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What makes OkCupid stand out from other dating apps is that it allows users to provide more information about themselves through a variety of questions available in the system. Different from the profile information as on Tinder, OkCupid matches users based on 10 to more than a thousand detailed questions about personality, habits, hobbies, lifestyle, political opinion, religion, love, and sex.
Questions like: "Do you think evolutionary theory or creationism should be taught in school?" "What are you looking for here: someone to spend the night with, someone to hang out with, or someone to get married?" "Are men the breadwinner of the family?" help this app draw a detailed picture of the user's inner mind. From there, OkCupid calculates the matching level of users on a 100% scale and recommends the best matches for users.
On the other hand, the investment of effort and time to complete their profiles is also a big barrier for new users. They have to spend hours adding information and answering as many questions as possible to fully exploit the potential of this dating platform.
Like Tinder, OkCupid also suggests partners based on geolocation. If there are few people in your area who use OkCupid, your chances of meeting someone who is right for you are also significantly reduced. It can be said that the matchmaking scale on OkCupid is small but the found soulmates are more high quality.
7. Sky People 스카이피플
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Sky People is one of the most controversial dating apps in Korea. It only accepts male users who graduated from prestigious universities, are working for big companies, are lawyers, or doctors. On the contrary, female users are accepted as long as they are from 20 to 39.
Male users have to send materials and certificates to prove their academic status, for example, a bachelor’s degree from one of the top SKY universities in Korea - Seoul National University, Korea University, and Yonsei University. With more than 150.000 users, this app was still ranked the first in the Top paid dating apps of Google Playstore Korea.
8. 1km
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Despite what’s shown in K-Dramas and K-Pop that have become popular all around the world, the reality of dating a Korean guy can be much different. To make sure no one is fooled by the fantasy, Kelsey The Korean shared seven things to expect when dating a Korean guy—from the perspective of herself and experiences from her foreign friends.
1. Relationship > Sex
Whether you’re a Korean or a foreigner, a Korean guy won’t make any sexual advances until a relationship has been established—if he’s serious about you.
[Guys] and girls both think that it is very unsuitable for you to have sex before you’re actually girlfriend and boyfriend.
— Kelsey
If a guy asks a girl out on a date, they “go out for a couple of very non-sexual dates.” Even then, “it’s controversial” how much physical affection is allowed, with some considering the mere act of holding hands as crossing the line.
2. Hooking Up
While hookup culture is extremely popular in certain parts of the world, especially in western culture, one-night stands are still “a bit taboo” in Korea. Instead, hooking up immediately shuts down any possibility of a relationship.
It’s just a rule in Korea. If you just sleep before anything, you guys are just that. It’s really weird for you to go on to a date afterward.
— Kelsey
3. Bad Sex Is Real
Since dating takes “two to three months” to get to know each other and make things official, the sex may not always measure up to expectations. It causes the dilemma of whether to stay in that relationship or move on to something better where emotional AND physical needs can be met.
It can be both good and bad. Good in the way that it increases the emotional connection, but bad in the way that, a lot of the time, sexual life is maybe really, really lacking.
— Kelsey
4. No Going Dutch
While western dating can be fluid in who pays for dates, like splitting the cost down the middle, that’s not the case for Korea. Korean guys often pay for the majority of dates to stay in line with society’s gender roles.
They feel pressured that they have to pay for you because of the toxic masculinity and the man-box that exists in Korea. So in Korea, gender roles are still very rigid compared to a lot of western cultures.
— Kelsey
5. Dating = Serious
While some people date just to enjoy each other’s company, Korean guys do so with the intention of marrying someone or staying with them for a long time. “From the beginning to the end,” Korean guys treasure their relationships.
When you’re actually in a relatinship, they take it way, way, way seriously. I’ve heard some guys in their early twenties say that when they’re in a relationship, they think about marriage.
— Kelsey
6. English Is Rare
Although foreigners can travel around Korea rather easily, the majority of Korean guys aren’t fluent in English or only know the bare basics.
Even though Kelsey attends one of the prestigious SKY universities (Seoul National University, Korea University, and Yonsei University), she revealed that it was rare to find a Korean guy who was fluent in English if that wasn’t part of their major.
I want to tell you that 99% of Korean dudes can’t speak English, or [are] not that good at it, or [are] insecure about their English.
— Kelsey
7. Preferences
Because many Korean guys can’t speak English, “they are not used to different cultures and different ethnicities.” That makes the possibility of Korean guys dating non-Korean girls slim—unless they fulfill the fantasy of the western white girl.
There are Koreans that date and marry ethnicities that are other than white, but it’s a really, really slim chance.
— Kelsey
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Hi guys!
Back with another blogpost, this time regarding the topic of dating in Korea.
To cut it short: dating here is fun but red flags exist that you might want to be aware of.
Of course this is all based on my own experiences and what I heard from friends. Not every person in Korea behaves like that, but they definitely exist.
1. Are Koreans interested in dating foreigners?
Yes. A lot are actually, I’d like to say. But always remember: if you’re a foreigner in Korea, a country that is surrounded by North Korea and the ocean, foreigners are might seen as “exotic” here. Of course there are way more foreigners coming and living in Korea than a few years ago, but you’re still the subgroup here. That makes it more interesting to some people here in the first place.
2. How do people meet?
It’s common amongst Koreans to meet within friend groups or to get introduced to a friend of a friend. This blind date method is called 소개팅 (Sogetting). Other than that there are of course online dating apps (Tinder, Bumble & Co) or you meet someone while going out at clubs, bars etc. There are also special bars, literally called “Hunting Bars” to go to if you want to meet someone to (mainly) hook up with. Being approached on the street or the supermarket is not a thing here and very uncommon.
