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We all know Tinder is the biggest dating app of the decade so far.
It has its problems (as my brother Steve has written about before), but for many women who put themselves in the category of “single-and-looking”, it has been a game-changer.
Women who previously had never considered online dating in their lives are finding themselves swiping hours away looking for matches.
Why?
Because it’s simple: Upload few pics, write one line or two about yourself, and you’re done.
But that doesn’t mean Tinder suddenly makes dating easy…
In this article, I’m going to reveal exactly what men look for in a woman’s Tinder profile, and show you some of the biggest mistakes I’ve seen women make in their photos and bio.
The 6 MUST-DO’s For Your Profile Photos
Let’s face it, Tinder is all about the visual.
A photo of you is the first thing a guy is going to see, so it pays to put in serious thought here. Here are some very simple, yet crucial, tips for making sure you draw a guy’s eye when he sees your picture:
• Make sure your first picture is a close-up
Your very first photo should be a close-up of your face, roughly from about the chest upwards.
A full body shot doesn’t give a guy enough indication of your facial features, and if it’s too zoomed out it’s likely he’ll just never bother to even click the profile to check out your other pictures.
• Either smile, or flirt to camera
There are two options for a great profile photo: either a simple one of you smiling to the camera, or alternatively, research has tended to show that having a slight smirk and a flirtatious look in your eyes is also likely to draw a lot of attention.
If in doubt, go for a warm genuine smile that captures you in the best light.
• Use several photos
The first photo is what draws him in, but it’s the rest of the photos that keep him interested. It’s crucial to ensure you have around 3-5 photos in your profile.
Speaking as a man, more photos are the key to building initial trust and a feeling of security. No matter how attractive you look in your main profile picture, a guy will always be asking himself, “Does she always look like that? Or is that just a particularly one-off spectacular photo of her?”
Choose a few pictures, and make sure to vary the poses and locations a little! E.g. if you used a selfie for your main profile photo, avoid using three more selfies for the other pictures.
Include at least one photo if possible in your Tinder profile that can inspire conversation. For example, one of you in front of the Eiffel Tower or a historic landmark, or doing something physical and adventurous.
• No wacky profile pics
I feel patronizing bringing this up, but I have to say it: Keep the “wackiness” out of your main profile photo. Preferably all photos.
Don’t use that photo of you in the blood-dripping Dracula mask from Halloween. Or the one where you pulled a deliberately goofy face.
There is a time and a place for showing your silly side. But that place is definitely not on the first photo he’s going to be using to decide whether or not he wants to find out more about you.
• Selfies are ok – but do them right
Chances are you might just want to make yourself up, hold up your phone and snap a selfie for your profile pic. That’s fine.
But some crucial rules: don’t do it in the bathroom mirror where he can see the camera in the reflection. Don’t do it as if you were just sitting on the couch and snapped the blurriest, most slap-dash shot you could take.
And make sure to try and crop out your arm, unless you happen to be standing in front of some extremely compelling background (i.e. an Egyptian Pyramid, the Leaning Tower of Pisa). And don’t do the duck face (sorry, had to mention it).
• Include at least one full body pic
Everyone wants to know what they are going to get if they decided to meet you in person. One of the ways to do this is to include at least one full body shot in your photos.
If all your photos are taken from the chest upwards, he may be hesitant because he’s wondering what the rest of your body looks like.
That might sound shallow, but think of it the other way around. You wouldn’t want to be surprised by a guy’s enormous beer gut or his hidden bald spot if every picture he uses has him hiding his torso or wearing a baseball cap.
How To Write Your Bio: A few killer examples
Ok, what about writing your bio? Well, believe it or not, although men are indeed visual creatures, he will judge you based on what your write on your Tinder profile.
So here are a three great, but different examples of bio’s to get you started…
Profile Example 1 – Jen
Bit of a nerd. I like comic books and super heroes. And zombies.
I can be a little competitive. Okay, a lot competitive. ;)
I dig beards (Think Gerard Butler, not Gandalf) and guys that are passionate about something. Even better if you are passionate about something I know nothing about yet.
Profile Example 2 – Michelle
General goofball. Embarrassingly affectionate, lol. Ambitious.
Survival kit:
– Family, great friends
– Passport
– Chocolate
– Intelligent conversation
– A clean place.
I have 3 superpowers: 1. Winning Cards Against Humanity 2. Replicating nearly anything I taste without the recipe 3. Well, if I told you…
Profile Example 3 – Sara
Opera-loving, nightclub-dancing, romcom fan. Yea, it’s a weird mix ;) I live to travel and see new places. More of a city than a country girl. Looking for a guy to read books and eat brunch with on Sundays.
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As you can see above, profiles can vary from short to long, but there are some key principles to keep in mind:
Do
• Sound optimistic
All the profiles above have a sense of fun and enjoyment. They show a woman willing to be playful and not take herself too seriously. Guys love this relaxed, open-minded attitude to life.
• Show your personality through your interests
Giving a hint of your interests is the key to making conversation easy. It gives a guy the perfect first message when he can say “What’s your favorite horror movie?” instead of “Wut up?”
• Say something about what you like in a guy
You don’t need to describe him in detail but giving a little clue that you love guys who dress well, or that you want a partner who loves travel, gives him a sense of who you are and whether you have compatible personalities.
Don’t
• Give angry dealbreakers
No guy feels excited when he reads the bio that says, “If you’re not a dog person, swipe left!”, or “If you’re just looking for hookups, forget it!” – these just make you sound waaay too intense.
• Write boring clichés
Many people write a single line from a quote on their bio e.g. “Life. Laugh. Love” – that’s not a description, it’s a regurgitated line that 10,000 other women also wrote on their profile. Be original and use your own voice if you want guys to be interested.
• List a bunch of adjectives
e.g. “I’m smart, funny, adventurous, crazy, ambitious, kind…” who cares? It’s ok saying one or two traits about yourself, but it’s much better to SHOW these things through your interests and the things you do.
So that’s it!
Remember, being fun, showing your best side, and most importantly, being YOU are the most important ways find the right guy on Tinder.
Although it’s by no means the only game in town and it has its limitations, it’s definitely a decent way to meet a guy (so long as you are vigilant about screening out the bad ones!) Happy swiping.
How To Know From His Dating Profile If He's Boyfriend Material
By Becki Ledford/Updated: Nov. 2, 2020 2:01 pm EDT
Online dating is no longer the super secretive practice that only "desperate" daters use to find a mate. Now, instead of determining on your third date how you'll tell people you met just in case it ever comes up, people are proudly proclaiming which of the countless dating apps they used to find their one true love. (Okay, maybe that's an exaggeration). While online dating is more popular than ever, it can be incredibly frustrating to try to sift through hundreds of profiles that all start to look the same, to find someone worthy of spending your Saturday evening with.
While different apps utilize different interfaces, varying requirements for messaging, and range from free to surprisingly expensive, they do share one thing in common: it can be hard to spot both the red flags and the signs someone could be a great match, from the profiles alone. But it isn't impossible.
I spoke to online dating and relationship experts as well as people who work for different dating sites to find out how to tell if a guy could be boyfriend material, based on his profile alone.
His profile is polished and shows effort
While every dating app is different in terms of how many characters one can use to answer a prompt or provide information, even the most stringent of character limits still allow for complete, polished responses.
Megan Murray, senior content strategist and editor-in-chief at Zoosk, told me, "The more a guy invests in his profile ― he adds good photos, his description is filled out, or he's verified his profile using whatever features the site or app you're on has available ― the more invested he is in finding someone who's a good fit for him." She went on to add that people who have more photos tend to spend more time on the site getting to know people, adding, "If someone has just one photo, they just aren't putting as much effort into things."
Licensed clinical psychologist Erika Martinez agreed. She told me, "The best gauge of [whether a man will be engaging on a date] is how attentive he is in completing his profile and the quality of the responses he provides. Low effort here suggests low effort in real life."
He uses humor and shows his personality
Along with the amount of effort he put into his profile, look for signs that his personality is shining through. Does he use humor? Can you tell right away that he's super passionate about traveling or playing guitar?
Dr. Venessa Marie Perry, founder and chief relationship strategist at LoveWrite, told me, "If a guy has a profile that communicates who he is and what he's looking for with a certain amount of humor, he's more likely to be engaging and fun on a date." So skip over the guys with the generic answers and look for the guys who seriously stand out.
