Tired of not getting responses to the messages you send on online dating sites and apps?

Whether it’s alovex.co, OkCupid, POF, Tinder, or Hinge, sending that first message to a girl you really like and getting no response is one of the worst things about online dating.

Especially when it happens over and over.

That’s a big reason why many online daters give up entirely within just a few months.

But don’t throw in the towel just yet &#; we’ve got 11 online dating first message examples that work like magic to get responses, and you can use them today!

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Not only will you get proven-to-work examples you can use right now, you’ll also get the online dating message tips you need to come up with your own unique conversation starters &#; and the best times to send them.

Just follow the expert advice in this short article and watch your inbox fill up with women who are excited to meet you in person!

First Message Strategy #1: Go For Laughs

Funny online dating messages get responses because women naturally find guys with a sense of humor attractive. It’s true &#; scientists have proven it.

But the key to having a successful first message, of course, is actually being funny.

On Tinder, you can pair an attention-grabbing GIF with a humorous message&#;

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On a dating site like alovex.co or POF, you could make a joke about the shared experience of scrolling through profile after profile&#;

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Finding common ground is a pro move, because if you can make her think the two of you are similar she’s more likely to respond.

Women are simply more comfortable around people who remind them of themselves.

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First Message Strategy #2: Connect On Common Ground

Travel makes an awesome subject for a first message because it’s something most women enjoy doing, or at least enjoy dreaming about.

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And who doesn’t like to at least think they have a great sense of adventure? It's a topic you'll find mentioned in just about every person's profile.

Many online dating sites have keyword searches, so you can filter for women who also enjoy a certain hobby.

So if you’re into skiing, you can send a &#;stock&#; message about a certain topic to any interesting women who mention it in their profiles.

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On a dating app like Tinder or Bumble, you can take a quick glance at her photos and bio to see if any common interests jump out.

For instance if you find you both love dogs, this would be a good first message for online dating&#;

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You’ll save a ton of time once you have a “go-to” copy and paste message for any hobby that you’d like to share with your matches. (Skeptical about the effectiveness of copy & paste? Read this article.)

First Message Strategy #3: Inspire A Craving

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(Note: A long message like this example is a better fit for dating sites like Match, OkCupid or POF. You’re going to want to keep your messages quite a bit shorter on apps like Tinder and Bumble.)

Certain words are attention-grabbing because they sound delicious. Chocolate, cheesecake, ala mode… who wouldn’t want to keep reading?

Notice how it starts off with a light compliment.

Complimenting her will often give you points, but only if you focus on intangible qualities like intelligence or her accomplishments.

Don’t make the rookie mistake of praising her physical appearance, especially when you're trying to start a conversation with a girl online for the first time.

Tons of guys do it, and she gets tons of messages with some variation of “you’re hot”. Paying her a more meaningful compliment is a breath of fresh air for her.

Mentioning something yummy-sounding works just as well on dating apps. In fact, dating app Hinge discovered girls are 40% more likely to reply to messages about food.

Here’s a short, delicious sounding message that’s perfect for a dating app&#;

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First Message Strategy #4: Get Personal

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It’s basic human nature to love talking about yourself.

In fact, it literally stimulates your brain and makes you feel good.

Ask her an open-ended question that gets her to share something about herself, and she’s instantly in her Happy Place. And the better she feels about talking to you, the more likely she is to share her number.

The example above is more suited for an online dating site where longer messages are the norm, but you can get her talking about herself on a dating app with a short message like this&#;

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First Message Strategy #5: Show Off Your Creative Side

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Most of your competition is sending her lame first messages like “Hey, how was your weekend?” and “Hi, I’m John.”

That’s great news for you, because it gives you the opportunity to shine by asking her an interesting, funny or creative question like this&#;

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So What Do All These First Messages Have In Common?

They all accomplish 3 things:

1. They instantly pique her curiosity. If she doesn’t even want to keep reading, why would she bother responding, much less want to meet you in person?
2. They set you apart from the crowd. Remember, if she’s getting tons of messages from guys just like you. You’ve got to out-message them every time.
3. They ask her a question. You need to make it as easy as possible for her to respond, and controlling the conversation is a simple way to do it.

Those three elements are crucial if you want to get a response to your online dating opener.

Miss one of them, and she’s moving on to the next person.

The Best Time To Send Your First Message

To increase your odds of getting a response to your message, send them at a time it’s likely to be convenient for her to answer.

Weekday evenings are generally the best time to send an online dating icebreaker. Many women unwind from a long day at work by firing up a dating app while catching up on Netflix.

According to Nielsen, activity on both OkCupid and Tinder peaks at 9 pm, and usage starts to rapidly decline after 10 pm. On Bumble, the real action starts a little earlier, with activity peaking at 6 pm.

And if you happen to find yourself stuck inside due to inclement weather like a blizzard, hurricane or rainstorm, put these first message examples to good use.

NBC News did a little investigating, and found that bad weather goes hand in hand with increased activity on dating sites and apps.

In many cases, the increase was pretty dramatic. During winter storm Juno, activity on Hinge picked up by a whopping 47%, which led to a 56% spike in the number of phone numbers exchanged, and an incredible 96% increase in 2-way message exchanges.

On OkCupid, a little rain translates to a 10% increase in activity on the site. On Match, activity typically increases around 33% during snowstorms, and big storms go hand in hand with a % increase in Bumble activity.

Throw a pandemic into the mix, and there's never been a better time to download a dating app & start trying to meet someone special online.

No Response To Your First Message? Here’s What To Do Next!

Of course, there’s no copy and paste message that’s guaranteed to start a conversation every time you send it.

There are a ton of variables involved, like your photos and your online dating profile. If those aren’t top notch, our Ultimate Guide To Online Dating has all the tools and tips you need to bring them up to snuff.

Other variables you can’t control, like what she’s doing when she’s reading your message.

If she’s sneaking a peek at her Match messages in between meetings, she may not have a chance to respond and forget to come back to it later.

So if f you don’t get a response, give her a second chance.

Try a light-hearted follow up message like this one&#;

Second Message Example:

But if she still doesn’t bite, move on.

The more messages you send, the more desperate you look. Besides, there’s plenty more interesting, attractive women out there so focus your efforts on them.

Why Savvy Guys Use Copy & Paste Messages

Now let’s talk about the elephant in the room: copy & paste messages.

A few online dating “experts” will tell you they don’t work. Online daters are too smart to fall for them. They’re a huge turn off.

Blah blah blah. Those guys clearly haven’t done their homework.

Here’s the truth in a nutshell.

Statistically speaking, you’re looking at an uphill battle.

The average guy has to crank out messages in order to be 99% sure of getting one reply &#; and spend around hours a week doing it.

Given that fact, why would you spend tons of time scanning each and every woman’s profile, then writing a message customized just for her?

That's crazy &#; you don't have that kind of time, especially when it's a numbers game. There’s a much better way to beat those odds, and boost your response rate at the same time.

Here at VIDA, we’ve been using the copy and paste approach since

Not only do copy and paste messages work, but we get incredible results for our clients with them. Our in-house data doesn’t lie.

Other industry experts recognize the wisdom of the copy and paste method as well.

OkCupid’s Christian Rudder said using template messages not only saves you time in the short term, but they’re a more effective long-term strategy as well.

And even if a woman calls you out on sending a template message, so what?

You’ve gotten a response that you can turn into a conversation. And many intelligent daters recognize the wisdom of using them, like this woman who weighed in on a Quora forum discussion:

When your first message is interesting and creative, the odds are good she’s going to reply to it.

Why? Because when you ask her a question that’s fun to think about and respond to, you’ve sparked an emotional connection.

That’s the reason you’re not getting good results (if any) with first messages like “Hey” and “Hi there”.

Where’s the fun in writing a response to that?

And even worse, you’ve put the burden of continuing the conversation on her, so coming up with a response is work for her.

The hotter she is, the more burdened with messages she gets, so she’ll only respond to the best messages in her inbox.

Nothing kills your online dating game quicker than being dull, assuming she's on a dating app just to hook up, or sounding just like every other guy who's messaged her that day.

Meet More High-Quality Women &#; Fast!

We’ve shared 11 first message examples that work brilliantly, but that’s only the beginning. You’ll be getting a ton of responses, which means you’ve got to keep the online dating conversation going and ask her out.

You have to keep her attention every step of the way, and build attraction with every message. Yup &#; there’s a reason so many guys complain that modern dating is exhausting.

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A first impression is everything. But when that first impression is reduced to a single line it becomes magnified. If meeting someone in person, you have time to redeem yourself or shape your image. Online dating doesn’t grant users such opportunities. For the intrepid online dater, this one line is your only chance to make an impact. Below you’ll find 50 online dating first message examples for guys that have been proven to work. But before you scan the list, copy, and paste, here are some things to keep in mind.

Get Acquainted With Her Profile

The best types of messages are personalized. A generic, “Hey, what’s your favorite movie?” is nothing compared to a more tailor-made message. To make a message personal, read through her entire profile to get a sense of her likes and dislikes. Don’t ignore the fact that she mentioned “Forget meditating to relax, I do PEMDAS instead.” Address her profile by responding to something she wrote.

Edit/Revise

It’s all about creating awesome first impressions. So when you slovenly write “your” when you should’ve written, “you’re,” you come off as a bit juvenile. A quick read through of your message before you send it ensures that any grammatical or spelling errors will be remedied.

Before pressing send, revise your message. The best writers in the world spend hours throwing away entire pages before they’re written something of worth. Take a note from the greats and think of the first message you write as a rough draft. Compose yourself before sending it off and ask if you can write an even better online dating first message. Chances are you can.

Be Different

She’s already getting inundated with vapid “H factor” words like: hi, hey, hello, hola, etc. If you don’t believe me, ask to see a female friend’s Tinder account and check for yourself. An insipid first message isn’t worth responding to unless your profile makes you out to be a superhero. Being different will make you stand out. When the recipient can tell that you’ve taken the time to write something unique, she’ll feel special. That’s never a bad thing.

