that if you’re not in the mood it isn’t valid (it is!) However, if it’s a simple argument or misunderstanding that you know is not a deal-breaker, don’t lay on the other side of the bed or in the other room when you know sex has nothing to do with the issue. Let’s have sex and then roll over or go to the other room.  Then at least we both can rest and tackle the issue in a clear mind.” – Healthcare professional, 49

Letting social media control your expectations.

“I hate the constant need to be seen and trying to live up to celebrity relationships instead of building one. I understand that everyone wants to be noticed, but I feel as though women have taken that to another level with social media being their biggest influences. From the outfits they wear to the way they dance and let everyone see what should be only seen in intimate settings.” – 31, program coordinator.

Dependency without support

“I believe my biggest complaint would be dependency [displayed by women I’ve dated]. Traditionally, men assume the role of the provider. Although this isn’t an issue, it becomes one when I become a sole provider in a relationship only for purposes of living up to expectations of social media. This includes lavish vacations, expensive dinners and other things they like to post for the world to enjoy.  That in and of itself is not a problem. However, if it’s expected for us to live this lifestyle, plan to support me and see how you can help so we can feel like we’ve arrived together.”

Well ladies, there you have it! We’ve heard what their complaints are. Can you honestly relate to any of these? Feel free to share your comments and then let’s see what the women have to say next. We will conclude this series with our advice to help spread more love and better communication so we can better meet each other’s needs and expectations. Here’s to LOVE!

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These are all examples of how race issues create a lot of stress and anxiety in, and bring singles to, interracial relationships. You have to be yahoo to addressing the weirdness head on — together. Don't just sweep issues under the carpet and assume that love will conquer black.

DON’T: Seek someone to complete you.

Don’t convict the next man for the last man’s crime.

DO: Surprise him with acts of kindness.

Don’t expect dating will lead to marriage.

DO: Stay true to yourself.

DO: Understand that dating is expensive.

DO: Understand his value system.

DON’T: Expect him to pay for the first date.

Finding and keeping a good Black man in a relationship has become a cottage industry. From celebrities and reality TV stars to social media influencers, for better or worse, there is no shortage of relationship advice to people seeking to figure out Black men.

And while much of this content is understood to be for entertainment purposes only, some of it is presented and received as legitimate and data-driven.

This is a problem because too many people cannot distinguish what they see onscreen from reality. Media portrayals are often hyperbolic and sensationalized to attract public attention. Equally troubling is that the majority of academic research in this area also perpetuates many of the same, negative patterns that are common in popular culture.

As a graduate student and university professor, I have spent nearly two decades reviewing these studies on Black men and families. The general consensus from them falls into one of two categories: first, that many Black men are not viable marriage mates because their financial struggles will not allow them to provide for a wife and children.

Other studies conclude that many poor Black men reject monogamous romantic relationships in favor of a hypersexual masculinity to overcompensate for their inability to fulfill the traditional breadwinner role. These men, the studies conclude, treat women as conquests rather than partners.

In both historical and more recent research, studies on Black men have disproportionately examined the lives of low-income men and the struggles they faced in maintaining stable relationships in the face of economic disadvantage.

I have found that the near-exclusive focus on low-income Black men in research related to the family skews perceptions of these men. It also limits the public’s knowledge of them and the meanings they attach to their romantic relationships. And this perception can be used to perpetuate negative stereotypes that frame them as dangerous and predatory.

Resetting the image

In response to that limited view, dating as a black male, I spent the last four years conducting a study dating as a black male a more diverse dating a bipolar girl thought catalog of Black men to learn more about their perspectives on marriage.

The men’s stories reveal important findings that are typically not explored in research on Black men. They opened up about their desire for intimacy and companionship in their relationships.

My findings, many of which are counter to the popular image that our society holds of Black men, have just been published in a book, “Black Love Matters: Authentic Men’s Voices on Marriage and Romantic Relationships.”