He's smiling and seems approachable in his pictures
In addition to seeing his personality shine through in his profile, a picture is worth a thousand words. So if the words that pop into your head when you see a guy's photo are words like "intimidating," "serious," or "angry," swipe left. Perry said that photos that show the types of activities they enjoy doing, or feature them engaging with friends and family can be signs he's boyfriend material — just be sure that the activities he enjoys aren't mean-spirited and petty.
Alex Reddle, online dating expert and chief editor of Flirt.com, said "strange" photos should raise red flags. "Throwing pickles into nose holes, licking some objects, throwing water bombs on pedestrians? Girl, be careful. Usually, [pranksters] are not good in relationships."
He isn't shirtless in his photos
While you want his photos to be appealing and represent what he's interested in, shirtless photos may not be ideal if what you're looking for is a long-term connection. Perry told me that photos of him shirtless and showing off his abs can be warning signs. "A man without a shirt or a woman with a bikini typically indicate that the person is more likely to want a fling, or sex, than a long term relationship," she said. "It also shows that they are more concerned with their physical appearance than other aspects of their personality." Reddle agreed, adding, "If a guy is showing off his abs in every photo there is a possibility that besides his dieting and gym life you, will have nothing to talk about."
Mary T. Sambrosky, the founder and president of the dating and relationship coaching site Be Plus One, took it a step further. She said, "Pictures that are primarily of possessions, selfies, half-naked, [flexing] in the mirror are all large indications that this person is not capable of having a meaningful relationship currently, or is definitely choosing not to, by only presenting a very superficial front."
He's specific about what he's looking for
A good way to know that a guy is looking for a relationship is if he actually knows what he's looking for. A guy who doesn't just talk about himself in his profile, but also mentions what he's looking for, has given some thought to the kind of relationship he'd like to have, even if he doesn't come right out and say he wants a relationship. Murray told me there are some keywords to look for.
"Every guy says they want someone fun, but if they go into more than that, it's a good sign they may be more relationship-minded. Some popular words guys use are things like caring, loving, smart, down to earth, happy, best friend, and even someone who's interested in family," she said. "If a guy says he's looking for someone fun with a sense of humor, he may or may not be very serious. But if a guy says he wants someone smart who can be his best friend, you can bet he's put some thought into what kind of person he wants and is looking for something more long-term."
He talks about things that are important to him
Just like a man who is clear about his expectations in a relationship, a man who mentions things that are important to him, like his career and family, is showing you right away that he's either ready to settle down or sees that in his future. He wants you to know from the get-go what's important in his life, and that if you hit it off, you'll be fitting in amongst those other priorities as well.
Scott Valdez, the founder of ViDA (Virtual Dating Assistants) told me, "A guy who is looking to commit will put more effort into the image he's presenting on the dating app. If he's highlighting things like his career and the importance of family in his profile — and his photos don't make you cringe — that's a good sign he's boyfriend material."
He mentions his flaws
Everyone wants to put their best foot forward, especially when it comes to dating, but if his profile is full of his accomplishments and everything he loves about himself, it might be a red flag. If, however, he mentions flaws or things he's working on, like his tendency to work longer hours than he needs to, it means he's serious about personal growth and wants you to know exactly what you're in for, with him.
"This suggests he is keen to be real and will lay all his cards on the table before entering into something," Reddle told me. "Men who seem too good to be true, generally are. Female friends of mine have noticed that those who are happy to talk about their flaws tend to be more genuine."
He isn't online all the time
No one wants to wait forever before hearing back from someone they've messaged on a dating app, but if a guy is online all the time, it's a sign he doesn't have anything better to do. Or even worse.
As Reddle told me, "This would suggest that he is always on the lookout for someone new to chat to." A guy who is always looking for the next thing is definitely not what you want in a boyfriend. On the other hand, a guy who isn't online all the time has other priorities in his life and is looking for someone who can fit into that life, which is a sign that any potential relationship might be a bit healthier.
You're using a paid site or app
While it isn't necessary to use a paid site to find someone who is boyfriend material, Murray told me that chances are the people who are paying to use a site are more serious about finding a potential mate. "One of the things you're getting with a paid app is a more serious pool of daters," she said. "They're literally invested in finding the right person." It makes sense. After all, who is going to pay for a hookup? Don't answer that.
He specifically says he's looking for a relationship
This may seem like a no-brainer, but Sambrosky explained to me that many women ignore the simple red flag that a man has said he's "looking to have fun" or "looking to make friends" in his profile. "It amazes me how many women don't take that seriously or think that he's just saying that but will change his mind," she said. "Don't. He said it, you best believe he means it!"
On the other hand, some men do come right out and say they want a relationship. While Murray said this is typically truer of older men, it isn't limited to them. "A lot of guys who are on dating apps looking for a more serious relationship will just come out and say it," she told me. "We found that 'relationship' is the third most popular word men over 50 mention when describing who they're looking for. And it's the 10th for men in their 40s. For younger guys, it's not one of the top 20 phrases but they do still mention it." So believe him when he says he's looking for something serious (and believe him if he says he isn't).
Know what you're looking for
At the end of the day, you can't know whether a guy would be good boyfriend material until you know what it is you're looking for in a boyfriend. All of the experts I spoke with were quick to point out that what makes someone boyfriend material can mean a lot of different things, depending on the type of boyfriend you're looking for or relationship you're looking to have.
Consider each of these suggestions in combination with your own deal breakers and must-haves to help inform your dating choices. Even if you go on a first date, you might decide he isn't worth a second date. But who knows, with this lens you may be able to quickly spot your Mr. Right amongst all the Mr. Wrongs. Get swiping!
If you're a person who is dating or who has dated in the not-so-distant past, there's a pretty good chance that you've used an online dating site (like Match or OkCupid) or dating apps (like Tinder, Bumble and Hinge) to do it.
After all, a 2017 survey found that 70 percent of single men and women use dating apps while they're at work — and yes, that's JUST during their time on the job!
Let's be real. Movies might have us convinced that we can find true love in long-term relationships when we visit some whimsical location like a library, or by accidentally bumping heads with a stranger while stooping to pick up a shiny new penny from the ground, but reality is different.
And if you want to date in reality, chances are your best bet when it comes to connecting with someone who has serious relationship potential is going to be traipsing into the world of online dating in one form or another.
Simply filling out a profile and crossing your fingers for good luck simply isn't going to cut it, however.
If you want to stand out from the crowd, you've got to create a dating profile that will show men what an attractive woman you are, not send them running to hills!
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Now, I realize the chances are pretty high that you've already created one or two dating profiles in your day. Maybe you've even had some pretty decent returns too!
Or maybe, you haven't. Maybe you've tried to communicate everything awesome and lovable and cool and groovy about yourself, and for whatever reason, you're only attracting the creepiest of men, if any men at all.
That doesn't mean that you're a bad writer or that, worse still, you've got a bad personality. All it means is that you've been writing profiles that would appeal to you and maybe some other straight ladies, but you haven't yet written a profile that would capture the attention of the kind of man you're looking for, because let's face it, men and women look for different things when they look at profiles on dating apps.
Here's something you probably already know: men are highly visually creatures.
Sure, they want to get to know you as a person, but first, their interest in your looks must be attained. This doesn't mean you need portrait level photographs. It just means that you need to make sure you have several clear, and full body shots of you, lovely you! However, that's not all that men look for when they are checking out a profile. In fact, men have a lot of serious feedback when it comes to talking about what works, and what absolutely doesn't, on dating profiles.
One redditor recently visited AskMen on Reddit to ask this question:
"Men of Reddit, what makes you notice a women's online dating profile? I'm about to venture into online dating and I want to learn what to do and what not to do."
For insider takes on this issue, here's what men say they look for in women on dating apps like Tinder, Bumble, and Hinge.
1. Originality is key.
"If she actually put some effort to writing it and didn't just use dumb canned lines like, 'fluent in sarcasm' or 'looking for my partner in crime' or 'Venmo me $5 and see what happens.'"
2. Good pictures are just a start.
"Most guys swipe based on the pictures but proceed post-match based on profiles. Just because the match rate is really low for guys. But if your profile is a ghost town or train wreck it doesn't really give us anything to start the conversation (and we're expected to start the conversation so give us something to work with!)...
"You can also use your profile as a filter. If a guy opens based off your profile he's likely interested in dating (this requires a somewhat interesting profile). If it's a canned pickup line or the like he's liable to be trawling for something casual (not a 100% determinant, though)."