Online Dating First Message Examples for Guys

When She Has No Written Bio

This is a tough one. How are you expected to create a personalized message when the written portion of her profile is blank? Hopefully you can glean enough about her from her photos to write her a witty first message. But if she’s only posted bathroom selfies, there’s little chance of that. There are two things you can do in this situation. One is to ditch her. Is the prolific bathroom selfie taker really the type of girl you want to be chasing? Option two is that you can ask her a probing question that forces her to tell you something about herself. Here are a few online dating first messages that will help you out.

Online Dating First Message Examples #1: “Hey Chelsea, tell me something cool about yourself.”

Whenever possible, use her name. Dale Carnegie, author of one of the best selling books of all time, How to Win Friends & Influence People, says that “a person’s name is, to that person, the sweetest and most important sound in any language.” Writing her name gives the message a personal touch.

Follow it up by soliciting information about her. Asking her to tell you something cool about herself is to ask her to prove her worth. It also works because now you’ll get to know something unique about this stranger. When possible, skip the default getting-to-know-you questions and opt for something a bit more edgy.

Line 2: “So tell me Rebecca. What was the last song you belted?”

This is a variation of the oft-asked question of, “What’s your favorite band?” This question more easily leads to an in-depth conversation. More so than learning about her musical interests, this question seeks to find out how that specific song was selected, where it was sung, and why. There’s a story connected to the question. It’s fun for the recipient because she’s never received a first message like this one before. The act of recalling the song and basking in the enjoyment of singing it is a fun mental exercise.

Line 3: “Let’s skip the customary ice breakers. Instead, tell me something weird about you.”

Again we see the banal opener being sidestepped for a stimulating question. She’s likely to tell you something odd about herself because you’re currently nothing more than a stranger. To her, this conversation just became a quirky little game.

Line 4: “Your profile says so much about you, but I can’t help but think that I’m missing something. Before we go any further, is there anything else I should know about you?”

This request for information will likely lead to her sharing the information that she was too lazy to write in her profile. The message works because it’s flirty on a subtle level. Her profile says absolutely nothing about her. You’re playfully poking fun at how god-awful her profile is. You will surely elicit an interesting response with such a question.

Line 5: “So tell me Mariela. How can I make you fall in love with me?”

Yup, it’s bold, but that’s why it’ll work. The message isn’t salacious or irreverent. It’s innocent enough to be romantic. It’ll make her comb through her past experiences to figure out what it takes for her to fall in love with a guy. If she answers, she’ll be giving you the key to her heart. Now all you have to do is walk through the labyrinth to get to the door.

Line 6: “Tell me a secret” or “Tell me something you don’t want your Mom to know about you.”

There’s no better way to accelerate a bond than through the sharing of secrets. Ask her to tell you something her mother doesn’t even know about her.

Line 7: “Did you know Sarah Palin calls her husband Todd, the “First Dude”?

Pretty much any fun fact about Sarah Palin is gold. This one just happens to be one of the funnier ones. When in doubt, send her a random, yet funny fact.

Line 8: “What does your perfect day look like? Also… if it involves anything to do with rock climbing can I come with?”

The first question alone is a bit generic. Other dudes have probably messaged her that exact line. But by revealing what you like to do she learns a little bit about you, thus making you more human in her eyes and thus more worthy of a response.

Line 9: “So Jessica, tell me. What do you do for fun when you’re not flirting with strangers you met on Tinder?”

Two things are happening here. You’re showing a genuine interest in getting to know her while (hopefully) making her laugh. It’s the perfect combination of edgy and authenticity.

Line Is it just me or is Meryl Streep by far the most overrated actor?

Right though? Everyone has seen a Meryl Streep movie and thus it’ll be more or less easy for her to comment. Personally, I’d agree. She’s good, but she’s not Daniel Day Lewis.

When Her Bio Includes Info About Her Favorite Show/Series

Online Dating First Message Examples for Guys # “Love is like starting a sentence that goes nowhere and just hopes to find meaning along the way.”

Any devout follower of The Office will recognize this variation of a Michael Scott quote. Sure it’s dorky, but if you send this, you’ll just have combined her two most favorite things. Michael Scott and falling in love.

Line The Office Trivia: Who Said It? “Dwight you ignorant slut!”

Generally I’d say stay away from including the word slut in an online dating first message, but when it’s a The Office quote, an exception can be made. The beauty of trivia is that it works for any show. Just pick whichever show she’s interested in and make your own trivia question.

Line “Did you know Ryan Gosling and Rachel McAdams didn’t get along at first? I never would have guessed it.”

Sure it’s cliché, but you’re bound to run across a woman who lauds The Notebook in her profile. Don’t shy away from broaching it. Always steer the conversation towards things she likes.

Line “I don’t know how I’ve made it this far without being exposed to any Game Of Thrones spoilers. Almost there!”

Spoilers are the bane of any serial series watcher. Bond over your shared ability to elude spoilers and love for one of the greatest dramas of all time. To the wall!

Line I don’t know if this is going to work out Vanessa. Roma was hands down the most overrated movie of I tried to like it, I even watched it twice, but I just couldn’t.”

There’s nothing wrong with being a bit edgy. Most men that strike up a chat online are at fault for being too agreeable. Playfully and respectfully show her that you disagree with what she’s said about her favorite movie. It’ll quickly lead to a stimulating conversation.

When She Talks About Pizza

Online Dating First Message Examples # “Have you tried the La Regina pizza at Tony’s down in North Beach? It won the gold cup over in Italy.”

It doesn’t mater if she isn’t in San Francisco. Every foodie loves to talk about their favorite spots to eat. If she’s a pizza eater, ask her if she’s tried pizza at a particularly happening or obscure place.

Line “Did you know that pizza as we know it originated in Naples in the s? I learned that when an Italian guy yelled at me for saying that Little Caesar’s isn’t absolute garbage.

Facts are great and all but you don’t want to come off as a know-it-all. A little backstory as to why you know a certain fact creates a more well-rounded online dating first message.

When She Talks About Ice Cream

Line “I hear your favorite ice cream tells a lot about you. Judging from your interest in Phish Food I’m going to guess that you prefer an all night jam band over a rave.”

Make assumptions. Even if they’re wrong she’ll feel obligated to correct you. Just make sure those assumptions are playful.

Line “Have you tried that new place over on ‘x’ avenue? I hear its Mellow Yellow will split your tongue in half… I assume that’s a good thing.”

Get foodie with her. If she’s an epicurean, feed into her love of fine foods. Broaching a solid place to grab a scoop of ice cream is a nice segue into asking her out.

When She Talks About Brunch In Her Profile

Online Dating First Message Examples # “The next time you want to feel fancy while eating brunch just know that it originated in England in the 19^th century.”

Make her life feel a little bit more spectacular with an interesting fact or two. As long as you’re not coming off as arrogant, you’ve probably constructed a message worth sending.

When She Talks About Scuba Diving

Line “Your profile makes me so jealous. Can you teach me to be as cool as your?” (I’m referring to your badass scuba diving skills btw)

Flattery should only be used if it’s warranted. That being said, when scuba diving is in the picture, it’s definitely merited.

Line “I’m not gonna lie, when I was a kid and people asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up, I said scuba diver. Instead I chose to be (only insert your profession here if it’s somehow humorous in contrast to what you wanted to become).

Line Let me see if I can stump you. Which are older: great white sharks or dinosaurs?”

It’s trivia time! Put your drinks to the side and get that buzzer hand ready. It’s never a bad time for a little spontaneous trivia.

Line “Did you know mermaids smoke seaweed?”

I’ll be the first to say that this line won’t work on every woman. Only use it if she says that she’s into lame jokes or seems like the type of person that is into a lazy laugh.

Line “I was kind of bummed to hear that there are only 70ish shark attacks every year. I still think you’re super brave.”

Call her valiant, make her feel like a knight, and she’ll surely respond positively to your message in due time.

Line “Tell me something cool about scuba diving.”

When in doubt, remember to talk about a topic that she’s into. If you ask her about her passion she’ll start talking. This is the goal of a first message.

When Her Bio Includes Pictures Of Her Skiing/Snowboarding

Online Dating First Message Examples for Guys # “Be honest… do you beef with snowboarders?”

You’re right, it’s kind of dumb. But it’s also cute. Talking about her passion is never a bad call.

Line “Global warming’s a bummer. It leads to war, the washing away of islands, and makes our president sound like an idiot. But for all the bad it’ll do I’m most worried about not being able to ski on fresh power.”

Such an online dating first message only really works if you two share the same passion. Should this be the case, harp on that until you’ve got a first date. When doing so never be afraid to show a little bit of wit.

Line “Did you hit up any good mountains this past season?”

Simple and straightforward. The message shows that you read her profile and most likely share a hobby. Initial messages don’t need to be intricate. 70% of guys don’t even write initial messages that contain more than two words.

Line “My biggest fear is getting crushed by an avalanche and stuck under the snow. I felt the need to share that with you.”

Addressing biggest fears right off the bat, that’s cool. It’s even better when that fear pertains to one of her hobbies.

When She Shows Off Her Pooch

Online Dating First Message Examples # “How long did it take to house train your pooch? I think my Lolita’s stench seemed into the wood floor.”

Bond over the struggles of doggy parenting.

Line “Have you ever taken your dog to Cherry Park? They just landscaped the lawn and it’s now a doggy haven.”

Careful with how you frame such a question. She’ll be leery to disclose the places she frequents to a stranger. Write this question so as to advise her to check out a certain place instead of asking if she goes there a lot.

Line “I just adopted a dog and am now going through the name process but am overwhelmed. There are like 3, quality names out there (I know I made a list). How did you decide on a name for your pup?”

Asking for advice is never a bad way to go. Just don’t make yourself look ignorant or lazy.

Line “I just found out that dogs see in more frames per minute than humans. So compared to us, dogs see in slow-mo. Despite that my dog still can’t catch a tennis ball.”

A fact followed by a humorous anecdote is a solid punch as far as online dating first messages are concerned.