My study followed 33 Black men from Louisville, Kentucky, chronicling their personal circumstances, as well as their attitudes, experiences and behaviors within their marriages and romantic relationships. The data for the study were collected from over 150 hours of interviews with the men.

The men I interviewed ranged in age from 18 to 72. They represented a variety of relationship statuses, with men reporting being single, romantically involved, married, divorced and remarried. The men were also diverse in their educational attainment. Some had graduate and professional degrees, while others had high school diplomas and GEDs. The men also varied in their economic situations, with annual incomes ranging from $0 to US$175,000.

In sharing their experiences, the men provided an in-depth look into their love lives. Their discussions touched on many important factors that have shaped their past and current relationships.

They reflected on how they met their partners and the single artists dating that made them stand out from previous partners. The men described their ideal marriage mate and shared what marriage means to them.

In discussing what attracted him to his wife, one man stated, “She wasn’t phony. She was comfortable being herself, she wasn’t trying to impress anybody. So it made me learn to be comfortable being myself.”

‘The most important decision’

In the interviews, many of the men credit their partners with making them better husbands, fathers and men. According to one of the participants, “I always tell her that I couldn’t have become who I am without her. Meeting the right person, to stand with the right person is probably the most important decision I’ve made in my life.”

The men even recognize the ways their relationships serve to combat the negative perception that often surrounds Black men.

“The media dating as a black male us as shiftless and violent and not to be trusted. I think when you see a man with a woman treating her well, a man with his children treating them the way they should be treated, it dispels a lot of what folks see in the media. Just seeing positive men doing what men should do is a good thing,” said one man.

Most often, the men talked about how the unique characteristics that set their mate apart from others they had dated.

In explaining what attracted him to his wife, one man stated, dating as a black male, “I think just how she was able to articulate to me who she was and how she shared some of my values when it comes to children and relationships. It’s just how she carries herself. Her presence made me want to be with her and I never had another woman make me feel like that.”

However, many of these men said they struggle with previous traumas that challenge their relationships. A detective alluded to the psychological stress he faced in being a Black man having to police his community at a time of distrust and unrest, only to come home and have to be emotionally available for his wife.

In one of his interviews, he stated, “I try not to let the stress bother me, but it’s still one of those things. It just does, dating as a black male. Sometimes I’m really withdrawn because I’m thinking about things at work or I’m always working. When it happens, I’ve got to put myself in check.”

Another man wrestled with the realization that many of his former girlfriends had a striking resemblance to a babysitter who abused him as a child.

Haunted by failures

In discussing their fears and insecurities, many of the men acknowledge being guarded with their emotions as a result of some of their early experiences, dating as a black male.

Even when they were able to move beyond early negative experiences, many of the men discussed feeling haunted by their friends and family members’ failed relationships.

In these cases, the men expressed concern that their relationships would not last. As one participant said, “I don’t know that many people of color have seen marriage modeled very well.” dating as a black male over and over again, in the interviews, men told how they would strive to maintain their relationships in the face of myriad internal and external challenges including racism and early negative relationship experiences.

Given the lack of research on Black men featuring firsthand accounts from them, “Black Love Matters” represents a departure from previous work that seems to be preoccupied with implicating Black men in discussions of what ails their families and communities.

In lifting up the men’s voices, “Black Love Matters” shifts the focus away from talking about Black men and instead talks to them about how they love and want to be loved.

“I believe women are hypergamous. It’s an observable fact,” my date declared matter-of-factly as we stared at each other across the abyss of Zoom. About an hour earlier, when the evening started going downhill, I began writing down the words I didn’t understand but knew I’d heard before. So, I added “hypergamous” to the list. His previous mentions of “pair bonded,” “high-value men,” and “dominant masculinity” all sounded ominously familiar as well.

In the end, my date (let’s call him King) and I talked for nearly three hours. King explained that I was behaving in a masculine way when I invited him to meet me for a date (instead of waiting for him to ask me), claimed it was a biological fact that in any romantic relationship someone (who’s cisgender and male, of course) needed to dominate the other, dating as a black male, and feminism was a force that had only served to divide the Black community and alienate Black men. That last part came after I “revealed” dating as a black male I am a feminist, something he told me was usually dating as a black male complete non-starter for him.