3. Actually just fill out a profile. Period.
"Just complete your profile and you'll be ahead of 90% of people. If you use actual sentences and don't use your profile to complain about guys, then you're in the top 1%."
4. Be specific and clear.
"'I'm really down to earth!' 'I have a bubbly personality!' I still don't know what these are supposed to mean, but from experience it's usually said by someone who is not down to earth and not very exciting."
5. Let your pictures speak for you.
"Don't mention anything about your body in your bio. Let your pictures do the explaining, that's what they're there for. If there's something you feel like is noteworthy (for better or worse) just have a picture where it is recognizable and leave it at that...
"If you have a really nice backside, I am 90% more likely to swipe right on someone who actually has a picture that shows it off than someone who just says so in their bio."
6. Ditch the Snapchat filters.
"On Tinder, the 'I'm a simple person who likes to laugh and spending time with people I love" means, I have no personality at all! That and Snapchat filters."
7. Just be yourself.
"Just be genuine. The most off-putting thing there was for me was just someone who's desperately trying to prove something. Like lists of deal breakers, or listing faults and saying deal with it, or awkward attempts at poetic language...
"Just a clear image of who you are, what you care about, where you want to go in life; even if the answer is you don't know."
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8. Share your interests.
"The best way to avoid being seen as uninteresting is to show that you have interests. Be specific, not general....
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"You don't enjoy hiking and going to the beach, you drag your friends to the hiking trails one Saturday a month and spend every other weekend snorkeling. Just as an example."
9. Good pictures are key.
"The pictures are the first potential point of failure. So good quality ones that show you in an attractive light and your full body and easily identified, with at least one where you are the only person, are essential."
10. But include fewer friends in your photos, please.
"Having your very first picture be a group picture of you and your friends. It's wonderful that you have friends that you do things with, but if I see a group picture, I'm automatically going to assume that you're the least attractive one...
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"There's nothing wrong with not being as attractive as your friends, but the fact that you're trying to hide how you look means that you're already starting the potential relationship off with dishonesty."
11. Keep your lists offline.
"Lists. Just don't. Nothing makes me ignore a profile faster than a girl that starts listing off baseball-like stats of a guy that she will deem worthy of time. It reeks of vanity."
12. Sometimes, less is more.
"Don't overwrite. An underwritten profile doesn't do much of course, but clicking in to see a massive block of text guarantees I won't read every word."
13. Proofread!
"Use good grammar and punctuation. I know it’s not fair, but whenever I saw a poorly-written profile, I’d think, 'She’s an idiot. Not worth my time.' (I also think guys who can’t write are idiots.)"
14. Use your own words.
"Don’t quote celebrities or writers or movies or anything like that. It’s lazy."
15. Keep it positive.
"Stay away from the no's in your profile narrative; the 'no jerks or players' sort of thing. When a woman mentions the negative it shows her as someone who's had the life taken out of her. Also don't be rude. I know there is a kind of double-standard with regards to this, meaning guys getting called out for being demanding while it can be seen as OK for women who do it. Just try to present the best you that you can through pics and words."
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Rebecca Jane Stokes is a writer living in Brooklyn, New York with her cat, Batman. She's an experienced generalist with a passion for lifestyle, geek news, pop culture, and true crime.
How to Attract the Right Kind of Guy With Your Online Dating Profile
I’ll admit it. I really like Tinder. Call me crazy, or shallow, or desperate all you want. (I’m also not sure any of those are untrue.)
Why do I like Tinder so much? Approaching women in real life is hard. And it’s really easy to be so much cooler online, as Brad Paisley would say.
Piece of advice number one: Bear in mind those three sentiments which, from what I can tell, I share with all the other 3.5 billion male fish in the sea. And number two: It’s OK to like Tinder. Go ahead, you can even admit it yourself.
So without any further ado, here is a little glimpse into the mind of one man on Tinder. Oh, and use this information with caution.
01. Success requires more than perfect pics.
The profiles that get my attention (in a good way) are those which make me actually like the woman represented. Sure, there are some profiles that are little more than pictures of an attractive woman. But even if I’m lucky enough to match with one of these women, I find myself staring at that little text box for fifteen minutes trying to come up with something better than, “I like looking at your pictures.” And some women wonder why they don’t get anything other than, “Hey, what’s up?”
Of course, I notice beauty. But I’m also looking for a relationship. And as much as I like looking at pictures of women, I prefer actually interacting with them on some sort of meaningful level. A good profile invites meaningful interaction. Sure, keep it light, but mention something you really care about, like helping your younger sister navigate the perils of high school. It doesn’t take much. Think of women in your life you admire and think about how they might put their best foot forward. Come to think of it…
02. Channel your inner grandma.
What makes grandmas so great (especially mine)? A little self-awareness here, a little mischief there, she’s unique yet perfectly genuine. She really cares about people and has no problem showing it. Channel your inner grandma and find a picture of you smiling or, even better, laughing. Find a picture of yourself with someone you love or doing something you love, and a guy will pick up on that.
What are guys looking for, when it really comes down to it? Beauty, mystery, happiness, and love—and not necessarily in that order. Find a way to express those things in your profile, and you’ll do just fine.
03. Which dudes to date (and which to avoid)?
If women’s profiles are any indication, they are way over fish pics (“Cool fish, bro”), hook-up requests (“NOT LOOKING FOR A HOOK-UP!!!”), and shirtless selfies (“If you’re flexing shirtless in the mirror, your life is a waste”). And I get it. But I’m going to ask you to reconsider one of those three, and I’m not talking about Don Juan or Junior Mr. Universe. Call me crazy, but if a dude has a picture of himself holding some dead fish, he’s probably just a regular dude, and that’s not a bad thing.
One of the best compliments I ever received was back in college when a buddy called me a “Regular Dude.” Why? There’s something about a man where normalcy is good. A man who is inordinately image-conscious, whose sense of humor skews a bit too much on the risque side, who seems to like to play the victim? He’s probably over-compensating for something. Flashy and ostentatious might catch your attention, but well-rounded, well-grounded men are the ones who last. I’m no fisherman, and I’m sure there are plenty of jerks who also happen to fish, but I don't think they're related.
04. Warning signs and normal signs—know the difference.
If you get a weird vibe from a dude, ditch him. If he seems to be a little too complimentary of your physical appearance, it might be all he cares about. But don’t be too quick to judge the guy who can’t quite seem to get it right. If he seems nice enough and nice looking enough, and has seemingly hidden all his red flags. Give him a chance.
Because here’s the other thing: I get nervous when I’m messaging a girl I really think I like. I say things I think are funny but probably aren’t. I’m too quick to ask her out or too slow and rarely in between. I ask her questions I think are thoughtful and show genuine interest that probably come across as boring or pandering. Remember, none of us really know what the hell we’re doing.
05. Don’t take it too seriously.
That being said, perhaps the most important to remember when Tindering is not to take it too seriously. It’s really just an artificial way to get people to actually approach each other romantically. It’s funny, every now and again I’ll see a woman out and about and I’ll think to myself, “Wow, if only she was on Tinder.” And then I have to remind myself that I can actually talk to women in real life, too.
No, Tinder should never replace real life, as much as we (ahem, I) might like it to. What I think Tinder does best, however, is stir the pot a little bit and makes it easier to start conversations. Then it’s up to you what you do with it.
Dating profile tips: 15 simple but effective ways to make yours stand out
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We spoke to the experts to get their top tips on making your dating profile the right level of eye-catching
Creating an online dating profile can be daunting. After all, it’s not always easy to big yourself up without sounding conceited or, even worse, desperate.
But did you know: one in three couples now find love online? Yes, really.
In this fast-paced, social media-dependent world, the Internet is used for everything – even more so now thanks to Covid-19. From keeping in touch with old school friends, to career networking, to ordering takeaways, to finding a cat-sitter for that weekend away…. you know, all sorts. So it only seems logical you would use the good old Internet for finding that special someone, too.
Whether you’re keen to try online dating sites or are more of an app kind of person (hello, Hinge), let our expert-advice steer you clear of making any dating app turn offs.
With the help of Charly Lester, co-founder of Lumen dating app, you’ll be able to perfect your profile game in no time (and ditch these seriously infuriating dating trends once and for all).
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How to write a dating profile
1. Ask your friends for help
Get a friend to help you write your profile. Sometimes they know you better than you know yourself.