Line “Have you noticed the anti-bulldog stickers posted around Brooklyn lately?”

Bring up a contentious topic concerning a subject she’s interested in. The merit of breeds is just such a topic.

Line “Did you know that petting a dog and staring into their eyes releases oxytocin?”

Sure you want to be the source of oxytocin generation but before you can get there you’ll have to woo her. The best way to do this is by first woofing her up with comments about her beloved pooch.

Line “I love “dog breed name.” I hear they “dog breed fact.”

Show her dog’s breed some love by letting her know you appreciate her pooch. Throwing in a cool fact about her dog’s breed will make you seem like a knowledgeable man.

Line “Let’s be honest. The only way this will work out is if our dogs are buddies. Sooo, doggie date?”

A recent study found that users that have a photo showcasing their furry companion have their odds of getting a woman’s phone number from 10% to 33%. There’s a reason dog is man’s best friend. There’s nothing wrong with using your pooch to score a first date. Especially not if Spot makes a friend during the process.

When She Talks About Skydiving In Her Bio

Online Dating First Message Examples # “So I see that you’re a badass. Can you teach me your ways?”

This line works when she has showcased her skills in any extreme sport. The line is perfect because it begins with flattery and ends with a request to meet up.

Line “I randomly recently heard that the youngest person to skydive was 4 year old. That’s badass and all but I’m pretty sure his parents are now locked up.”

A mixture of fact and humor is never a bad call.

When She Showcases Her Boxing Skills

Line “I’m not going to lie. I honestly just thought George Foreman was a glorified grill salesman.”

Sure it’s a little silly, but sometimes silly works. Especially when the competition is settling for “Hey cutie” as an online dating first message.

Line “I’m tempted to use a silly pickup line with you but I’m afraid you’ll beat me up. You kind of seem like a badass.”

Pickup lines are just about never a good idea, unless they’re unbelievably brilliant and your subsequent message acknowledges how stupid the pickup line was. So basically, don’t use them. Be genuine and complement her non-physical features instead.

When She’s Into Cats

Line I don’t want to get nerdy on you or anything. But I just learned that a group of cats is called a clowder.”

Show her you care about her interests by talking about them. You’re also more likely to receive a response if you keep the conversation on a topic she likes.

Line “So I’m currently team dog, but I’m considering switching sides. Think you can persuade me?”

Challenge her. Just make sure the challenge isn’t too difficult.

When She Talks About Netflix

Online Dating First Message Examples for Guys # “Favorite show on Netflix that isn’t The Office, go!”

Not everyone scuba dives or even is the lucky parent of a K9. But surely everyone has their favorite Netflix show. It might not be the most exhilarating conversation, but it’s one that everyone can have. Keep it relatable.

Line “I just finished Big Mouth and am need of a new show. Any suggestions?”

She’ll be flattered when you ask her for her opinion. Soliciting her advice increases her self-worth is makes her feel girl. Well done.

When She’s Clearly Into Travel

Line What’s the weirdest food you’ve ever eaten while on vacation?”

Nowadays there are two things everyone is into; food and travel. Combine the two to create a question and you’ll surely receive a response.

Line “What’s the coolest thing you did during your time in “France”?”

You’ll be able to tell where she’s been because of her photos or she will have written about it in her bio. Once you know where she’s been simply ask her what she enjoyed most about the city/country.

Line “Did you know that in Bora Bora putting a flower in your left ear indicates that you’re single?”

A lot of women have been to Bora Bora. Log onto Bumble and see for yourself. Any talk of their most prized vacation destination will likely result in a full blown conversation.

Line “Where’s the coolest place you’ve been outside of the USA?”

The whole purpose of an online dating first message is to get her talking. What better way to encourage chatter than to ask her about something that excites her as much as travel?

Wrap-up: Online Dating First Message Examples for Guys

The purpose of displaying the above online dating first message examples is to give you an idea of what women will respond to. As you can see, women are most likely to get back to you if you ask them a question about something their passionate about while adding some humor to your initial message.

Crafting a clever online dating first message is just one of the many components you&#;ll need learn to reach your dating goals and ultimately find the RIGHT woman to settle down with. If perfectly fine if you still need a little guidance.

That’s where I come in. When you book a new client 1-on-1 Skype session with me, we’ll address any concerns you might have regarding online dating first messages, discuss your dating history and any other sticking points you may have, co-create an action plan, and see if my 3 month coaching program could be right for you!

Struggling to come up with an online dating first message that will get a response? Turns out, most men fear writing that first message, so you&#;re not alone.

The good news is we&#;ve got you covered with 5 online dating first message strategies (with copy-and-paste examples to get you started).

But First, 2 Quick Tips

Use their name.

Research shows people really like hearing (or reading) their name. A general rule of thumb for an online dating first message is if you can organically and naturally work their name in, you should.

Ask a question.

You’re much more likely to get a response from your match if your online dating first message asks a fun or unusual question. This will pull your match out of auto pilot swiping mode and switch her attention to you. Jumping right into a specific convo shows experience chatting up women.

Online Dating First Message #1: ___ or ___?

An open-ended question like “What kind of things are you into?” is kinda boring to answer, and forces your match to steer the direction the convo will go in.

An either/or question format is assertive, and takes charge in a sexy way.

Examples:

You: Peanuts or almonds?
Cait: Almonds %. I’m actually allergic to peanuts!
You: Oh shoot&#;so you’re telling me Reeses aren’t a part of your life? 😳
Cait: Haha no unfortunately 😭😭😭

You: Jon Snow or Khal Drogo?
Leanna: Asking the right questions
Leanna: And the impossible ones
Leanna: God, I guess I’d have to go with Khal Drogo. Less broody&#;and pale.

Online Dating First Message #2: Last Thing

It’s deceivingly simple to ask the last thing your match did as your online dating first message, but it&#;s a super effective strategy. This is the kind of question a friend would ask, so you are starting things off intimately without coming off as creepy.

The “last thing” could be anything &#; last book she read, last podcast she listened to, last cool restaurant she went to … the list is endless, and easy to tailor to an interest she mentions in her bio.

Examples:

You: Hi, Madeline. What’s the last trip/vaca you’ve taken?
Madeline: Hey! I went to L.A. last month, and it was pretty great
You: Awesome! What kind of stuff did you do there?
Madeline: I was only there a weekend, but I checked out Malibu, Calabasas, and Echo Park area mostly.

You: Last movie you went to see in the theater?
Casey: Hey! Captain Marvel!
You: Ah, I saw that last weekend! What did you think?
Casey: I felt like the beginning was a little slow, but I liked it overall

Online Dating First Message #3: Dinner Guest

Asking your match who inspires her is a really good way to get to know someone. Just be ready for her to turn around and ask who you’d want to have dinner with too.

Examples:

You: Sara, if you could have dinner with anyone (living or dead), who would it be?
Sara: Hmmm&#;Amelia Earhart is pretty freaking inspiring. I’d love to chat with her and pick her brain
Sara: What about you?

You: Andrea, hi 🙂 Who would you most want to have dinner with, of anyone in the world?
Andrea: hey! I’d actually really like to meet Warren Buffet. His values are on point, and maybe he could give me tips on how to make more $ 😂

Online Dating First Message #4: Top Five

An easy and fun way to get your match talking about her interests is to ask her top five favorite&#;anything. You could come up with something random, or get bonus points for relating your top five question to something in her bio.

Examples:

(Meg’s bio states that she’s a movie buff)
You: Hey, Meg! What would you say your top 5 favorite movies are?
Meg: Hey! Ummm&#;probably The Pelican Brief, Catch Me If You Can, On Golden Pond, She’s All That, and Fight Club!

You: Hey! Top five favorite breakfast foods&#;go
Serena: hahaha ok
Serena: eggs benedict, cheese omelet, leftover pizza, waffles with blueberries, and yogurt parfait

Online Dating First Message #5: Bio Question

Use your online dating first message to prove that you didn’t only swipe based on her photos and adorable smile. It can feel creepy and too forward to immediately mention or compliment her looks.

Show you’re deeper and mature by asking a specific follow up question about something in her bio.

Examples:

(Audrey&#;s bio says she can&#;t get enough of concerts)
You: So Audrey, your bio says you’re a concert junkie&#;what’s your all-time favorite band?
Audrey: That’s so hard! I’d have to go with Muse as absolute favorite though. What about you?

(Lily’s bio mentions she teaches yoga)
You: So Lily, what’s the first thing you would teach a newb like me about yoga?
Lily: Hey! Haha have you been to a class before?
You: No, but I’ve been wanting to give it a try!
Lily: Awesome! Well a lot of yoga is about mindfulness and awareness more than nailing poses!

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If your pic is meh, whatever you say will seem less charming or interesting. A good pic is a huge advantage in chatting someone up effectively.

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Prepping to send your first message on a dating app to that cute someone who’s caught your eye?

I know how it is &#; it’s exciting and scary. You’re eager to catch their eye and get the conversation started, but you’re afraid that what you write won’t be compelling enough.  

Your heart beating wildly, all kinds of thoughts race through your mind: What if I screw this up? What if I write something so lame that they don’t reply? Dammit.  

Well, let’s flip that: What if you write something so gosh darn awesome they can’t help but reply?

But we get it. Crafting that first online dating message is daunting. Because that opening message is so crucial to getting a reply, it has to be done right. 

Depending on dating apps and dating sites you're using and what your bio mentions, the openers can vary. So, we have shared plenty of examples that you can simply copy and paste.

12 Online Dating First Messages Examples

First Message Strategy #1: Introduce Yourself The Right Way

There’s a LOT to be said for introducing yourself in your first message, and yet so many people don’t do it.

Why not? Well, perhaps they just forget. 

But here’s the thing: Introducing yourself is basic online dating etiquette and it’s exactly what you’d do in most other real-life social scenarios.

Just picture yourself at a networking event, for example. What’s the first thing you might say to someone you’ve met that night? Maybe you’ll open with a wry observation of something that happened that night, but the most likely option you’ll take is to introduce yourself.