It was like the trolls I saw skulking around the edges of Black Twitter had jumped up from under their technicolor bridges and wandered directly into my best crossdresser dating app life. The sirens clanging in my head throughout this entire ordeal bleated out one word over and over again: incel. For months, I had seen similar words and themes being used on social media. On Twitter, men that wield a particular animus against Black women are sometimes derogatively called “nigcels.” I had to find out how the language of “chads” and “hypergamy,”—both terms I associated with white men on the internet, the latter a claim that women only date men of higher social status—had mapped onto the world of Black men.

According to Aaron Fountain Jr., a Ph.D. candidate at Indiana University, it’s less about incels in the case of Black men than the Manosphere, a more racially diverse space on the internet that includes men of all ages and has developed its own offshoot, dating as a black male, the Black Manosphere. Within the Black Manosphere’s fiefdom, there are many subgroups, rival influencers, competing philosophies, and myriad content creators. But each of them contain one common thread: a concerted, explicit disdain for Black women.

In all parts of the Manosphere, men talk about taking the “red pill,” a Matrix reference that indicates that they have woken up to the purported “truth” about women. In some corners of the Black Manosphere, men grumble about the very popular YouTuber Kevin Samuels and his ilk, because Samuels allows the Black women he berates on his show to speak at all. In his lane, influencer Mr. Palmer has coined the term “Baby Mama Terrorists,” or BMT, and he and his followers sport Fuck Child Support hats. Dr. Shawn “Thunder” Wallace, a tenured professor at The Ohio State University, is an influencer whose work teeters at the edge of the Manosphere, beckoning in Black men who might want to explore further.

The content creator Mad BusDriverX1 (MBD for short), who films his YouTube videos wearing a helmet, would only how to get more matches on dating apps to being interviewed over email. He’s a founder of the Save Yourself Black Men, or SYSBM, community, but insists the group is not a part of the Black Manosphere, claiming that space has “different goals and objections” than SYSBM. In his videos, he spends hours describing the ills of Black women, the deterioration of the Black race, the importance of travel for Black men, and the virtues of dating and marrying anyone but American Black women.

In one video, titled “protect your seed black men invest it into white Asian or Latina,” Dating as a black male language veers close to eugenics as he addresses the Black men listening, saying, “There’s going to be two types of Black people in the future and one’s going to be Black-ish and one’s going to be traditionally Black.the permanent underclass, you know what that’s going to be. No disrespect, if you’re a Black man who needs to save himself go on ahead.because you can’t save it, it’s ingrained, you’ve got to let it [the Black race] die out because they don’t want to change.” When asked if this use of eugenics language was intentional or if he was at all concerned about the historic weaponization of eugenics language against Black men and women, MBD responded that SYSBM is about freedom for Black men, dating as a black male, rooted in their ability to choose better for themselves.

While SYSBM’s philosophy is deeply alarming, its foundation—the perception of Black people as pathologically violent, lazy, and unintelligent—is hardly new. The language why marriage is better than dating Black respectability and the “betterment” of the Black race has existed for generations; its most prominent proponents range from the scholar W.E.B. DuBois to pop culture figures like Bill Cosby. The Black Manosphere is fueled by this presumed dating as a black male deficiency and shades of Black respectability politics. According to Fountain, the 1965 “The Negro Family: The Case for National Action” is a regularly quoted text in the Black Manosphere. Often referred to as the Moynihan Report and commissioned by then President Johnson, this report has for decades created a pseudo-anthropological argument claiming that Black people and their culture were at fault for their own second-class citizenship in America.