2. Avoid clichés
Even if you do like ‘walking on the beach’ or ‘drinking wine in front of a roaring fire’, leave it out – everyone says that. Think of something interesting that could be a conversation starter.
3. Look at other profiles
‘If you struggle for inspiration, why not look at a selection of profiles to see what other people are saying?’ suggests Lester. ‘Reading a variety might give you ideas for things to include in your own one.’
4. Choose action shots
Wouldn’t you know, apparently profile photos that demonstrate you playing your guitar or downhill skiing – even if your face isn’t showing – get more messages.
5. Stay positive
Avoid negative tones and always be positive about yourself. Your profile is essentially your dating CV. You wouldn’t want a future employer to read anything negative, so why would you want a potential partner to read anything that isn’t positive?
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6. Be honest
Lying doesn’t get you anywhere in the dating world. Think about how hurt you’d be if someone you were dating lied to you. Honesty is the best policy.
7. Be specific
Use specific examples when you’re talking to make sure you give a full flavour of who you are. If you love travelling, say where your favourite place is and why. Anything concrete like this brings you alive to anyone reading.
8. Update regularly
Keep your profile up to date. Make the effort to renew your profile on a regular basis with relevant information about yourself.
9. Check your grammar
Many people find poor grammar and spelling a turn off, and the best of us can make mistakes, so be careful on this point. If you’re not a naturally good speller, let AutoCorrect do the hard work for you.
10. Say cheese
A poll found that 96% of people prefer seeing a big, happy smile in a profile photo than a sexy pout. Interesting…
11. Choose recent photos
If they are more than a year old, don’t use them. One of the most frequent complaints about online dating profiles is ‘they may have looked like that once but they certainly don’t look like that now’. Looking better in the flesh is better than the reverse.
12. Show them the real you
‘It’s been proven that the more photos you have on your profile, the more attention it will get,’ says Lester. ‘So make the most of that. Include at least a couple of clear head shots, where you’re not wearing sunglasses and you can clearly see your face. I always include at least one full length photo too, so there are no surprises when we meet up in real life.’
13. Have fun
Most people want to find someone who can make them laugh, so show people you have a sense of humour. If you can make someone laugh, it’s a great icebreaker and could get your conversation off to a great start.
14. Be the focus
Don’t choose a picture where you are not the main focal point.
15. Think outside of the box
‘If a dating profile asks what you’re looking for, don’t give too much detail. Tell them about the type of relationship you’re looking for, and if you have set deal-breakers like ‘must like dogs’. But when it comes to things like height, weight, income, hair colour etc – there is no point listing these things,’ explains Lester.
‘Firstly, it can make you look too unapproachable, even to someone who ticks all the right boxes. And secondly, you’ll be surprised how often people fall for someone who doesn’t tick any of their original boxes.’
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How to spot a good date
1. No negativity
If someone mentions anything cynical about relationships or comments about their ‘annoying’ ex, move along. Say their partner cheated – sure, knowing how to cope with being cheated on can be hard, you don’t need the baggage attached that comes with dating someone who’s still angry or grieving.
2. No arrogance
Avoid Mr ‘It’s All About Me’. It’s good to love yourself but there is a line that should not be crossed.
3. Check their photos
Are they in a bar or nightclub in every shot? If so, don’t contact them if you’re someone who likes to be in bed by 9pm. Late night dates a bit of you? You might want to head to one of London’s best rooftop bars together.
4. No waffling
A long and very detailed profile could be an indication of what’s in store when you meet them in person. Nobody likes a waffler.
5. Kindness is key
Look for people with a good character. A profile that mentions family and friends, volunteering, and enjoying spending time with kids is a good sign.
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Now you know how to make your dating profile stand out amongst the crowd, why not check out our round-up of the best online dating sites to sign up to?
Looking for something a little less serious? These are the best apps for no strings sex – hello, Tinder – and our guides to the best sex toys and vibrators for solo fun, while you’re at it.
Whatever you choose, just follow the advice above and chances are you’ll find what you’re looking for. Happy online dating!
In a perfect online dating world, the narcissists, commitment-phobes and other undesirables would label themselves as such in their profiles. But since that honesty would ruin their chances of meeting mates, they hide their unappealing qualities—or at least they think they do. We asked online dating coaches to reveal the almost-undetectable clues that you shouldn't bother with a particular fellow. Spot only one red flag amidst an otherwise stellar profile? Then he's probably worth at least an email. See more than one of the below, though, and you may want to keep on clicking.
1. He has only one picture. "If he isn't willing to provide more photos, he may be hiding something about his looks, usually his age or weight," says Virginia Roberts, an online dating coach in Seattle. Or it could signal something more troublesome if the profile's also low on written details, cautions Laurie Davis, founder of online dating consultancy eFlirt Expert and author of Love @ First Click: He may not be taking online dating seriously if he's not devoting much time to his profile.
2. He didn't write a bio. Most online dating sites allow you space to say more about yourself, in addition to answering the form questions and prompts. "If your match skipped this section, again, you should question whether or not he's actually looking for a relationship," says Davis. While she admits it's daunting to complete this part, Davis warns, "If you can't feel a connection with his profile, it may be challenging to feel drawn to him offline.
3. He describes himself as "loyal" and "trustworthy." "These are things about which you shouldn't have to reassure people from the get-go," says Roberts. "Specifically calling out these qualities can signal that you're anything but." Don't immediately discard the potential match; instead, proceed with caution, suggests Roberts. "If someone seems sweet and decent in the rest of his profile, it's possible that he got terrible writing advice from a friend."
4. He has a checklist of characteristics for his ideal mate. He wants a woman who likes hiking, spending time with family, dogs (specifically his two black labs), nonfiction, the mountains over the beach, traveling abroad and trying new cuisines. Not that he's picky or anything. Long lists "usually mean that your match has had a lot of bad experiences—and probably a terrible divorce—so he's looking to avoid these issues in the future," says Davis. In the end, however, Davis says it's perhaps the least egregious of the red flags. You're getting a glimpse of his baggage, she says, and everyone has baggage.
5. He uses words like can't, won't, shouldn't, couldn't, wouldn't and don't. He doesn't want a woman who works long hours. She shouldn't have pets. He can't stand talking about politics. A cousin of the previous red flag, an extensive list of negative declarations could show the dater is set in his ways. Still, you shouldn't necessarily steer clear of this man. "Many people translate differently on the page from what they are in person," says Davis. The first couple of emails can give you a clearer sense of his flexibility.
6. He's overly flirtatious or sexual. Davis says this is a major red flag. "Language is often indicative of someone's true intentions, so over-sexualizing a public profile shows he isn't selective and may be one-track minded." Roberts agrees, saying that kind of profile is "basically flirting with anyone who finds him," which doesn't make a woman feel special. It may also mean he doesn't know how to interact with women or pursue a relationship naturally, adds Roberts.
7. He wants a woman who "takes care of herself." Translation: He wants a woman with a fit physique, says Davis. Or it may mean he likes ladies who enjoy getting dressed up and putting on makeup. Before you write him off, Roberts advises looking at the rest of his profile. Has he specified a body type he's looking for? Are his pictures all of him doing active things? If so, ask yourself if that's consistent with your lifestyle and what you're looking for in a match.
8. Most of his sentences start with "I." It can mean this man is completely self-absorbed. On the other hand, "I" is the easiest way to talk about yourself in the narrative section of an online dating profile. So focus on the context and whether the "I" statements sound like bragging. If not, Roberts says, "It's way more telling whether his attention is balanced in messages and on actual dates with you."
9. You know exactly why his last relationship failed. "Divorcees, in particular, often feel the need to divulge the details of their marriage," explains Davis. This could be a sign that their last relationship ended recently, and he might not be as ready to move on as he thinks. But don't dismiss him over a mere mention. Roberts says many online daters make the mistake of mentioning an ex or a trait they didn't like in a past relationship in their profile. The red flag is multiple mentions and excessive details.
10. He says he's "not like other men." Comparing himself to other guys multiple times in his profile could be a sign of low self-esteem, perhaps from a lack of dating luck. Davis also warns, "Boasting that he's 'not like others' could mean he holds himself in high regard and expects you to stroke his ego." Roberts suggests you strike up a conversation if you like the other aspects of his profile and ask him to describe himself. If he continues to focus on comparisons to others, then don't pursue him.