Example:

“Hey! I’m Chloe :)”

It’s that simple and it’s safe and risk-free. 

First Message Strategy #2: Introduce Yourself With a Twist 

If a simple hello seems too safe and risk-free, you can be a little bit more adventurous should you wish.

I often like to open with a quick joke before transitioning to my introduction.

Examples:

“Is it just me or *insert witty observation here* …

“Ha. Hi! I’m Will.” 

Starting with a joke is a little bit more exciting and it helps to build rapport before going in with the introduction line. If cracking a joke isn’t your forte (at least online) then you can try something a bit different.

Like this:

“Hola! I’m sad to say that’s the only Spanish I know :(.”

“Ha. Hey, I’m Julia. How’s it going?”

Whatever you decide to open with, following it with your intro is always a smart idea because it encourages them to do the same. All of a sudden, you’ve both introduced yourselves and a small connection has been made. 

Moreover, introducing yourself shows you’ve got basic manners. It looks so much better than leading with something like this: “What’s up?”

Check this article to find 50 great Text Conversation Starters To Go Beyond “Hey”

First Message Strategy #3: Use Their Name 

Addressing them by their name in your first message shows that you’ve taken the care to actually read their online dating profile properly, and it shows that this is definitely not a generic message. Even though it’s such a small thing, it can help to build rapport and a feeling of warmth straight away. 

Examples:

“Hey Mike!”

Then, you can work on introducing yourself. Like this: 

“Hey Mike! I’m Lydia.”

First Message Strategy #4: Tell Them It’s Nice To Meet Them 

Sometimes, you have to be a bit clever with how you write your message so that you get a response.

For example, you could plant a seed in their subconscious mind that’s designed to encourage them to respond.

Example:

“Hey Mike! I’m Lydia. Nice to meet you.”

By using that simple phrase &#; it’s nice to meet you &#; you’re assuming they’re going to reply. This assumption can be very powerful on a subconscious level as it’s saying to them that, yeah, it’s really nice to meet you, too. 

First Message Strategy #5: Pick Up On Something On Their Profile 

When you pick up on something that’s unique to their profile, you’re demonstrating that you’ve taken the time to read their profile properly and that you’re not just using the same copy-and-paste message you use on other people. 

This is, of course, impossible to do if they haven’t written anything in their bio and have pretty boring pics. If that’s the case, well, my question is this: Why would you message them at all? 

If I’m stuck for something to say in my opener to someone, I take a look at their bio and pick something out to comment on. 

Admittedly, this kind of thing can require some mental gymnastics. For example, if they’ve written something like “Netflix, wine, and cheese,” you don’t have a lot to go off. But there’s something there at least and you just need to use your imagination.

Examples:

“Hey, I noticed you like Netflix too. Pleaseeeee tell me you were as sad as I was that Stranger Things ended!!” 

“If haloumi isn’t in your top 3 cheeses we can’t be friends.”

First Message Strategy #6: Kick Start a Conversation With a Question 

One of the easiest ways to get a response from someone is to ask a question.

That said, your question has to be at least one of these things:

• Compelling
• Unusual
• Interesting 
• Fun
• Funny

“How was your weekend?” could get you a response. But it’s pretty lame and even if you did get a response, where is the conversation going to go?

What you want to do is ask a question that will almost guarantee an interesting response that will kick start a convo. 

There are a variety of interesting and fun open ended questions that you can ask, and we haven’t got the time to go into them here. But I always feel it’s a good idea to go with one that creates room for a bit of role-play.

Like this:

“We’re the last two people on earth. There’s a knock at our door! What do we do?!” 

“What your favorite movie that you can never stop watching?”

“What's your favorite band and why?”

“What you love to do in your spare time? ”

“What's your favorite restaurant?”

This will engage them, it will get them thinking and it will elicit a fun response that allows room for you both to create a mini-story.  

50 Amazing Online Dating Questions To Start The Conversation

First Message Strategy #7: Keep It Short and Sweet

It’s pretty wrenching when you craft a super long message that you’re really proud of and you know is interesting … but they don’t reply. 

What gives? 

It hurts more when people don’t reply to long messages, mainly because it’s taken you so much time and effort for zero rewards. 

However, you should put yourself in the shoes of the other person. Imagine you’re in a bar and a cute someone walks up to you. During their ‘introduction,’ they talk for 10 minutes without letting you get a word in. 

Wow. It’s just too much. 

And it’s more or less the same with online dating. It’s best to keep it short (but not too short &#; characters is a good rule of thumb) and sweet. Introduce yourself, pick up on something on their profile and maybe ask a question, too. But don’t overwhelm them. 

First Message Strategy #8: Focus On Common Interests

Make sure you don’t fall into No-Man’s Land by mentioning things you don’t have in common.

So many guys and girls forget to establish a common ground. On dating sites and dating apps, profiles have a lot to information that can help you establish a common ground so make sure you look at other person's profile.

Message Examples:

“Hey, wow, that’s so cool you went skydiving. I’ve never done it! What’s it like?” 

While this might get them talking about themselves, it’s not really good for creating that initial spark that’s so important. 

This is why it’s a MUCH smarter idea to &#; for now at least &#; bring up things you have in common, and which you can have an early laugh about. 

First Message Strategy #9: Barely Talk About Yourself 

Your opener should be focused on the other person, so try to keep any talk about you to a minimum. There’s no need to brag about your achievements in your opener or to bowl them over with a “hilarious” anecdote. 

You could create a rapport by mentioning something that you both have in common, but always make sure to steer things back to them.

Message Examples:

“Haha I’m a Netflix addict too! What’s your all-time fav show?” 

If you focus too much on yourself in your very first online dating message, it’s going to make you look too self-obsessed straight away. 

First Message Strategy # Tease Them 

Teasing someone early on is a tad risky but if you pull it off just right, it can really work for you.

Examples of such online dating openers:

let’s say someone’s written that they’re a Taurus in their profile. I might then open with a message like this: 

“Dammit. I was going to say that you’re absolutely perfect but then I realized you’re a Taurus. I’m a Leo. Unfortunately, I can’t get with a Taurus.”

Now, this type of message could backfire to the point where you don’t get a reply because &#; for some people &#; it’s got a negative theme. On the other hand, it’s a great way to tease someone straight away and elicit curiosity.

If they’re into your profile, they might be thinking “Heck, why can’t they get with a Taurus?” 

And they’ll straight out ask you. 

First Message Strategy # Don’t Go Heavy With The Compliments 

While saying something like “Oh, nice hair! How’d you get it to stay looking like that??” is perfectly fine, something like “You’re honestly the most beautiful girl I’ve ever seen,” is way too cringe and weird in your opening message. 

Read this guide to see what are the best compliments for women.

First Message Strategy # Don’t Send a Follow Up Message 

Lastly, once your opener has been signed, sealed, and delivered, it’s time to message other people.

Why? Because this will get you out of the mindset whereby you’re waiting for a reply from that one person. 

And when you wait for a reply from one person, it’s very easy to get obsessed to the point where you send them a follow-up message when they don’t respond.

Example:

“Hey! I know you haven’t replied yet but just thought I’d give this one last shot because you do look super cool.” 

The follow up is a massive no-no because it subconsciously makes them un-attracted to you. The best thing to do is to shoot a few other people a message so that you’re not fixated by one person. 

Read this article to learn How Often Should You Text A Girl To Keep Her Interested

Takeaway: Sometimes, it doesn’t matter how awesome your icebreaker is, they won’t get back to you. Maybe they just don't check the dating app, maybe they’re super busy or maybe they’re already super into someone else. But if you keep refining your starter message and use these online dating tips to score more dates.

&#;How you doin'&#; may have worked like a charm for Joey Tribbiani, but opening lines today, especially on a dating app, require a little more thought and originality to get you noticed.

&#;Opening lines, like first impressions, are really important — especially on dating apps or online-only contact — because people are so busy and so inundated with other responses,&#; says April Masini, a New York-based relationship and etiquette expert and author. &#;An opening line can make it or break it when you’re looking to date.&#;

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Masini says to avoid opening with a sarcastic remark, as it&#;s too easily misinterpreted and to skip the sexual innuendo.

&#;Even if the person is in a bathing suit, avoid any opening line that mentions their body parts. They know they&#;re hot, that&#;s why they posted the photo they did. They want to know that you think they&#;re hot and datable,&#; she says.

The other reason why you should stay away from pointing out their sexiness is that it&#;s a given: &#;You wouldn&#;t be messaging them if you didn&#;t think they were hot,&#; says Toronto-based celebrity matchmaker and online dating expert, Carmelia Ray.

There are a number of tactics you can take with your opening line that will get someone&#;s attention, but above all else, Ray says, use that line on someone you&#;re truly compatible with.

&#;Do not message people if you&#;re blindly swiping left and right,&#; she says. &#;Read their profile and determine if you&#;re genuinely a match. Otherwise, you&#;re just wasting your time.&#;

These are some top tips from the experts on how to craft an opening line that will get a response on your dating apps.

#1 Give a little

&#;You&#;d be surprised how many people don&#;t give genuine compliments because they&#;re afraid of rejection,&#; Masini says. Go for something specific and genuine that shows you&#;ve really read their profile or noticed something about them that wouldn&#;t be obvious to everyone.

READ MORE: 5 signs you&#;re falling out of love

Terran Shea, a Toronto-based matchmaker and date coach, says the keywords with a compliment are &#;tasteful&#; and &#;specific.&#; She advises personalizing the compliment as much as possible, and if you&#;re going to reference a celebrity or something from pop culture, be vague. It&#;ll force the person to Google the reference and then you&#;ll be on their mind.

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Suggested lines: &#;You look like someone I could take home to my mom and whisk away for a romantic weekend&#;; &#;My friends would be jealous if you went out with me&#;; &#;Has anyone ever told you that you look like [fill in name of obscure actor/actress].&#;

#2 Be funny

Admittedly, this isn&#;t the right approach for everyone, but if you can strike the right chord, humour is almost always a winning trait.