3. Foreigners living in Korea
Most of the time foreigners are only here for a limited amount of time e.g. for working holiday or a semester abroad. And Koreans are aware of that. So that’s making foreigners a great target for hook-ups. If you get the chance to be able to build up a legit relationship it’s of course a different kind of story. There are always exceptions.
4. Foreigners as trophies / “riding the white horse”
Did you know there’s actually a term for hooking up with a foreigner? No? It’s called “riding the white horse” and means exactly what you think it is. Sometimes guys like to show off within their friends group by dating a foreign girl. Again: not every one thinks that way, but there are definitely people here using these terms.
5. “Do you live alone?” / “Have you dated a Korean before?”
These questions pop up quite quickly while starting a conversation. But – a healthy reminder – for Koreans, that mostly live at their family’s home until they’re married, living alone is a jackpot. Cause they don’t have to pay for a Love Motel* in order to be alone with you.
*A Love Motel is a place where couples go to enjoy some privacy because they can’t do that at their parents’ home.
By asking you if you have dated a Korean before, they’re basically checking if you’re open to meet.
6. “You want to get some ramen at my place?” = “Netflix & Chill”
This never happened to me, but I heard a lot of stories where guys would ask a girl for having ramen late night at their place or somewhere else. Girl, he doesn’t want to actually eat ramen. It’s a synonym for our “Netflix & chill”.
7. Let’s do language exchange!
Yeah, good old language exchange. If you see this e.g. in a bio in an online dating app – he’s probably not actually interested in learning your language. It’s more a sign of “hey, I’m open to date a foreigner!”
8. FWB? ONs?
FWB = Friends with benefits, ONs = One Night Stands. They’ll straightly write it in their bio in online dating apps – yet again: friends with benefits don’t really mean becoming friends. I guess you’d just meet up once and that’s it.
9. “Foreigners are so open-minded!” / “I only date foreigners”
Foreign-hunter alert! Yet again, open minded doesn’t mean being tolerant to diverse topics or beliefs. It’s more a synonym for being ok with having sex quickly. Korean girls for example wait way longer until sleeping with someone than maybe a foreign girl would (of course I don’t want to generalize anything here, but you get the point) and might have different/higher expectations how a guy should behave. If he only dates foreigners it can be due to this reason.
Sometimes Koreans that have been abroad for a while prefer to actually date foreigners because of their different mindset though. So of course it depends.
Sidenote: I also heard from a guy that he thought that American girls for example are very “easy”, because of their displayed behavior in “College Movies” (e.g. American Pie). So I guess stereotypes in western countries about Korean men exist because of K-dramas and stereotypes in Korea about western girls exist because of these kind of movies.
10. Ghosting
Ghosting is super common in Korea. Even if a date went well, it can happen that they won’t reply to your messages anymore. Reallife-Ghosting is a thing too. I heard about people waiting for someone to show up to a date and the person never came. Another example is guys finding strange excuses to leave in the middle of a date or stop texting you.
11. Secret Kakaos
Kakaotalk is the number one messenger app here. They don’t use WhatsApp, everything is linked to Kakaotalk. You can find a person on the app by adding their personal ID. But did you know some people have “secret Kakaos”?
It’s basically a second account – I’d say you can spot it due to missing profile pictures (none, or not a real one of the person) and not a real displayed name on it. Only a symbol or one letter for example. If someone gives me a Kakao like that, I already see a gigantic red flag and think this person has to hide something – maybe a relationship?
12. Cheating
Cheating is unfortunately quite common here, too. Koreans get into “relationships” super fast with each other but not every relationship actually lasts that long. Because everything is so fast moving here, Koreans count days instead of months while being in a relationship. Yeah. If your relationships lasts 90 days (3 months), that’s actually already a big deal.
13. Online relationships
Hun, I hate to break it down to you, but if you met a guy online in the first place, you’re living far away, never met before and having basically an online-exclusive relationship – he’s probably having a girlfriend or dating in Korea besides that. Once I met someone who legit told me straight into my face within the first 10 minutes that he has a girlfriend in Russia, that is actually about to move to Korea for him next month. When I told him I want to leave the date because I feel super uncomfortable, he was telling me “oh, but she doesn’t have to know.”
So…just imagine how many guys actually date here and are not telling you about their (LDR) girlfriends.
14. “Let’s go to a DVD Bang or to Noraebang”
DVD Bangs are basically little rooms with TVs in it to watch movies, have some snacks and spend time together. You can rent them per hour. Because it’s very private, a lot of younger couples actually use it for something else cause most of the time they can’t afford a Love Motel – yeah, you see where this is going.
Same if he wants to go to a Noraebang Place with you (Karaoke Room). Maybe he actually wants to sing, but if you don’t really know him that well at that point it’s maybe more for being alone with you and take advantage of the situation. Just trust your guts and decide if you feel comfortable with that person.
Did you know about all this?
There are of course nice guys out there too, but you really have to pay attention for red flags and trust your guts. I guess the best way to actually meet a sincere person is through a mutual friend, 소개팅 (Sogetting) or at work, university etc! 🙂
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Noondate is another unique dating app in Korea. Similar to its name, this app helps to connect two suitable people at noon every day, based on their locations. Two profiles will be sent to each user at noon every day. As a user, you have to choose one of the two profiles to see more details and you can express your interest in that profile. If that person also “likes” you back, the get-to-know each other's process will start. A chat room will be opened so that two people can text each other.
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4. DangYeonSi 당연시
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1km is a popular dating app for Korean people who want to participate in cultural and social clubs such as cinema club, hiking club, studying club, or cycling club. Users can also create their own clubs. This app is designed to connect people which are about 1km away from your phone. Users can use 1km not only as a dating app but also as a tool to socialize with friends of the same hobbies.
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