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10 Irresistible Dating Profile Examples For Men
Struggling to come up with the perfect profile to attract women? The dating profile examples you're about to see could be a game changer.
And this article isn't just about what to say in your dating profile, it's about how you need to say it.
Most men have a very hard time figuring out what to write about themselves on a dating site, much less doing it in a way that women find irresistible.
The majority never get it right – and it's a crucial component of online dating.
And whether it’s Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, Match or one of the many others, your dating profile is truly make or break.
Write the wrong thing, and you’re doomed to fail. With your empty inbox serving as a constant reminder that your profile’s problematic.
On the other hand, when you write a compelling profile you can watch messages from what do guys look for in dating profiles women pile up and fill your dating calendar like clockwork.
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There are 100s of online dating sites and apps out there, but what reels in the ladies on Tinder could torpedo your chances on Bumble.
So we’re not only giving you incredible, witty profile examples you can use, we’re also telling you which dating site or app they work best on.
Let’s get started!
Tinder Profile Examples
In general, profiles on dating apps are much shorter than profiles for online sites like Match. Tinder’s character limit is 500, and on many apps profiles are even shorter than that.
While it’s tempting to skip writing anything at all and just rely on your awesome pictures, why miss the chance to win her over?
If she's hesitant to swipe right based on your looks alone, she'll use your profile to get an idea of your personality and make up her mind. And virtually all your matches will read it before responding to your message.
Epic Tinder profiles have three things in common. They:
- Keep it clean (sleaze doesn't play well, even on Tinder)
- Snag her attention
- Make her laugh, or at least crack a smile
You can get away with more exaggerated humor and funny/cocky attitude on Tinder than you can on other apps and dating sites.
So this is your chance to get creative, show some personality and have a little fun.
Here is a funny online dating profile example for men that really works:
#1: “Humorous, Over-The-Top” Profile for Tinder
And if you really want to rise above the competition, try a Tinder profile like this:
#2: “You Want Some of This?” Profile for Tinder
Want to boost your match rate on Tinder even more? Check out these Tinder tips!
Bumble Profile Examples
On Bumble, a top asian dating site matching with a woman can’t send the first message. And there’s another twist. Once the two of you have matched, she only has 24 hours to start the conversation.
Your profile needs to stand out from all those other guys if you want her to send a message your way.
Bumble's largest demographic is singles in their 20s, with just over 60% of users in the 18-29 age range. Roughly 30% of Bumble users are 30+, what do guys look for in dating profiles, with only 6% over 50, what do guys look for in dating profiles.
Bumble generally attracts online daters who are intelligent and successful, as it’s been marketed as a “female-friendly” alternative to Tinder. You definitely want to keep your profile classy to be successful on this app.
The 300-character-or-less limit means you have to make a big impact in a short space.
Highlight all your most attractive traits and qualities, like your job and your hobbies. Whatever will make her think, “Now there's a man I'd like to date!”
But the key here is Show, Don’t Tell – a rule that holds true for any type of online dating profile.
No one wants to read a boring list of adjectives.
So don’t tell her you’re an adventurous, loyal, fun guy who's curious about the world and what do guys look for in dating profiles a great sense of humor.
Nothing about that sentence will hold her interest; she’s already rolled her eyes and moved on to the next guy by the time she got to “fun”.
Show her what your personality is like instead. Give specific examples of things you’ve done that illustrate qualities like “adventurous”:
#3: “Show, what do guys look for in dating profiles, Don’t Tell” Profile for Bumble
You'll notice a lot of specific details packed into all these profiles.
That's part of what makes them such good online dating profile examples for men. Details make for built-in conversation starters!
When space is at a premium, emoji give you a way to share even more details with your match.
These colorful symbols instantly convey your message, and only take up 1 character each.
#4: Bumble Profile Using Emoji:
(Want more profile writing help? Check out these short dating profile examples and tips!)
The League Profile Example
Profile real estate is at an even bigger premium on The League. You've only got space for 140 characters to convince her you're message (and date) worthy.
Approach your League bio the same way you would a Bumble or Tinder profile, but be even more selective with what you choose to include.
When you're only reading a handful of words, dating profile clichés like “I love to travel” and “I stay active” do nothing to distinguish you from the countless other profiles she's skimmed that day.
Details, on the other hand, make your profile “pop” – and make you more memorable.
#5: The League Profile Using Specific Details:
For more great examples, check out these League profile tips for guys.
CoffeeMeetsBagel Profile Example
CoffeeMeetsBagel feeds users a limited number of matches per day.
So she’s pretty much guaranteed to peruse your profile. And the clock is ticking.
Once she's received your profile as one of her daily Bagels at noon, she’s only got 24 hours to “like” you.
You really need to bring your profile writing A-game – and that can be hard to do with a 276-character limit for each section!
The singles you’ll find on CMB are typically sophisticated, 30+ professionals looking for a relationship. The over-the-top attitude you can get away with on a more casual dating app like Tinder can be a turn-off on CMB if a potential match thinks you’re not taking it seriously.
But that doesn’t mean you can’t be funny or creative when answering CMB’s three profile questions: “I am…”, “I like…” and “I appreciate when my what do guys look for in dating profiles “Show, Don’t Tell” rule still applies, and now we’re going to add another one: The “70/30” rule.
On longer profiles, you want 70% of it to be about you, and 30% of it to describe what you’re looking for.
CMB profiles lend themselves naturally to this, since the entire last question is all about your dream girl.
Here’s an example to illustrate both rules in action:
#6: “Fool-Proof” Profile for CoffeeMeetsBagel
(Want more info on CMB? This CoffeeMeetsBagel review has everything you need to know about how it works, plus tips for attracting high-quality matches!)
Now let's take a look at a few longer dating profile examples for men…
Match Profile Examples
Match is one of the most popular mainstream dating sites, and a great place to meet attractive, intelligent people.
But since it’s so popular among successful, career-driven singles, your profile is up against a lot of competition.
We know a lot of tricks that will triple your response rate on Match, what do guys look for in dating profiles. But in order for those to pay off, your profile needs to stand out from the crowd:
#7: “Attention-Grabbing” Match Profile
If this dating profile example looks like an intimidatingly long block of text to write, don’t worry.
It’s easy when you tackle it as four separate paragraphs:
It's important to showcase your best assets in your profile, because the most beautiful women on the site have their pick of men.
You want to look what do guys look for in dating profiles an attractive prospect in more than just your photos.
Here is another example of how to do it right:
#8: “Irresistible” Profile for Match
Plenty Of Fish Profile Example
POF (PlentyOfFish.com) is one of the most popular free dating sites out there, with one of the largest user pools. But to attract the pretty fish, your profile needs to be tantalizing bait. (And it helps to know all the search hacks, too).
The good news is, you can reuse the “In My Own Words” section of your Match profile on your POF profile. No need to reinvent the wheel. When you’ve got something good, roll with it.
There what do guys look for in dating profiles, however, the prominently displayed “Conversation Starters/What You'd Like To Do On A First Date” section and you need to knock it out of the park. Anyone can suggest dinner, a movie, meeting for coffee, etc… but why do what everyone else is doing?
Capture her imagination with something so over the top she can’t help but be intrigued, and then suggest the more mundane ‘cup of coffee’ at the end. Here’s an example of a first date idea that’s sure to get her smiling:
#9: “First Date” Example for POF
OkCupid Profile Example
OkCupid is a melting pot of all different types of singles, from “alternative” types to hipsters and nerds and everything in between. For maximum success, you want your OkCupid profile to appeal to a broad range of potential matches, because “hot” comes in all categories.
The profiles on OkCupid are comprised of 9 main sections, each with a choice of 5 to 6 prompts.
You also have the opportunity to add even more topics to your OkCupid profile if you wish.
For each section you want to fill out, choose the prompt you think can best highlight a positive attribute of your personality. You can also add a picture.
No matter which prompts you choose to answer from the first two sections, the answers need to catch – and hold – her attention.
Only your first answer, or “essay”, will be visible on your profile, unless she taps “See Full Profile” to see the rest.
Two of the more difficult prompts are “My Self Summary” and “What I’m Doing With My Life.” The others pretty much write themselves….
#10: “Mass Appeal” Profile for OkCupid
(For even more OkCupid profile tips that will help you crush the competition, check out this article.)
3 Common Dating Profile Mistakes (That Can Torpedo Your Results)
Now that you know what a great dating profile looks like, here are 3 mistakes guys commonly make that could make her think twice about swiping right.