Masini says not to go too dark or shoot for &#;slip on a banana peel&#; humour: &#;Aim for charm and chuckle.&#; While Shea says if the person you&#;re messaging has written a funny profile, try to mimic that style of humour in your line.

Suggested lines: &#;What&#;s a smart, attractive man/woman like myself doing without your number?&#;; &#;I can feel you staring at my profile from here&#;; &#;I totally hear you that grammar matters; it&#;s sad how few people use semicolons in their Tinder messages.&#;

#3 Show some confidence

Confidence is a very attractive trait and could be the key to success when it comes to communicating through online dating apps.

&#;A bold opening line doesn&#;t just convey confidence, it also shows that you&#;re out there to have fun, regardless of the outcome,&#; says John Roche, a therapist and coach at Transformation Counselling in Waterloo, Ont.

It&#;s also the best way to stand out, says Laura Bilotta, a Toronto matchmaker and author of Single in the City.

&#;Now is not the time to play coy,&#; she says. &#;Even if you play it over-confident, most people will understand that you&#;re trying to stand out rather than being vain.&#;

Suggested lines: &#;This app says we&#;re 93 per cent compatible. I&#;d like to test that out in real life&#;; &#;I love that picture of you on the beach; I wish I were there&#;; &#;I woke up thinking today was just another boring Monday, and then I saw your photo on my app.&#;

#4 Invite engagement

Your ultimate goal here is to inspire a back-and-forth conversation that will lead to a face-to-face encounter, so invite engagement by posing questions.

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&#;Make a reference to something specific,&#; Ray says. &#;Maybe they mentioned a particular type of food they like in their profile or they&#;ve posted a picture in front of the Eiffel Tower. Ask them a question that&#;s specific to that.&#;

By offering this type of engagement, not only have you demonstrated that you&#;ve really read their profile, but you&#;re also more likely to get a response and spark a conversation.

Suggested lines: &#;I love Paris. Did you go to the top of the Eiffel Tower?&#;; &#;You&#;re a real foodie. If we were to go out for dinner, where would we go?&#;; &#;What&#;s your favourite pizza topping?&#;

#5 Be authentic

Authenticity can seem like a pipe dream when you&#;re meeting people through a digital app, but being genuine and even showing a little vulnerability can be very charming.

&#;People appreciate authenticity in a first message. By revealing something you might not normally be forthcoming with, it shows that you want to build trust,&#; Ray says.

READ MORE: Is it ever OK to date your friend&#;s ex?

This isn&#;t the time to unload your deepest secrets or childhood traumas, but it&#;s OK to share your trepidation of using a dating app or that you normally wouldn&#;t have the courage to approach this person in real life. Honesty is an attractive trait.

Suggested lines: &#;I&#;m new to this dating scene and to be honest, it kind of scares me&#;; &#;I don&#;t normally contact people on this, but I find you very intriguing&#;; &#;How does a person like me get a date with someone like you?&#;

Downloading a dating app is the easy part. What’s not easy is sweating over the pictures that best represent you (or the ones you want to present to hundreds of single women). It’s also not easy to painstakingly craft a bio that’s equal parts informative and humorous.

But toughest of all? Coming up with that first perfectly witty message the minute you match with someone decent. These days, now that women have seen and heard it all on dating apps, making a lasting first impression seems freaking impossible.

So we asked 20 real women to divulge the perfect one-liners, questions, and messages they wish men would send on mobile apps or dating sites. Oh, and by the way: ‘Hey, what’s up?’ isn’t cutting it. But cheese references might. (No, we don’t get it either.)

Here’s what they said:

“I like when a guy tries to get off the app immediately and says something like, ‘Hey, I’m interested in getting to know you. If you’re down, shoot me a text (insert #).’” – Cara J.  

“Run with something I have on my profile. Personally, I’m obsessed with cheese. The perfect first message would be something like ‘Saw you’re a cheesehead. I’ve been dying to go to this Italian place that serves four-cheese gnocchi—or pairs wine with half a dozen local cheeses. Interested?’ Um, yes, yes I am. Because A) who wouldn’t be into that? And B) you took the time to be unique. Even if we start messaging and I come to find you’re a wackjob and cancel the date, you still astronomically upped your chances than the guy who sent ‘Hey.'” – Victoria G. 

“Something related to my profile or picture that’s relatable. I’ve had a guy say: ‘I’ve been skydiving before, but how incredible was jumping in New Zealand?’ because of a photo I had. I feel like that’s the easiest way to connect with someone—through shared interests.” – Rae P. 

“‘Top 3 things you can’t live without—ready, set, go.’ Disarm me, throw me off (without being creepy), and be original. I’ll be way more inclined to play along. And this shows you actually have a personality…or at least a semblance of one.” – Anne S. 

“I’m actually totally cool with ‘Hey! How’s it going?’ It’s more grown-up and confident than ‘What’s up?’” – Sasha B. 

“Bring up something that’s in my bio or one of my pictures you relate to. Perfect example: ’Hey, What kind of race were you doing? I’m big into fitness, too.’ It shows you’re interested in learning about me (rare among dudes). Remember, the conversation shouldn’t be one-way. And we get to skip the small talk and get right into the conversation.” – Marie L. 

“I’ve actually gotten funny memes as a first message. The one that made me die laughing was a cartoon with pounding heart eyes—basically saying he thought I was attractive but not in a completely weird way. It’s just a better icebreaker than ‘Hey.’” – Samantha M. 

“Start with something like: ‘Totally into your profile and interests. Where were you traveling to?’… or, ‘How long did you live in San Francisco for?’ Target bits and pieces of my profile. I chose to highlight them for a reason!” – Caitlin D. 

“I honestly like a simple ‘Hey, how’s your day going?’ Ultimatums like, ‘Coffee or sleep?’ or ‘You’re gorgeous.’ annoy and freak me out.’” – Amy S. 

“Send a question that relates to something from my profile. It shows you actually took the time to craft a response and didn’t just send a generic ‘Hey, what’s up?’ to every girl on the app. For example, if one of my photos was of me at a concert, make a connection to a concert you recently went to.” – Caroline T. 

“I think the perfect first message is direct. ‘Hey, you seem really interesting. Would love to go out sometime.’ Stay away from stupid pickup lines.” – Rachel D. 

“Point out how awkward dating apps are and poke fun at yourself without being too self-deprecating and blindingly insecure. Say something like, ‘Trying to come up with a clever one-liner to hit you with gave me more anxiety than the SATs. So I’m just gonna go out on a limb here and say I would love to get to know you outside the confines of this app.’ You seem sincere and I’m WAY more likely to want to get to know you, too.” – Brielle A.

“Always something witty or about food. Or, start with a question about my pictures or bio. I have a lot with my nephew because he’s important to me.” – Laura W. 

“Something that makes fun of the app and the situation. Like, pretend to be a character from It’s Always Sunny in Philadelphia and say, ‘Hey, I’m Charlie. I like cheese and live with a guy named Frank.’ I would respect that. Though if I didn’t get the reference, then this would just flop.” – Amanda H.

“I like when a guy is engaging. It might be a little overdone, but asking for two truths and a lie is still, to me, a great conversation starter.” – Laura Q.

“Something unique and also relevant to my life via my profile. Ask, ‘Hey, what kind of nurse are you?’ It shows you’re generally interested in getting to know me as a person—not just what I look like. Anything beats ‘Hey, good lookin’.’” – Vanessa P. 

“‘Your perfect Sunday morning: workout, movie, or brunch?’ Depending on my answer, ask: ‘If I play my cards right, would you like to join me for X, Y, or Z sometime?’ This is PERFECT. It’s clever and not too demanding or creepy, because it’s on me to decide when or if it actually happens. If our conversation goes well and I’m feeling you, then I can initiate picking a date.” – Candice H. 

“I like for a guy to show his personality and humor. My now-boyfriend initiated a conversation with: ‘I don’t break apart Kit Kat bars. I eat them whole. Is that a deal breaker?’ I thought this was so weird and funny, I responded immediately.” – Marissa D. 

“Anything that makes you seem not like a complete stranger. Make a connection. I’m a law student, so if a guy draws a connection to the fact he’s in grad school or asks about it, it creates instant dialogue.” – Marianna B. 

“Compliment me on anything but my appearance. Say I fascinate you or you love that I’m really outdoorsy. Guys need to stop defaulting to cheap wins. We see past that—especially if we’re on here to find an actual relationship.” – Rose T.

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Krystal Baugher explains the &#;three sentence rule&#; for sending a first message on a dating site. &#;Hey, messages to send on dating sites, girl. You&#;re hot. Let&#;s bang.&#; is not in compliance.

I&#;ve been doing the whole online dating thing on and off for years now and, let me just say, I&#;ve had the entire range of good, bad, and ugly messages arrive in my inbox. There was a time I even created a blog to showcase some of the best of the worst because I felt the world should share in the horror with me.

This past week alone I&#;ve gotten enough poorly-executed messages to make me want to curl up in a ball of being-alone forever.

For example:

• &#;Hey.&#;
• &#;Hey sexy.&#;
• &#;Hey you.&#;
• &#;sexxy&#;
• &#;hhiiiii&#;
• &#;I&#;m not a creep just looking for sex. I&#;m a nice guy, looking for genuine connection.&#;
• &#;Can I just be honest here, why beat around the bush&#;I&#;d love to tear your clothes off ;)&#;
• &#;Feeling naughty?&#;
• &#;I don&#;t want to sound perv, but there is really no other way to say this. If you&#;re into it, I have a suite at the Mon Chalet if you wanna come see what&#;s going on.&#;

I try not to lose hope that there can be some genuine connections made through meeting someone on of the internet. Plenty of people seem to prove that every day. I&#;ve even made several lasting friends from some of my experiences.

The thing is, when it comes to sending messages many people freak out.

They want to say something, but they don&#;t know what. It&#;s similar to meeting someone in real life except (in my opinion) it&#;s actually an improved method of initiation due to the fact that most online dating sites give you profiles to work with. Thus, making an introduction easier and far-less intimidating. Plus, if rejection happens, it&#;s not as personal or awkward (usually).