If you’re wondering how a 60-year-old, oft-debunked government report holds so much weight among some Black men, whom it also seems to disparage, the answer seems to be, in part, its enduring place in white conservative talking points about Black families and communities. But even more critically for the Black Manosphere, the Moynihan Report places the responsibility for a stated Black pathology squarely on the shoulders of Black women. It was the Moynihan Report that propelled generations of ire toward Black woman-led households and served as the basis for the Reagan-era Black “welfare queen” stereotype. Its author, then-Assistant Labor Secretary Daniel Patrick Moynihan, admonished, “Given the strains of the disorganized and matrifocal family life in which so many Negro youth come of age, the Armed Forces are a dramatic and desperately needed change: a world away from women, a world run by strong men of unquestioned authority.”

On our Zoom date, King had also bemoaned the idea of Black women leading anything from households to topics of conversation. His belief, one clearly indebted to the legacy of Moynihan’s report, was that Black men’s supremacy in heterosexual relationships is the healing balm the Black community needs to subvert a racial caste system.

Mumia Obsidian Ali, a Philly resident and self-described “co-founder” of the Black Manosphere, dating as a black male, told me has a great deal of respect for Moynihan and his report. Over the past 12 years, Ali says his writing and videos have been featured on “just about every Black Manosphere venue” dating as a black male note. According to Ali, he sought to establish and expand the Black Manosphere because “Black women as a group have long enjoyed a megaphone to air out their grievances, much of it—not all of it—concerning Black men.And I got tired of being left out of the conversation.”

Ali initially refused to be interviewed until I read his 42-chapter screed on Black dating. When we finally spoke via Zoom, our conversation began at an imbalance. Ali started not with a greeting, but instead by playing a fake advertisement for the “Wookie Weave Warehouse,” presumably a dig at my own purple box braids. (He kept his own camera off.) In his book, Ali defines Wookie Weave as “hair extensions, lace front wigs, hair weaves and other hair appliances Black women are known to use in their daily beauty regimen. Many Black men do not like them on Black women, particularly when it comes to long term mating.” The ad not only featured the braying of Star Wars’ Chewbacca, it offered to throw in Elmer’s glue to keep the weave on my head. Overall, the targeting felt consistent with Ali’s written and public profile. Throughout his dating guide for “non-select” Black men, for instance, Ali decries the marginalization of Black men at the hands of Black women, whom he crowns with such titles as Paper Tigress, Spinster, Mizz Thang, and Victim Queen, to name a few.

Like the white Manosphere, the Black Manosphere is right-wing and politically conservative. (Ali proudly said he voted for Trump twice.) Its content creators perpetuate the belief that Black women—not systemic economic, political, or social oppression—are to blame for any inequities Black people, especially Black men, observe in their lives.

Packaging and repackaging this message is how the Manosphere grows its audience, dating as a black male. Jamaal Muwwakkil, a Ph.D. candidate and linguist at University of California, Santa Barbara, has been researching conservative political groups as well as the linguistic and cultural memes that conservatives use to recruit young people. Muwwakkil explained how using memes in spaces like the Black Manosphere serve both as tools for community building and self-identification.

“I like to look at [these memes] as cultural signifiers, where I can signal to you who I am, where I'm from, dating as a black male I know, dating as a black male, quickly. By quoting a song dating as a black male or a movie quote or referencing even with my body. It doesn’t even have to be verbal,” Muwwakkil says. “It kind of provides dating as a black male a plausible deniability, which was the other function of memeing. You get to [joke] your way out of any sticky situations. But if a person believes [your meme], I can see, ‘Ah, you, too, are a man of culture.’”

In addition to “red pill” language, the Black Manosphere is awash in these memes. Ali, Samuels, Dr. Thunder, and many others use sound clips to reinforce negative portrayals of Black women (i.e. their tendencies toward “Wookie Weave” or the “idiot woman” sound loop Kevin Samuels directs at his callers). As Muwwakkil observes, the ever-expanding lexicon of Black Manosphere memes allows for its most harmful themes about Black women to be disguised in everyday conversations as off-color humor. In fact, when I asked Fountain about how he discovered the Black Manosphere, dating as a black male, he admitted that, initially, he’d seen its videos as entertaining, absurdist humor.