#1: Forgetting the basics, like spelling and grammar.
Little details like typos, bad (or no) punctuation, and misspelled or misused words can have a big effect on the first impression she’s forming.
In short, grammar matters, so much so that many women find bad sex preferable to bad grammar.
Ignoring spell check and failing to correct obvious errors in your profile is the equivalent of wearing dirty, wrinkled clothes on a first date. You cared enough to show up, but that’s about it.
#2: Wasting valuable profile real estate with negativity.
When a dating profile is super short, each word has a heightened impact.
Positive words, ideas and statements are generally much more attractive than describing what you don’t like or traits in a potential partner that turn you off, what do guys look for in dating profiles.
Also steer clear of sharing anything that hints at past relationship drama, what do guys look for in dating profiles, as she’ll likely interpret that as a sign you’re still packing around some heavy baggage.
#3: Getting overly complicated.
In general, the faster she can process the information that’s in your profile, what do guys look for in dating profiles, the more likable she’ll tend to find you.
Also remember she’s more than likely skimming your profile on a tiny phone screen, so shorter sentences and proper punctuation will go a long way toward keeping your profile easy to digest.
For example, a few line breaks would make this real-life Match profile example seem a lot less visually overwhelming:
Of course, what do guys look for in dating profiles, having the perfect dating profile is just the first step in the process.
Once you’ve got her attention, you need to keep it.
If your messages suck, it doesn’t matter how good your profile is… you still won’t meet the women you deserve.
Beginning to sound like a lot of work? It is, what do guys look for in dating profiles.
In fact, the average online dater spends 11.9 hours per week on dating sites (according to academic research). Part time job? You bet!
The worst part is this: Most men quit online dating within 3 months due to a lack of results.
Clearly, you need more than just a solid dating profile. What you really need is an expert in your corner…
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If you're a person who is dating or who has dated in the 100 free dating sites no hidden costs past, there's a pretty good chance that you've used an online dating site (like Match or OkCupid) or dating apps (like Tinder, Bumble and Hinge) to do it.
After all, a 2017 survey found that 70 percent of single men and women use dating apps while they're at work — and yes, that's JUST during their time on the job!
Let's be real. Movies might have us convinced that we can find true love in long-term relationships when we visit some whimsical location like a library, or by accidentally bumping dating app based on personality with a stranger while stooping to pick up a shiny new penny from the ground, but reality is different.
And if you want to date in reality, chances are your best bet when it comes to connecting with someone who has serious relationship potential is going to be traipsing into the world of online dating in one form or another.
Simply filling out a profile and crossing your fingers for good california dating apps simply isn't going to cut it, however.
If you want to stand out from the crowd, you've got to create a dating profile that will show men what an attractive woman you are, not send them running to hills!
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Now, I realize the chances are pretty high that you've already created one or two dating profiles in your day. Maybe you've even had some pretty decent returns too!
Or maybe, you haven't. Maybe you've tried to communicate everything awesome and lovable and cool and groovy about yourself, and for whatever reason, you're only attracting the creepiest of men, if any men at all.
That doesn't mean that you're a bad writer or that, worse still, you've got a bad personality. All it means is that you've been writing profiles that would appeal to you and maybe some other straight ladies, but you haven't yet written a profile that would capture the attention of what do guys look for in dating profiles kind of man you're looking for, because let's face it, men and women look for different things when they look at profiles on dating apps.
Here's something you dating websites where you can message for free already know: men are highly visually creatures.
Sure, they want to get to know you as a person, but first, their interest in your looks must be attained. This doesn't mean you need portrait level photographs. It just means that you need to make sure you have several clear, and full body shots of you, lovely you! However, that's not all that men look for when they are checking out a profile. In fact, men have a lot of serious feedback when it comes to talking about what works, and what absolutely doesn't, on dating profiles.
One redditor recently visited AskMen on Reddit to ask this question:
"Men of Reddit, what do guys look for in dating profiles, what makes you notice a women's online dating profile? I'm about to venture into online dating and I want to learn what to do and what not to do."
For insider takes on this issue, here's what men say they look for in women on dating apps like Tinder, Bumble, and Hinge.
1. Originality is key.
"If she actually put some effort to writing it and didn't just use dumb canned lines like, 'fluent in sarcasm' or 'looking for my partner in crime' or 'Venmo me $5 and see what happens.'"
2. Good pictures are just a start.
"Most guys swipe based on the pictures but proceed post-match based on profiles. Just because the match rate is really low for guys. But if your profile is Dating Russian Women ghost town or train wreck it doesn't really give us anything to start the conversation (and we're expected to start the conversation so give us something to work with!).
"You can also use your profile as a filter. If a guy opens based off your profile he's likely interested in dating (this requires a somewhat interesting profile). If it's a canned pickup line or the like he's liable to be trawling for something casual (not a 100% determinant, though)."
3. Actually just fill out a profile. Period.
"Just complete your profile and you'll be ahead of 90% of people. If you use actual sentences and don't use your profile to complain about guys, then you're in the top 1%."
4. Be specific and clear.
"'I'm really down to earth!' 'I have a bubbly personality!' I still don't know what these are supposed to mean, but from experience it's usually said by someone who is not down to earth and not very exciting."
5, what do guys look for in dating profiles. Let your pictures speak for you.
"Don't mention anything about your body in your bio. Let your pictures do the explaining, that's what they're there for. If there's something you feel like is noteworthy (for better or worse) just have a picture where it is recognizable and leave it at that.
"If what do guys look for in dating profiles have a really nice backside, I am 90% more likely to swipe right on someone who actually has a picture that shows it off than someone who just says so in their bio."
6. Ditch the Snapchat filters.
"On Tinder, the 'I'm a simple person who likes to laugh and spending time with people I love" means, I have no personality at all! That and Snapchat filters."
7. Just be yourself.
"Just be genuine. The most off-putting thing there was for me was just someone who's desperately trying to prove something. Like lists of deal breakers, or listing faults and saying deal with it, or awkward attempts at poetic language.
"Just a clear image of who you are, what you care about, where you want to go in life; even if the answer is you don't know."
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8. Share your interests.
"The best way to avoid being seen as uninteresting is to show that you have interests. Be specific, what do guys look for in dating profiles, not general.
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"You don't enjoy hiking and going to the beach, you drag your friends to the hiking trails one Saturday a month and spend every other weekend snorkeling. Just as an example."
9. Good pictures are key.
"The pictures are the first potential point of failure. So good quality ones that show you in an attractive light and your full body and easily identified, with at least one where you are the only person, are essential."
10. But include fewer friends in your photos, please.
"Having your very first picture be a group picture of you and your friends. It's wonderful that you have friends that you writing an online dating profile for guys things with, but if I see a group picture, I'm automatically going to assume that you're the least attractive one.
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"There's nothing wrong with not being as attractive as your friends, but the fact that you're trying to hide how you look means that you're already starting the potential relationship off what goes through guys heads when dating dishonesty."
11. Keep your lists offline.
"Lists. Just don't. Nothing makes me ignore a profile faster than a girl that starts listing off baseball-like stats of a guy that she will deem worthy of time. It reeks of vanity."
12. Sometimes, less is more.
"Don't overwrite. An underwritten profile doesn't do much of course, but clicking in to see a massive block of text guarantees I won't read every word."
13. Proofread!
"Use good grammar and punctuation, what do guys look for in dating profiles. I know it’s not fair, but whenever I saw a poorly-written profile, I’d think, 'She’s an idiot. Not worth my time.' (I also think guys who can’t write are idiots.)"
14. Use your own words.
"Don’t quote celebrities or writers or movies or anything like that. It’s lazy."
15. Keep it positive.
"Stay away from the no's in your profile narrative; the 'no jerks or players' sort of thing. When a woman mentions the negative it shows her as someone who's had the life taken out of her. Also don't be rude. I know there is a kind of double-standard with regards to this, meaning guys getting called out for being demanding while it can be seen as OK for women who do it. Just try to present the best you that you can through pics and words."
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Your phone lights up. Your online dating inbox has a new message. For a split second, you have hope. Maybe this message will be different than all the others. Maybe you will even find this free video dating attractive. Perhaps this email will finally be the one that doesn't have you contemplating the potential rise in serial killers populating your neighborhood.