Here&#;s the deal with the messaging thing: a lot of people have their own theories on how it works, what works best, etc. Some people think it&#;s cool to copy and paste an identical message to hundreds of other people, like bait in a lake full of carp. Some think just saying &#;hi&#; is enough. Others messages to send on dating sites the online equivalent of a catcall. Others try &#;negging.&#; Some send ridiculously long messages about their background and their overall philosophy and what they&#;re currently doing with their lives.

I&#;d like to say there&#;s no right or wrong way to message someone&#;everyone has something that works for them&#;but there is definitely a better way.

Too short and they go in the pile of &#;not worthy,&#; too long and they go into the pile of &#;not reading that novel!&#;

Here are three tips to help you get more responses:

1. Figure Yourself Out

Before even bothering another human being with the idea of spending time with you, it&#;s important to know what you&#;re looking for and to be honest with yourself about that. If you&#;re looking for an authentic committed relationship, something a bit more fleeting, someone to go out on adventures with, or someone to i only like girls until we start dating over at night for Netflix binges, know your own wants and desires.

 2. The Pictures Are Nice, but&#;

The words in a person&#;s profile give you what you need to succeed. It seems crazy, I know, but take the one or two minutes it takes to actually read the profile. This will help spark an idea about where to take the message.

Bonus: You&#;ll find out if you truly want to message this person or if they&#;re just drawing you in with their physical appearance.

3. The Three Sentence Rule

Three sentences are all you need to write in a first message&#;this establishes your interest and initiates conversation.

The format is simple:

1. Greet

2. Compliment on a general interest (not physical appearance)

3. Ask a question

Here are two examples:

Oh hey there! I can totally get down waxing all philosophical like while watching Arrested Development and drinking mugs full of coffee. Did you see that Jeffrey Tambor has a new series? (I think it&#;s on Amazon Prime so who knows if I&#;ll ever see it).

Hope you have a great weekend.

 -K

Or&#;

Oh hello&#.NPR, Messages to send on dating sites, Romantic Cynicism, Glasses? Sold. I&#;ve been on an FKA Twigs kick recently. Are you into her at all?

 -K

Though the message is short, it creates a commonality and allows for a dialogue to easily start. Of course, finding your own tone and voice will definitely help too.

Good luck out there, and may the words be with you!

Tired of not getting responses to the messages you send on online dating sites and apps?

Whether it’s alovex.co, OkCupid, POF, Tinder, or Hinge, sending that first message to a girl you really like and getting no response is one of the dating sites for bikers things about online dating.

Especially when it happens over and over.

That’s a big reason why many online daters give up entirely within just a few months.

But don’t throw in the towel just yet &#; we’ve got 11 online dating first message examples that work like magic to get responses, messages to send on dating sites, and you can use them today!

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First Message Strategy #1: Go For Laughs

Funny online dating messages get responses because women naturally find guys with a sense of humor attractive. It’s true &#; scientists have proven it.

But the key to having a successful first message, of course, is actually being funny.

On Tinder, you can pair an attention-grabbing GIF with a humorous message&#;

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On a dating site like alovex.co or POF, you could make a joke about the shared experience of scrolling through profile after profile&#;

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Finding common ground is a pro move, because if you can make her think the two of you are similar she’s more likely to respond.

Women are simply more comfortable around people who remind them of themselves.

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First Message Strategy #2: Connect On Common Ground

Travel makes an awesome subject for a first message because it’s something most women enjoy doing, or at least enjoy dreaming about.

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And who doesn’t like to at least think they have a great sense of adventure? It's a topic you'll find mentioned in just about every person's profile.

Many online dating sites have keyword searches, so you can filter for women who also enjoy a certain hobby.

So if you’re into skiing, you can send a &#;stock&#; message about a certain topic to any interesting women who mention it in their profiles.

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On a dating app like Tinder or Bumble, you can take a quick glance at her photos and bio to see if any common interests jump out.

For instance if you find you both love dogs, this would messages to send on dating sites a good first message for how women view dating dating&#;

Message Example #5:

You’ll save a ton of time once you have a “go-to” copy and paste message for any hobby that you’d like to share with your matches. (Skeptical about the effectiveness of copy & paste? Read this article.)

First Message Strategy #3: Inspire A Craving

Message Example #6:

(Note: A long message like this example is a better fit for dating sites like Match, OkCupid or POF. You’re going to want to keep your messages quite a bit shorter on apps like Tinder and Bumble.)

Certain words are attention-grabbing because they sound delicious. Chocolate, cheesecake, ala mode… who wouldn’t want to keep reading?

Notice how it starts off with a light compliment.

Complimenting her will often give you points, but only if you focus on intangible qualities like intelligence or her accomplishments.

Don’t make the rookie mistake of praising her physical appearance, especially when you're trying to start a conversation free video dating a girl online for the first time.

Tons of guys do it, and she gets tons of messages with some variation of “you’re hot”. Paying her a more meaningful compliment is a breath of fresh air for her.

Mentioning something yummy-sounding works just as well on dating apps. In fact, dating app Hinge discovered girls are 40% more likely to reply to messages about food.

Here’s a short, delicious sounding message that’s perfect for a dating app&#;

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First Message Strategy #4: Get Personal

Message Example #8:

It’s basic human nature to love talking about yourself.

In fact, it literally stimulates your brain and makes you feel good.

Ask her an open-ended question that gets christian dating free to share something about herself, and she’s instantly in her Happy Place. And the better she feels about talking to you, the more likely she is to share her number.

The example above is more suited for an online dating site where longer messages are the norm, but you can get messages to send on dating sites talking about herself on a dating app with a short message like this&#;

Message Example #9:

First Message Strategy #5: Show Off Your Creative Side

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Most of your competition is sending her lame first messages like “Hey, how messages to send on dating sites your weekend?” and “Hi, I’m John.”

That’s great news for you, because it gives you the opportunity to shine by asking her an interesting, funny or creative question like this&#;

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So What Do All These First Messages Have In Common?

They all accomplish 3 things:

1. They instantly pique her curiosity. If she doesn’t even want to keep reading, why would she bother responding, much less want to meet you in person?
2. They set you apart from the crowd. Remember, if she’s getting tons of messages from guys just like you. You’ve got to out-message them every time.
3. They ask her a question. You need to make it as easy as possible for her to respond, and controlling the conversation is a simple way to do it.

Those three elements are crucial if you want to get a response to your online dating opener.

Miss one of them, and messages to send on dating sites moving on to the next person.

The Best Time To Send Your First Message

To increase your odds of getting a response to your message, send them at a time it’s likely to be convenient for her to answer.

Weekday evenings are generally the best time to send an online dating icebreaker. Many women unwind from a long day at work by firing up a dating app while catching up on Netflix.

According to Nielsen, activity on both OkCupid and Tinder peaks at 9 pm, and usage starts to rapidly decline after 10 pm. On Bumble, the real action starts a little earlier, with activity peaking at 6 pm.

And if you happen to find yourself stuck inside due to inclement weather like a blizzard, hurricane or rainstorm, put these first message examples to good use.

NBC News did a little investigating, and found that bad weather goes hand in hand with increased activity on dating sites and apps.

In many cases, the increase was pretty dramatic. During winter storm Juno, activity on Hinge picked up by a whopping 47%, which led to a 56% spike in the number of phone numbers exchanged, and an incredible 96% increase in 2-way message exchanges.

On OkCupid, a little rain translates to a 10% increase in activity on the site. On Match, activity typically increases around 33% during snowstorms, and big storms go hand in hand with a % increase in Bumble activity.

Throw a pandemic into the mix, and there's never been a better time to download a dating app & start trying to meet someone special online.

No Response To Your First Message? Here’s What To Do Next!

Of course, there’s no copy and paste message that’s guaranteed to start a conversation every time you send it.

There are a ton of variables involved, like your photos and your online dating profile. If those aren’t top notch, our Ultimate Guide To Online Dating has all the tools and tips you need to bring them up to snuff.

Other variables you can’t control, like what she’s doing when she’s reading your message.

If she’s sneaking a peek at her Match messages in between meetings, she may not have a chance to respond and forget to come back to it later.

So if f you don’t get a response, give her a second chance.

Try a light-hearted follow up message like this one&#;

Second Message Example:

But if she still doesn’t bite, move on.

The more messages you send, the more desperate you look. Besides, there’s plenty more interesting, attractive women out there so focus your efforts on them.

Why Savvy Guys Use Copy & Paste Messages

Now let’s talk about the elephant in the room: copy & paste messages.

A few online dating “experts” will tell you they don’t work. Online daters are too smart to fall for them. They’re a huge turn off.

Blah blah blah. Those guys clearly haven’t done their homework.

Here’s the truth in a nutshell.

Statistically speaking, you’re looking at an uphill battle.

The average guy has to crank out messages in order to be 99% sure of getting one reply &#; and spend around hours a week doing it.

Given that fact, why would you spend tons of time scanning each and every woman’s profile, then writing a message customized just for her?

That's crazy &#; you don't have that kind of time, especially when it's a numbers game. There’s a much better way to beat those odds, and boost your response rate at the same time.

Here at VIDA, we’ve been using the copy and paste approach since

Not only do copy and paste messages work, but we get incredible results for our clients with them. Our in-house data doesn’t lie.

Other industry experts recognize the wisdom of the copy and paste method as well.

OkCupid’s Christian Rudder said using template messages not only saves you time in the short term, but they’re a more effective long-term strategy as well.

And even if a woman calls you out on sending a template message, so what?

You’ve gotten a response that you can turn into a conversation. And many intelligent daters recognize the wisdom of using them, like this woman who weighed in on a Quora forum discussion:

When your first message is interesting and creative, the odds are good she’s going to reply to it.

Why? Because when you ask her a question that’s fun to think about and respond to, you’ve sparked an emotional connection.

That’s the reason you’re not getting good results (if any) with first messages like “Hey” and “Hi there”.