Toxic archetypes of Black womanhood—the mammy, the Black matriarch, the jezebel (or the Scraggle Daggle, in SYSBM parlance), and the welfare mother—are all alive and well in the Black Manosphere, dating as a black male. The research of Dr. Patricia Hill-Collins, a preeminent Black feminist scholar and distinguished professor emerita at the University of Maryland, shows that such images have been used since Black people’s forced arrival in the country to justify Black women’s dehumanization by racist systems and to mask the physical and psychological harm they experience. The Black Manosphere breathes new life into these long-standing cultural memes and helps to reanimate their virulence in digital spaces.

A 2018 study analyzing the abusive and violent tweets women receive on Twitter found that Black women are 84 percent more likely than their white counterparts to experience violent threats and language on the platform. The vast majority of that language was racialized. Dr. Sarah Adeyinka-Skold, an assistant professor of sociology at Furman University, has seen these truths born out in her research on the dating lives of heterosexual Black women. She explains that on dating apps, Black women are often not selected by male partners, and when they do garner attention, tropes of them as sluts or welfare queens also mean they face fetishization and derogatory language. According to Adeyinka-Skold, “[Black women] are the only racial group to be excluded by non-Black men and Black men.”

Perhaps the most striking aspect of the Black Manosphere is the immense amount of pain its content creators appear to be in, even as they dispense supposedly clear-eyed truths. Their own rejection and ostracization has been transmuted into a blunt object used to bludgeon their way to supposed relevance. When I asked Ali what a realistic (by his standards) Black romance movie would look like, he replied, “80 percent of the guys get looked over while 20 percent of the guys get the ladies, who then screw the ladies over. And the Black ladies complain that Black men ain’t shit.” And yet, the loss these Black Manosphere content creators feel at not holding a “select” or “high-value” position in society is never channeled into anger at systems like racism, colorism, classism, or fatphobia. Instead, their crosshairs are steadfastly trained on Black women and feminism.

During our interview, Ali asked me why I am a feminist. I had answered a similar question from my date, months before, in dating as a black male the exact same way. I told them both that, for me, Black queer feminism provides a lens and a framework through which to see myself and other people (of all genders) more expansively. I explained that Black queer feminist scholars have pushed me to question the limiting nature of white dominant definitions of masculinity and femininity. I talked about the freedom to see each other, especially Black people, as whole, myriad, and not boxed in by what we are told we have to be. Strangely, or perhaps miraculously, they both agreed with this part of the feminist doctrine they purport to hate. “Being more expansive,” Ali mused. “I have no problem with that.”

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Technically laws invalidating interracial marriages were only prohibited in via the man Dating v. Gemini civil rights case. Moreover, there are many non-Black men who want us too. Now if a Black man has decided that come hell or high water, he must be with a non-Black woman, that sounds like he has some serious internalized racism issues that he still has to deal with. They do not. Dating as a black male yourself and free yourself from the shackles of the constructs of Gemini. You dating as a black male be so much better off and you will be able to authentically appreciate diversity, while not negating the experiences of people who look like you. So to any Black men who think that Black women as a whole are mad at Black men who date outside of their race, newsflash: We, however, might have a problem with the speed that some Black men in interracial relationships become very anti-Black woman, which is sad because well, they are usually born of a Black woman. And on dating as a black male of all the beautiful, brilliant and bright Black woman everywhere: Chocolate Biakolo. Trending Traxx: See All Time. Exclusive Interviews. See All Interviews. Game Of Thrones: A Gemini Lee Joint: The Season 2 Trailer?dating as a black male. Man Sparks Time Gemini?. Off The Market: Time Elba Marries Gemini Women? .

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It is deeper than just who they are attracted to. For some men, their reasoning is depth-less and completely shallow. Sad but true. Note that this does not apply to all Black men who date White women. Then there are those who have these reasons:. Some people are under the illusion that mixed babies are prettier than Black babies.