You open your inbox, what do guys look for in dating profiles. Unattractive pictures. A profile written on a third grade level. And a message that seals the deal on the trifecta of feeling hopeless: "Wussup babe. You have the most beautiful brown eyes I ever seen. Wanna chat?" What do guys look for in dating profiles log what do guys look for in dating profiles, wondering if online dating was ever a good idea to begin with.
If this sounds familiar, don't get too down on your luck. The world of online dating is filled with the good, the bad and the downright ugly when it comes to suitors. But that doesn't mean you don't have control over your fate. Much of your destiny online depends on the quality of your online dating profile.
Sub-standard profiles will attract any man. Great profiles will attract the best men. Well, its time to become the best. With a bit of hard work and training, anyone can create a profile that will stand out from the competition and attract the right people. In this post, I am going to teach you a few steps to help make this happen. It's time to stop getting passed over and start getting noticed.
1, what do guys look for in dating profiles. The photo gallery is the gateway.
I hate to start this list on a shallow note, but no matter how amazing the written portion of your profile is, if the pictures are not up to par, the majority of men will never even read it. Sad, but true. This doesn't mean you have to be above-average in the looks department. All it means is you have to present yourself well. Make a calculated effort to post pictures that are both flattering to your particular look while also revealing the best aspects of your personality.
2. Provide "bait" for the reader.
Often, men will see a profile they are attracted to, struggle with what to say, get frustrated and consequently, skip to the next profile. They know they have to be interesting to get a response, but thinking of something interesting to say every single time they message a woman is very difficult.
Providing bait for the reader is the solution. Suppose you love camping. Writing in your profile that "I love camping in the summer," doesn't make it easy for the reader to strike up a conversation. However, let's suppose you change this statement to, "I'm always up for a night of camping out under the stars (don't forget to ask me about the time I was almost attacked by a bear!)."
This new and improved statement provides bait for men who want to message you. It gave them a question to ask you, making their life incredibly easy. The more bait you leave, the more likely men will message you without skipping to the next profile.
3. Do not become a walking cliché.
Let me guess. Sometimes you like go out on a Friday night, but sometimes you are OK what do guys look for in dating profiles in with a glass of wine and watching a movie, right? Welcome to the, "I'm the same as every other woman on this dating site" club. If you want to stand out from the crowd, reveal your personality in a unique way.
Instead, let's change the phrasing above to, "When I'm not out with my friends on a Friday night, I love curling up under the covers and watching a scary movie what do guys look for in dating profiles suggestions?)." In this revised statement, I have turned a cliché into a statement that has personality, flirts with the reader, provides bait and discusses the type of movies that I am specifically into.
4. Use language that displays confidence.
Many men and women unintentionally use language that displays a lack of confidence. For example, writing that "I really hope to meet a man who is smart, fun and handsome," doesn't sound terrible, but the word "hope" implies that you are the one chasing and "hoping" things will turn out OK. It subconsciously creates the image of a woman who has not had the best of luck with men in the past.
By changing this statement to, "the perfect man for me is smart, fun and handsome," the perception completely changes. This subtle change portrays the image of a woman who is confident, in control and knows what she wants. Stick to language that shows high levels of confidence whenever possible.
5. Avoid negative lists.
It is a huge mistake to create a massive list of turnoffs, deal-breakers and qualities that you are not looking for in a partner. While you may think this is a productive way to ward off unwanted suitors, all it does is make men think that you are a negative person and possibly jaded by one too many bad dates.
The unwanted suitors are going to arrive at your inbox no matter what you do. The key to your profile is to attract the ones you do want by appearing to be a happy, fun-loving person, what do guys look for in dating profiles. At the end of the day, quality men are attracted to positivity, not women who come across as disgruntled, overly picky and jaded.
6. Show that you can be one of the guys in your profile.
One of the best compliments a woman can ever receive is when a guy tells his friends, "She's awesome. She's like one of the guys." What guy wouldn't want to bring his girlfriend around his friends and feel totally comfortable? Being "one of the guys" every now and then doesn't just show that you are fun to hang out with; it also shows that you are not high maintenance, are down to earth and can have fun doing just about anything.
Suppose you don't like football, but like beer and wings. You don't have to lie and pretend to like football. But writing, "I may be a total foodie, but I am always up for a Sunday Fun Day, eating wings and drinking beer with the boys," can go a very long way. The more you show that you can be a potential best friend as well as a romantic partner, the better.
7. The one bad picture rule.
Having six pictures that generate attraction in a man can be completely destroyed by a seventh picture that completely turns a man off, what do guys look for in dating profiles. Many men online have their guard up when it comes to photo galleries, due to the amount of people that attempt to deceive others online. Seeing one unflattering picture is sometimes enough to make a man question everything he has seen prior to that photo. As a rule of thumb, you are only as good as your worst picture. This may seem harsh, but online dating can be a very shallow world.
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In a perfect online dating world, the narcissists, commitment-phobes and other undesirables would label themselves as such in their profiles. But since that honesty would ruin their chances of meeting mates, they hide their unappealing qualities—or at least they think they do. We asked online dating coaches to reveal the almost-undetectable clues that you shouldn't bother with a particular fellow. Spot only one red flag amidst an otherwise stellar profile? Then he's probably worth at least an email. See more than one of the below, though, and you may want to keep on clicking.
1. He has only one picture. "If he isn't willing to provide more photos, he may be hiding something about his looks, usually his age or weight," says Virginia Roberts, an online dating coach in Seattle. Or it could signal something more troublesome if the profile's also low on written details, cautions Laurie Davis, founder of online dating consultancy eFlirt Expert and author of Love @ First Click: He may not be taking online dating seriously if he's not devoting much time to his profile.
2. He didn't write a bio. Most online dating sites allow you space to say more about yourself, in addition to answering the form questions and prompts. "If your match skipped this section, again, you should question whether or not he's actually looking for a relationship," says Davis. While she admits it's daunting to complete this part, Davis warns, "If you can't feel a connection with his profile, it may be challenging to feel drawn to him offline.
3. He describes himself as "loyal" and "trustworthy." "These are things about which you shouldn't have to reassure people from the get-go," says Roberts. "Specifically calling out these qualities can signal that you're anything but." Don't immediately discard the potential match; instead, proceed with caution, suggests Free dating sites with no fees. "If someone seems sweet and decent in the rest of his profile, it's possible that he got terrible writing advice from a friend."
4. He has a checklist of characteristics for his ideal mate. He wants a woman who likes hiking, spending time with family, dogs (specifically his two black labs), nonfiction, the mountains over the beach, traveling abroad and trying new cuisines. Not that he's picky or anything. Long lists "usually mean that your match has had a lot of bad experiences—and probably a terrible divorce—so he's looking to avoid these issues in the future," says Davis. In the end, however, Davis says it's perhaps the least egregious of the red flags. You're getting a glimpse of his baggage, she says, and everyone has baggage.
5. He uses words like can't, won't, shouldn't, couldn't, wouldn't and don't, what do guys look for in dating profiles. He doesn't want a woman who works long hours. She shouldn't have pets. He can't stand talking about politics. A cousin of the previous red flag, an extensive list of negative declarations could show the dater is set in his ways. Still, you shouldn't necessarily steer clear of this man. "Many people translate differently on the page from what they are in person," says Davis. The first couple of emails can give you a clearer sense of his flexibility.
6. He's overly flirtatious or sexual. Davis says this is a major red flag. "Language is often indicative of someone's true intentions, so over-sexualizing a public profile shows he isn't selective and may be one-track minded." Roberts agrees, saying that kind of profile is "basically flirting with anyone who finds him," which doesn't make a woman feel special. It may also mean he doesn't know how to interact with women or pursue a relationship naturally, adds Roberts.
7. He wants a woman who "takes care of herself." Translation: He wants a woman with a fit physique, says Samsung dating apps. Or it may mean he likes ladies who enjoy getting dressed up and putting on makeup. Before you write him off, Roberts advises looking at the rest of his profile. Has he specified a body type he's looking for? Are his pictures all of him doing active things? If so, ask yourself if that's consistent with your lifestyle and what you're looking for in a match.
8. Most of his sentences start with "I." It can mean this man is completely self-absorbed. On the other hand, "I" is the easiest way to talk about yourself in the narrative section of an online dating profile. So focus on the context and whether the "I" statements sound like bragging. If not, Roberts says, "It's way more telling whether his attention is balanced in messages and on actual dates with you."