Where’s the fun in writing south asian dating app response to that?

And even worse, you’ve put the burden of continuing the conversation on her, so coming up with a response is work for her.

The hotter she is, the more burdened with messages she gets, so she’ll only respond to the best messages in her inbox.

Nothing kills your online dating game quicker than being dull, assuming she's on a dating app just to hook up, or sounding just like every other guy who's messaged her that day.

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We’ve shared 11 first message examples that work brilliantly, but that’s only the beginning. You’ll be getting a messages to send on dating sites of responses, which means you’ve got to keep the online dating conversation going and ask her out.

You have to keep her attention every step of the way, and build attraction with every message. Yup &#; there’s a reason so many guys complain that modern dating is exhausting.

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A first impression is everything. But when that first impression is reduced to a single line it becomes magnified, messages to send on dating sites. If meeting someone in person, you have time to redeem yourself or shape your image. Online dating doesn’t grant users such opportunities. For the intrepid online dater, this one line is your only chance to make an impact. Below you’ll find 50 online dating first message examples for guys that have been proven to work. But before you scan the list, copy, and paste, here are some things to keep in mind.

Get Acquainted With Her Profile

The best types of messages are personalized. A generic, messages to send on dating sites, “Hey, what’s your favorite movie?” is nothing compared to a more tailor-made message. To make a message personal, read through her entire profile to get a sense of her likes and dislikes. Don’t ignore the fact that she mentioned “Forget meditating to relax, I do PEMDAS instead.” Address her profile by responding to something she wrote.

Edit/Revise

It’s all about creating awesome first impressions. So when you slovenly write “your” when you should’ve written, “you’re,” you come off as a bit juvenile. A quick read through of your message before you send it ensures that any grammatical or spelling errors will be remedied.

Before pressing send, revise your message. The best writers in the world spend hours throwing away entire pages before they’re written something of worth. Take a note from the greats and think of the first message you write as a rough draft, messages to send on dating sites. Compose yourself before sending it off and ask if you can write an even better online dating first message. Chances are you can.

Be Different

She’s already getting inundated with vapid “H factor” words like: hi, hey, hello, hola, etc. If you don’t believe me, ask to see a female friend’s Tinder account and check for yourself. An insipid first message isn’t worth responding to unless your profile makes you out to be a superhero. Being different will make you stand out. When the recipient can tell that you’ve taken the time to write something unique, she’ll feel special. That’s never a bad thing.

Online Dating First Message Examples for Guys

When She Has No Written Bio

This is a tough one. How are you expected to create a personalized message when the written portion of her profile is blank? Hopefully you can glean enough about her from her photos to write her a witty first message. But if she’s only posted bathroom selfies, there’s little chance of that. There are two pakistani dating site you can do in this situation. One is to ditch her. Is the prolific bathroom selfie taker really the type of girl you want to be chasing? Option two is that you can ask her a probing question that forces her to tell you something about herself. Here are a few online dating first messages that will help you out.

Online Dating First Message Examples #1: “Hey Chelsea, tell me something cool about yourself.”

Whenever possible, use her name, messages to send on dating sites. Dale Carnegie, author of one of the best selling books of all time, How to Win Friends & Influence People, says that “a person’s name is, to that person, the sweetest and most important sound in any language.” Writing her name gives the message a personal touch.

Follow it up by soliciting information about her. Asking her to tell you something cool about herself is to ask her to prove her worth. It also works because now you’ll get to know something unique about this stranger. When possible, skip the default getting-to-know-you questions and opt for something a bit more edgy.

Line 2: “So tell me Rebecca. What was messages to send on dating sites last song you belted?”

This is a variation of the oft-asked question of, “What’s your favorite band?” This question more easily leads to an in-depth conversation. More so than learning about her musical interests, this question seeks to find out how that specific song was selected, messages to send on dating sites it was sung, why are asian parents so strict about dating why. There’s a story connected to the question. It’s fun for the recipient because she’s never received a first message like this one before. The act of recalling the song and basking in the enjoyment of singing it is a fun mental exercise.

Line 3: “Let’s skip the customary ice breakers. Instead, tell me something weird about you.”

Again we see the banal opener being sidestepped for a stimulating question. She’s likely to tell you something odd about herself because you’re currently nothing more than a stranger. To her, this conversation just became a quirky little game.

Line 4: “Your profile says so much about you, but I can’t help but think that I’m missing something. Before we go any further, is there anything else I should know about you?”

This request for information will likely lead to her sharing the information that she was too lazy to write in her profile. The message works because it’s flirty on a subtle level. Her profile says absolutely nothing about her. You’re playfully poking fun at how god-awful her profile is. You will surely elicit an interesting response with such a question.

Line 5: “So tell me Mariela, messages to send on dating sites. How can I make you fall in love with me?”

Yup, it’s bold, but that’s why it’ll work. The message isn’t salacious or irreverent. It’s innocent enough to messages to send on dating sites romantic. It’ll make her comb through her past experiences to figure out what it takes for her to fall in love with a guy. If she answers, she’ll be giving you the key to her heart. Now all you have to do is walk through the labyrinth to get to the door.

Line 6: “Tell me a secret” or “Tell me something you don’t want your Mom to know about you.”

There’s no better way to accelerate a bond than through the sharing of secrets. Ask her to tell you something her mother doesn’t even know about her.

Line 7: “Did you know Sarah Palin calls her husband Todd, the “First Dude”?

Pretty much any fun fact about Sarah Palin is gold, messages to send on dating sites. This one just happens to be one of the funnier ones. When in doubt, send her a random, yet funny fact.

Line 8: “What does your perfect day look like? Also… if it involves anything to do with rock climbing can I come with?”

The first question alone is a bit generic. Other dudes have probably messaged her that exact line, messages to send on dating sites. But by revealing what you like to do messages to send on dating sites learns a little bit about you, thus making you more human in her eyes and thus more worthy of a response.

Line 9: “So Jessica, tell me. What do you do for fun when you’re not flirting with strangers you met on Tinder?”

Two things are happening here. You’re showing a genuine interest in getting to know her while (hopefully) making her laugh. It’s the perfect combination of edgy and authenticity.

Line Is it just me or is Meryl Streep by far the most overrated actor?

Right though? Everyone has seen a Meryl Streep movie and thus it’ll be more or less easy for her to comment. Personally, I’d agree. She’s good, but she’s not Daniel Day Lewis.

When Her Bio Includes Info Discord lgbt dating Her Favorite Show/Series

Online Dating First Message Examples for Guys # “Love is like starting a sentence that goes nowhere and just hopes to find meaning along the way.”

Any devout follower of The Office will recognize this variation of a Michael Scott quote. Sure messages to send on dating sites dorky, but if you send this, you’ll just have combined her two most favorite things. Michael Scott and falling in love.

Line The Office Trivia: Who Said It? “Dwight you ignorant slut!”

Generally I’d say stay away from including the word slut in an online dating first message, but when it’s a The Office quote, an exception can be made. The beauty of trivia is that it works for any show. Just pick whichever show she’s interested in and make your own trivia question.

Line “Did you messages to send on dating sites Ryan Gosling and Free and new usa dating site McAdams didn’t get along at first? I never would have guessed it.”

Sure it’s cliché, but you’re bound to run across a woman who lauds The Notebook in her profile. Don’t shy away from broaching it. Always steer the conversation towards things she likes.

Line “I don’t know how I’ve made it this far without being exposed to any Game Of Thrones spoilers. Almost there!”

Spoilers are the bane of any serial series watcher. Bond over your shared ability to elude spoilers and love for one of the greatest dramas of all time. To the wall!

Line I don’t know if this is going to messages to send on dating sites out Vanessa. Roma was hands down the most overrated movie of I tried to like it, I even watched it twice, but I just couldn’t.”

There’s nothing wrong with being a bit edgy. Most men that strike up a chat online are at fault for being too agreeable. Playfully and respectfully show her that you disagree with what she’s said about her favorite movie. It’ll quickly lead to a messages to send on dating sites conversation.

When She Talks About Pizza

Online Dating First Message Examples # “Have you tried the La Regina pizza at Tony’s down in North Beach? It won the gold cup over in Italy.”

It doesn’t mater if she isn’t in San Francisco. Every foodie loves to talk about their favorite spots to eat. If she’s a pizza eater, ask her if she’s tried pizza at a particularly happening or obscure place.

Line “Did you know that pizza as we know it originated in Naples in the s? I learned that when an Italian guy yelled at me for saying that Little Caesar’s isn’t absolute garbage.

Facts are great and all but you don’t want to come off as a know-it-all. A little backstory as to why you know a certain fact creates a more well-rounded online dating first message.

When She Talks About Ice Cream

Line “I hear your favorite ice cream tells a lot about you. Judging from your interest in Phish Food I’m going to guess that you prefer an all night jam band over a rave.”

Make assumptions. Even if they’re wrong she’ll feel obligated to correct you. Just make sure those assumptions are playful.

Line “Have you tried that new place over on ‘x’ avenue? I hear its Mellow Yellow will split your tongue in half… I assume that’s a good thing.”

Get foodie with her, messages to send on dating sites. If she’s an epicurean, feed into her love of fine foods. Broaching a solid place to grab a scoop of ice cream is a nice segue into asking her out.

When She Talks About Brunch In Her Profile

Online Dating First Message Examples # “The next time you want to feel fancy while eating brunch just know that it originated in England in the 19^th century.”

Make her life feel a little bit more spectacular with an interesting fact or two. As long as you’re not coming off as arrogant, you’ve probably constructed a message worth sending.

When She Talks About Scuba Diving

Line “Your profile makes me so jealous. Can you teach me to be as cool as your?” (I’m referring to your badass scuba diving skills btw)

Flattery should only be used if it’s warranted. That being said, when scuba diving is in the picture, it’s definitely merited.

Line “I’m not gonna lie, when I was a kid and people asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up, I said scuba diver. Instead I chose to be (only insert your profession here if it’s somehow humorous in contrast to what you wanted to become).