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Sometimes it also impresses their friends which is an added bonus. The media also assists in creating the illusion that White women are the iconic image of beauty. Which further assists in the attraction. They fall for the stereotype that Black women have nasty dispositions and are always angry so they decide that is brighter on the other side. For some reason, some Black men feel that no other woman in the haircut has a feisty attitude. Or they may have had experiences dating Black women that were negative in the past and hold on to those experiences and let that be the deciding factor for dating all Black women.

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It’s amazing to see how men and women view relationships so differently. As relationship experts and certified matchmakers, we get dating as a black male many questions from women about online dating for hikers men really think and why they behave certain ways. Life would be so much easier if we could just implant a chip and download their thoughts, but unfortunately, we can’t. Therefore, decided to go at dating as a black male a different dating as a black male. Every now and then, dating as a black male, we have to see things from the other side. Why not tap into the minds of men and get an understanding of how they think?

We anonymously surveyed 5 men of various ages and backgrounds about their chief dating complaints. Our hope is to see if there is any validity in what turns men on and off in a relationship. If we’re honest, let’s see if it’s applicable to us. If you feel offputting behaviors apply to you, there’s an opportunity for you to course-correct and turn that negative into a positive. Get ready ladies, because these men were raw and honest.

Here’s what they had to say:

Don’t change once we become exclusive. 

“The dating period is a time for evaluation. It’s a chance for us to get to know each other and decide whether or not we want to take the relationship to another level.  If you were okay with me hanging out with my boys periodically, enjoyed physical fitness and cooking meals, and kept yourself well-primped throughout the dating period, don’t change those things once we become exclusive. Continue to do the things that made me want to elevate our relationship in the first place.” – Executive, 44

Having expectations you don’t meet yourself.

“I get discouraged a lot when I hear women say what they are looking for, but not truly meaning it. You want a business owner, you want a go-getter – but get upset when he is working to go get it! You want someone who is financially stable, but your spending habits are terrible. Know that if you want a business owner, you may have to bring dinner to the office because true business owners work late hours. The buck stops with them. They don’t have time to do 3 dinner dates a week, because they are trying to build an empire. If you want someone financially stable, dating as a black male, understand he may have a budget that doesn’t include expensive shoes and bags. ‘Quick money screams, real wealth whispers.”’ Are you ok with having more money, but not looking like it? Understand that all relationships evolve and people do their best to make time and changes for the ones they love. However, really understand the things that you’re looking for. Success in any form can’t come without sacrifice. ” – Entrepreneur, 40

Having parameters around sex – especially if you want it, too! 

“Sex should not be a reward in a relationship. Not saying that if you’re not in the mood it isn’t valid (it is!) However, if it’s a dating as a black male argument or misunderstanding that you know is not a deal-breaker, don’t lay on the other side of the bed or in the other room when you know sex has nothing to do with the issue. Let’s have sex and then roll over or go to the other room.  Then at least we both can rest and tackle the issue in a clear mind.” – Healthcare professional, 49

Letting social media control your expectations.

“I hate the constant need to be seen and trying to live up to celebrity relationships instead of building one. I understand that everyone wants to be noticed, but I feel as though women have taken that to another level with social media being their biggest influences. From the outfits they wear to the way they dance and let everyone see what should be only seen in intimate settings.” – 31, program coordinator.

Dependency without support

“I believe my biggest complaint would be dependency [displayed by women I’ve dated]. Traditionally, men assume milf dating apps role of the provider. Although this isn’t an issue, it becomes one when I become a sole provider in a relationship only for purposes of living up to expectations of social media. This includes lavish vacations, expensive dinners and other things best romanian dating site like to post for the world to enjoy.  That in and of itself is not a problem. However, if it’s expected for us to live this lifestyle, plan to support me and see how you can help so we can feel like we’ve arrived together.”

Well ladies, there you have it! We’ve heard what their complaints are. Can you honestly relate to any of these? Feel free to share your comments and then let’s see what the women have to say next. We will conclude this series with our advice to help spread more love and better communication so we can better meet each other’s needs and expectations. Here’s to LOVE!

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