9, what do guys look for in dating profiles. You know exactly why his last relationship failed. "Divorcees, in particular, often feel the need to divulge the details of their marriage," explains Davis. This could be a sign that their last relationship ended recently, and he might not be as ready to move on as he thinks. But don't dismiss him over a mere mention. Roberts says many online daters make the mistake of mentioning an ex or a trait they didn't like in a past relationship in their profile. The red flag is multiple mentions and excessive details.
10. He says he's "not like other men." Comparing himself to other guys multiple times in his profile could be a sign of low self-esteem, perhaps from a lack of dating luck. Davis also warns, "Boasting that he's 'not like others' could mean he holds himself in high regard and expects you to stroke his ego." Roberts suggests you strike up a conversation if you like the other aspects of his profile and ask him to describe himself. If he continues to focus on comparisons to others, then don't pursue him.
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After two years of the coronavirus pandemic, dating habits have changed. More people are dating digitally, using mobile apps and websites, in part spurred on by the pandemic.
Some apps, like Tinder, Bumble and Hinge, noted a surge in users at the start of the pandemic. Data tracker Apptopia reported that in July 2021 there were 1.2 million more people using the top 50 dating apps than during the same month the previous year.
But what do guys look for in dating profiles when you're over 50 is far different from dating when you're 20. Taking the time to create an engaging online dating profile that contains a well-crafted bio with appealing photographs may make you stand out from the crowd.
Your profile is vital, says San Francisco Bay area dating and relationship coach Maya Diamond, because it says who you are and what kind of relationship you want. “When you're creating that in a thoughtful and intentional way, it can really help you find the right partner,” she adds.
Basic do's and don'ts for dating profiles
Most online dating profiles require your real name and where you live, but nearly all other information is up to you.
One basic rule is to be yourself, online dating experts say. “Don't write what you think people want to hear; write about what matters to you,” says Sophie Watson, spokeswoman for SilverSingles, a dating site exclusively for people age 50-plus. “If you have a quirky hobby or get delighted by something silly, make a reference to it. Chances are there's someone out there who will share your passion."
We all things about dating a asian girl Tinder is the biggest dating app of the decade so far.
It has its problems (as my brother Steve has written about before), but for many women who put themselves in the category of “single-and-looking”, it has been a game-changer.
Women who previously had never considered online dating in their lives are finding themselves swiping hours away looking for matches.
Why?
Because it’s simple: Upload few pics, write one line or two about yourself, and you’re done.
But that doesn’t mean Tinder suddenly makes dating easy…
In this article, I’m going to reveal exactly what men look for in what do guys look for in dating profiles woman’s Tinder profile, and show you some of the biggest mistakes I’ve seen women make in their photos and what do guys look for in dating profiles 6 MUST-DO’s For Your Profile Photos
Let’s face it, Tinder is all about the visual.
A photo of you is the first thing a guy is going to see, so it pays to put in serious thought here. Here are some very simple, yet crucial, tips for making sure you draw a guy’s eye when he sees your picture:
• Make sure your first picture is a close-up
Your very first photo should be a close-up of your face, roughly from about the chest upwards.
A full body shot doesn’t give a guy enough indication of your facial features, and if it’s too zoomed out it’s likely he’ll just never bother to even click the profile to check out your other pictures.
• Either smile, or flirt to camera
There are two options for a great profile photo: either a simple one of you smiling to the camera, or alternatively, research has tended to show that having a slight smirk and a flirtatious look in your eyes is also likely to draw a lot of attention.
If in doubt, go for a warm genuine smile that captures you in the best light.
• Use several photos
The first photo is what draws him in, but it’s the rest of the photos that keep him interested. It’s crucial to ensure you have around 3-5 photos in your profile.
Speaking as a man, more photos are the key to building initial trust and a feeling of security. No matter how attractive you look in your main profile picture, a guy will always be asking himself, “Does she always look like that? Or is that just a particularly one-off spectacular photo of her?”
Choose a few pictures, and make sure to vary the poses and locations a little! E.g. if you used a selfie for your main profile photo, avoid using three more selfies for the other pictures.
Include at least one photo if possible in your Tinder profile that can inspire conversation. For example, one of you in front of the Eiffel Tower or a historic landmark, or doing something physical and adventurous.
• No wacky profile pics
I feel patronizing bringing this up, but I have to say it: Keep the “wackiness” out of your main profile photo. Preferably all photos.
Don’t use that photo of you in the blood-dripping Dracula mask from Halloween. Or the one where you pulled a deliberately goofy face.
There is a time and a place for showing your silly side. But that place is definitely not on the first photo he’s going to be using to decide whether or not he wants to find out what do guys look for in dating profiles about you.
• Selfies are ok – but do them right
Chances are you might just want to make yourself up, hold up your phone and snap a selfie for your profile pic. That’s fine.
But some crucial rules: don’t do it in the bathroom mirror where he can see the camera in the reflection. Don’t do it as if you were just sitting on the couch and snapped the blurriest, most slap-dash shot you could take.
And make sure to try and crop out your arm, unless you happen to be standing in front of some extremely compelling background (i.e. an Egyptian Pyramid, the Leaning Tower of Pisa). And don’t do the duck face (sorry, had to mention it).
• Include at least one full body pic
Everyone wants to know what they are going to get if they decided to meet you in person. One of the ways to do this is to include at least one full what do guys look for in dating profiles shot in your photos.
If all your photos are taken from the chest upwards, he may be hesitant because he’s wondering what the rest of your body looks like.
That might sound shallow, but think of it the other way around. You wouldn’t want to be surprised by a guy’s enormous dating sites for permaculture gut or his hidden bald spot if every picture he uses has him hiding his torso or wearing a baseball cap.
How To Write Your Bio: A few killer examples
Ok, what about writing your bio? Well, believe it or not, although men are indeed visual creatures, he will judge you based on what your write on your Tinder profile.
So here are a three great, but different examples of bio’s to get you started…
Profile Example 1 – Jen
Bit of a nerd, what do guys look for in dating profiles. I like comic books and super heroes. And zombies.
I can be a little competitive. Okay, a lot competitive. ;)
I dig beards (Think Gerard Butler, not Gandalf) and guys that are passionate about something. Even better if you are passionate about something I know nothing about yet.
Profile Example 2 – Michelle
General goofball. Embarrassingly affectionate, lol. Ambitious.
Survival kit:
– Family, great friends
– Passport
– Chocolate
– Intelligent conversation
– A clean place.
I have 3 superpowers: 1. Winning Cards Against Humanity 2. Replicating nearly anything I taste without the recipe 3. Well, if I told you…
Profile Example 3 – Sara
Opera-loving, nightclub-dancing, romcom fan. Yea, it’s a weird mix ;) I live to travel and see new places. More of a city than a country girl. Looking for a guy to read books and eat brunch with on Sundays.
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As you can see above, profiles can vary from short to long, but there are some key principles to keep in mind:
Do
• Sound optimistic
All the profiles above have a sense of fun and enjoyment. They show a woman willing to be playful and not take herself too seriously. Guys love this relaxed, open-minded attitude to life.
• Show your personality through your interests
Giving a hint of your interests is the key to making conversation easy. It gives a guy the perfect first message when he can say “What’s your favorite horror movie?” instead of “Wut up?”
• Say something about what top lesbian dating sites like in a guy
You don’t need to describe him in detail but giving a little clue that you love guys who dress well, or that you want a partner who loves travel, gives him a sense of who you are and whether you have compatible personalities.
Don’t
• Give angry dealbreakers
No guy feels excited when he reads the bio that says, “If you’re not a dog person, swipe left!”, or “If you’re just looking for hookups, forget it!” – these just make you sound waaay too intense.
• Write boring clichés
Many people write a single line from a quote on their bio e.g. “Life. Laugh. Love” – that’s not a description, it’s a regurgitated line that 10,000 other women also wrote on their profile. Be original and use your own voice if you want guys to be interested.
• List a bunch of adjectives
e.g. “I’m smart, funny, adventurous, crazy, ambitious, kind…” who cares? It’s ok saying one or two traits about yourself, but it’s much better to SHOW these things through your interests and the things you do.
So that’s it!
Remember, being fun, showing your best side, and most importantly, being YOU are the most important ways find the right guy on Tinder.
Although it’s by no means the only game in town and it has its limitations, it’s definitely a decent way to meet a guy (so long as you are vigilant about screening out the bad ones!) Happy swiping.
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