Line Let me see if I can stump you. Which are older: great white sharks or dinosaurs?”

It’s trivia time! Put your drinks to the side and get that buzzer hand ready. It’s never a bad time for a little spontaneous trivia.

Line “Did you know mermaids smoke seaweed?”

I’ll be the first to say that this line won’t work on every woman. Only use it if she says that she’s into lame jokes or seems like the type of person that is into a lazy laugh.

Line “I was kind of bummed to hear that there are only 70ish shark attacks every year. I still think you’re super brave.”

Call her valiant, make her feel like a knight, and she’ll surely respond positively to your message in due time.

Line “Tell me something cool about scuba diving.”

When in doubt, remember to talk about a topic that she’s into. If you ask her about her passion she’ll start talking. This is free local dating without payment goal of a first message.

When Her Bio Includes Pictures Of Her Skiing/Snowboarding

Online Dating First Message Examples for Guys # “Be honest… do you beef with snowboarders?”

You’re right, it’s kind of dumb. But it’s also cute. Talking about her passion is never a free dating greenville sc call.

Line “Global warming’s a bummer. It leads to war, the washing away of islands, and makes our president sound like an idiot. But for all the bad it’ll do I’m most worried about not being able to ski on fresh power.”

Such an online dating first message only really works if you two share the same passion. Should this be the case, harp on that until you’ve got a first date. When doing so never be afraid to show a little bit of wit.

Line “Did you hit up any good mountains this past season?”

Simple and straightforward. The message shows that you read her profile and most likely share a hobby. Initial messages don’t need to be intricate. 70% of guys don’t even write initial messages that contain more than two words.

Line “My biggest fear is getting crushed by an avalanche and dating guy for a month he doesnt text much under the snow. I felt the need to share that with you.”

Addressing biggest fears right off the bat, that’s cool. It’s even better when that fear pertains to one of her hobbies.

When She Shows Off Her Pooch

Online Dating First Messages to send on dating sites Examples # “How long did it take to house train your pooch? I think my Lolita’s stench seemed into the wood floor.”

Bond over the struggles of doggy parenting.

Line “Have you ever taken your dog to Cherry Park? They just landscaped the lawn and it’s now a doggy haven.”

Careful with how you frame such a question. She’ll be leery to disclose the places she frequents to a stranger. Write this question so as to advise her to check out a certain place instead of asking if she goes there a lot.

Line “I just adopted a dog and am now going through the name process but am overwhelmed. There are like 3, quality names out there (I know I made a list). How did you decide on a dating app gamification for your pup?”

Asking for advice is never a bad way to go. Just don’t make yourself look ignorant or lazy.

Line “I just found out that dogs see in more frames per minute dating site in sweden language humans. So compared to us, dogs see in slow-mo. Despite that my dog still can’t catch a tennis ball.”

A fact followed by a humorous anecdote is a solid punch as far as online dating first messages are concerned.

Line “Have you noticed the anti-bulldog stickers posted around Brooklyn lately?”

Bring up a contentious topic concerning a subject she’s interested in. The merit of breeds is just such a topic.

Line “Did you know that petting a dog and staring into their eyes releases oxytocin?”

Sure you want to be the source of oxytocin generation but before you can get there you’ll have to woo her. The best way to do this is by first woofing her up with comments about her beloved pooch.

Line “I love “dog breed name.” I hear they “dog breed fact.”

Show her dog’s breed some love by letting her know you appreciate her pooch. Throwing in a cool fact about her dog’s breed will make you seem like a knowledgeable man.

Line “Let’s be honest. The only way this will work out is if our dogs are buddies. Sooo, doggie date?”

A recent study found that users that have a photo showcasing their furry companion have their odds of getting a woman’s phone number from 10% to 33%. There’s a reason dog is man’s best friend. There’s nothing wrong with using your pooch to score a first date. Especially not if Spot makes a friend during the process.

When She Talks About Skydiving In Her Bio

Online Dating First Free dating sites with no fees Examples # “So I mistress and slave dating site in us that you’re a messages to send on dating sites. Can you teach me your ways?”

This line works when she has showcased her skills in any extreme sport. The line is perfect because it begins with flattery and ends with a request to meet up.

Line “I randomly recently heard that the youngest person to skydive was 4 year old. That’s badass and all but I’m pretty sure his parents are now locked up.”

A mixture of fact and humor is never a bad call.

When She Showcases Her Boxing Skills

Line “I’m not going to lie, messages to send on dating sites. I honestly just thought George Foreman was a glorified grill salesman.”

Sure it’s a little silly, but sometimes silly works. Especially when the competition is messages to send on dating sites for “Hey cutie” as an online dating first message.

Line “I’m tempted to use a silly pickup line with you but I’m afraid you’ll beat me up. You kind of seem like a badass.”

Pickup lines are just about never a good idea, unless they’re unbelievably brilliant and your messages to send on dating sites message acknowledges how stupid the pickup line was. So basically, don’t use them. Be genuine and complement her non-physical features instead.

When She’s Into Cats

Line I don’t want to get nerdy on you or anything. But I just learned that a group of cats is called a clowder.”

Show her messages to send on dating sites care about her interests by talking about them. You’re also more likely to receive a response if you keep the conversation on a topic she likes.

Line “So I’m currently team dog, but I’m considering switching sides. Think you can persuade me?”

Challenge her, messages to send on dating sites. Just make sure the challenge isn’t too difficult.

When She Talks About Netflix

Online Dating First Message Examples for Guys # “Favorite show on Netflix that isn’t The Office, go!”

Not everyone scuba dives or even is the lucky parent of a K9. But surely everyone has their favorite Netflix show. It might not be the most exhilarating conversation, but it’s one that everyone can have. Keep it relatable.

Line “I just finished Big Mouth and am need of a new show. Any suggestions?”

She’ll be flattered when you ask her for her opinion. Soliciting her advice increases her self-worth is makes her feel girl, messages to send on dating sites. Well messages to send on dating sites She’s Clearly Into Travel

Line What’s the weirdest food you’ve ever eaten while on vacation?”

Nowadays there are two things everyone is into; food and travel. Combine the two to create a question and you’ll surely receive a response.

Line “What’s the coolest thing you did during your time in “France”?”

You’ll be able to tell where she’s been because of her photos or she will have written about it in her bio. Once you know where she’s been simply ask her what she enjoyed most about the city/country.

Line “Did you know that in Bora Bora putting a flower in your left ear indicates that you’re single?”

A lot of women have been to Bora Bora. Log onto Bumble and see for yourself. Any talk of their most prized vacation destination will likely result in a full blown conversation.

Line “Where’s the coolest place you’ve been outside of the USA?”

The whole purpose of an online dating first message is to get her talking. What better way to encourage chatter than to ask her about something that excites her as much as travel?

Wrap-up: Online Dating First Message Examples for Guys

The purpose of displaying the above online dating first message examples is to give you an idea of what women will respond to. As you can see, women are most likely to get back to you if you ask them a question about something their passionate about while adding some humor to your initial message.

Crafting a clever online dating first message is just one of the many components you&#;ll need learn to reach your dating goals and ultimately find the RIGHT messages to send on dating sites to settle down with. If perfectly fine if you still need a little guidance.

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What to say on dating apps when the conversation is dragging

1 “What fun things have you done recently?”

2 “Tell me more about XYZ.”

3 “So, you were saying…”

4 “I saw something that made me think of you!”

5 “What’s your opinion on…”

6 “Here’s my phone number.”

7 “What’s your favorite thing to do over the weekend?”

This is a great message for three reasons:

1) Miles leads with a compliment to my personality, rather than my face. This makes me open to what he’ll say next, because he’s showing me he’s different than those other guys.

2) He asks me a question based on a specific detail in my profile, and follows up with another broader question (bonus!).  This is excellent because Miles:

a) proves he read my profile,
b) starts a conversation about stuff we share in common,
c) reinforces further that he’s interested in my thoughts, messages to send on dating sites, not just my looks, by asking more about the stuff I’m interested in.

3) Miles shows some of his own personality by asking about my fixer-upper house.  I can tell he’s excited about the same stuff I am, which makes me excited to talk to him.

This is fuckin’ gold, Miles!

3. Start a conversation.

This might seem obvious to you and Miles, but so many guys don’t know HOW to do this!  They ask really general questions, like, “How’s your weekend going?” or “What’s up?”

These messages are the worst. 

While “How are you?” is a question, it doesn’t actually start a conversation.  I can reply, “Good. How are you?” but then we’re back where we started.  Japanese dating site in usa I never reply to these messages because they bug the shit out of me.

If you read a girl’s profile and can’t think of a question to ask her based on the information there, don’t message her at all.

A great first message jumps past pointless questions and right into specific questions.  The best questions you can ask have “long-game.”  That’s why it works so well to ask a girl about something you have in common.  When you bring up a topic you both like, you’ll both have lots to say about it, which paves the way for a longer conversation.

For example: say you and a girl are both snowboarders.  You could easily lead by asking her the question: “Where’s your favorite spot to snowboard around here?”  After she answers that, you’re probably also interested in asking how long she’s been snowboarding, messages to send on dating sites, what gear she likes, and if she has any upcoming trips planned.

Because you opened with a topic she’s interested in, too, she’ll probably ask you those questions back – plus more of her own.

That’s a lot to talk about, and that’s long-game.

To achieve this, you have to ask her questions.  The questions are the gas.  Making a statement, like, “I like snowboarding, too,” doesn’t move the conversation forward.

4. Keep it simple.

As a rule of thumb, ask one or two questions.  Some guys make the mistake of firing off a long list of questions about a whole range of topics.  This is overwhelming to girls.  And it’s time-consuming to answer ten questions!

Stick with one or two low-pressure questions that make it easy for us to respond quickly because we’re interested.  Online dating is awesome because a girl’s profile is one big list of conversation topics.  Just pick one detail you think is cool, or you’re genuinely curious about, and ask her about it.

This guy does a nice job asking an easy question based on stuff we both like: